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Is 15 st too heavy to come back from??

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Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:21

I am 32 and currently weigh 15 stone. 5’3. Had an accident and had to have surgery, sat around feeling sorry for myself and got depressed and the weight I’m at. I finally faced myself in the mirror and burst into tears. Am I being unreasonable that I’m too far gone to come back? I’d like to lose 6 stone and get back to 9 stone. Will I be left with terribly loose skin??

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suki1964 · 24/06/2024 22:43

Wantachangefor2024 · 24/06/2024 12:13

Hey guys just wondering how any of you also losing weight are getting on? Three weeks in and I’ve lost a stone. I know that it is mainly water weight, but it’s given me the buzz of this is achievable!

Thats not just water loss, that's usually the first week - maybe two - you are officially losing fat :)

And yes it really is totally achievable

And the good news from me who has lost, is post post menopause so has lost a lot of skin elasticity - my saggy bits are toning up. Still a bit of a crinkly stomach but my upper arms have toned up and the only area sthat I really dont like is the area on the inside of the elbow

Wantachangefor2024 · 24/06/2024 20:54

LuluBlakey1 · 04/06/2024 18:14

You can do it. Just make a start. I had to force myself to go to Slimming World- I thought I'd last a week. The first week I lost 5 1/2 lbs and all of a sudden a half a stone was on the horizon and I believed I could do it.

You can too. You'll feel so much more confident as well as more healthy. Bet you are back here in a month saying you have made a great start! I lost a stone the first month.

Edited

Lost a stone too this first month ☺️

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Glenthebattleostrich · 24/06/2024 20:46

6 weeks ago I was 15st 5lb and this morning I weighed in at 14 St 4.5lb. I've cut back on junk food, eating low carb Mediterranean style meals and walking lots. Also started 30 day shred this week, doing 2 days then a rest day as my calf is a bit dodgy.

I didn't set out to lose 1st in 6 weeks I aimed for under 210lb. Then under 205. My current goal is under 14st by end of term in 4 weeks. Then under 13 and a half stone by end of summer. Taking it really slow and steady.

I'm 45 and perimenopausal by the way.

Wantachangefor2024 · 24/06/2024 20:36

ThisMustBeMyDream · 04/06/2024 17:32

Nope. I'm 39. Lost 5st in just over a year. No loose skin. I've lost this amount before at 29, and again, no loose skin.
I've got 2 more st to go to a bmi of 25 and 9st 10 at 5ft 2.5.
My challenge is keeping it off! Last time I lost the weight, my ex left me after cheating (oh the irony that I was feeling the best I'd ever felt huh!). So I kept it off whilst single, but I met my now partner and we'll, he's a bloody feeder I swear. Anyway, this time my life is more stable so I'm hoping he will help me stay on the straight and narrow. Fingers crossed I can keep it off. I've made loads of little lifestyle changes that I hope will give me the ability to stay healthy.

I’ve learnt how to reply properly - my first thread. How are you getting on with the other few stone? Amazing to hear you lost such a lot and didn’t get loose skin. Its vain, but I don’t want to shift the weight and hate my skin after x

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Wantachangefor2024 · 24/06/2024 20:32

HelenaWaiting · 04/06/2024 17:26

Not at 32, you won't. I lost 10 stone between 36 and 40. Didn't have loose skin. Kept it off too. The trick is to avoid silly fad diets and anything that promises quick results. It's a change of habits, not a diet. You should also consult your GP to talk through your options. They have had great results with weight loss drugs. Try to combine with exercise. Good luck.

Just reading over this thread for inspiration to keep going and wow what an achievement. And vainly. I do care about loose skin so that’s great!

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CertainAppealToIt · 24/06/2024 18:49

Absolutely amazing op, well done! Sure some of it will be water weight but nowhere near all of it. Such a great start.

I'm still the exact same weight as the last time I posted on 5/6. However I've been on holiday in the middle (and AI 😬) so I'm just glad I haven't gained tbh. Back on it for me now though.

luckylavender · 24/06/2024 18:49

Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:21

I am 32 and currently weigh 15 stone. 5’3. Had an accident and had to have surgery, sat around feeling sorry for myself and got depressed and the weight I’m at. I finally faced myself in the mirror and burst into tears. Am I being unreasonable that I’m too far gone to come back? I’d like to lose 6 stone and get back to 9 stone. Will I be left with terribly loose skin??

2.5 years ago I was just over 15 stone. I'm taller than you though. I'm now 10 stone 5. This time I'm keeping it off too. I'm 62 and this is the smallest I've ever been. Hitting a normal BMI was immense for me. I've been doing WW, not for the first time. I feel great but I take one week at a time. And I don't let anyone derail me.

CommeUneVacheEspagnole · 24/06/2024 18:43

Wantachangefor2024 · 24/06/2024 12:13

Hey guys just wondering how any of you also losing weight are getting on? Three weeks in and I’ve lost a stone. I know that it is mainly water weight, but it’s given me the buzz of this is achievable!

That's amazing. I don't think it's mainly water weight at all.

I'm the same weight, slightly taller and want to be the same weight you do. There's a group of us. Join us https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/weightlosss_chat/5070812-5-stone-to-lose-anyhow-that-works-for-you-thread-3?page=9&reply=136254331

ReadingSoManyThreads · 24/06/2024 18:40

Well done @Wantachangefor2024 , that's a great start!!

I'm 2 weeks in and have lost 4lbs, which I'm happy with. Will keep going as I really want to get healthy again!!

SexSectionNameChange · 24/06/2024 15:56

Wantachangefor2024 · 24/06/2024 12:13

Hey guys just wondering how any of you also losing weight are getting on? Three weeks in and I’ve lost a stone. I know that it is mainly water weight, but it’s given me the buzz of this is achievable!

You’ve lost a stone in three weeks??? That’s incredible! Can you sum up in a sentence how you did it? I know it’s a cliche but did it boil down to ‘eat less and do more’?

Do you feel any different? Like, is there anything that is physically easier? Tying shoelaces, walking upstairs, something relatable like that?

What difference has it made to the fit of your clothes?

Are there any mental differences? Do you feel like you’ve got the momentum going and it’ll be easier now because you’ve already made the initial change so from now on it’s simply more of the same?

I’m so inspired by that much in a short time!

Also, what do you mean by water weight? Have you drunk less or more? Or is it simply what happens at the beginning of losing weight? I’ve heard the term before but I’ve never been quite sure what is meant by it.

Final edit - I’m 16 stone so I feel if I figure out your secret I can trail behind you, if you see what I mean.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 24/06/2024 14:30

Well done on your loss, that's brilliant and even if it was all water weight (which it won't be), it's a bloody good kick start.

Onwards and downwards!

Marine30 · 24/06/2024 14:01

One stone in three weeks is a huge achievement - well done 🙌. At week 4 def time for a reward. Easier now the sun is out and you don’t feel cheated when dinner is some sort of salad 👌

Gemi33 · 24/06/2024 12:53

Hi OP

I am the same height as you and weigh only slightly less - I feel awful but struggling to motivate myself because I have failed so many times before, I really sympathise!

xx

Beautiful3 · 24/06/2024 12:42

That's awesome @Wantachangefor2024 Well done! What a fantastic start! Just think how much more will fall off you soon! 💪 I've got another stone to go. The last bit seems harder, takes longer to get off. Keep going girl, you've got this 🙌

Wantachangefor2024 · 24/06/2024 12:13

Hey guys just wondering how any of you also losing weight are getting on? Three weeks in and I’ve lost a stone. I know that it is mainly water weight, but it’s given me the buzz of this is achievable!

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BIWI · 08/06/2024 08:12

I'd ignore the poll results @Wantachangefor2024 - I'd guess that there are plenty of people who are rather fatalistic about their own weight gain, and chances of losing it. Whereas you seem to be full of motivation and a strong desire to lose the weight.

Also, there's a phenomenon about weight that I've seen - here and in real life - where those who are overweight become jealous of those who are, but who are losing weight, and will do seemingly anything to jeopardise/sabotage their efforts.

Don't focus on the negatives! You're doing really well by being positive, and taking charge of things for yourself. Flowers

suki1964 · 08/06/2024 07:19

I certainly dont think you need any intervention.

You have a weight gain due to lifes circumstances . You have now taken a hard look at yourself and have decided to make changes , those changes can be made by changing your diet and adding some exercise

The weight didnt suddenly appear over night and you havent been obese all your life , you have got into bad habits, which I totally understand having been in the exact same position myself, and you can reverse it if you are motivated enough

Wantachangefor2024 · 08/06/2024 00:23

For those that think I’m not being unreasonable in the poll, may I ask why? Do you think it is too heavy to not need some other intervention like a gastric sleeve or injectables?

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suki1964 · 06/06/2024 00:37

Wantachangefor2024 · 05/06/2024 19:33

@CertainAppealToIt I was a little intimidated at first as I was the youngest there and most had there own little groups. But I’m sure I’ll get to know people as I go along and the plan sounds manageable vs. What an online trainer would give me as a diet plan. All the recipe swapping I was taking note and was really helpful!

SW is great for the support network it affords, as well as an easy to follow plan for life. It is for life so once you get your head about it, just make the changes you know you can live with

I myself was the biggest veg dodger whoever lived, now Im liking my veggies and if Im having a few beige days, I start to crave the veg

So when Im eating on plan, every meal contains fruit or veg, even the saturday morning bacon baguette is stuffed full of tomatoes and rocket ( no need for spread or butter , the tomatoes moisten it )

If I cant fit in veg, I at least try to get a vegetable soup in me, today it was tomato and red pepper and tomorrow its courgette and basil ( I work in a restaurant ) Actually the courgette and basil tastes of pesto so I might take a cup to have on pasta later on in the week. And thats another joy of SW, making recipes fit the diet. Like using fat free cheese spread instead of cream in sauce, blitzing onions to thicken a curry instead of coconut cream, using wraps made of just egg intead of tortilla

BobbyBiscuits · 05/06/2024 19:38

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain haha, tell me about it!
My mum loves digestives too. I'm obsessed with malted milk at the mo! 🤤

Wantachangefor2024 · 05/06/2024 19:33

@CertainAppealToIt I was a little intimidated at first as I was the youngest there and most had there own little groups. But I’m sure I’ll get to know people as I go along and the plan sounds manageable vs. What an online trainer would give me as a diet plan. All the recipe swapping I was taking note and was really helpful!

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CertainAppealToIt · 05/06/2024 18:51

What did you think of the SW meeting @Wantachangefor2024?

ThisNoisyTealLurker · 05/06/2024 18:44

No!!!! I was 15 stone and 5’7. Lost weight and got to 11 stone which was perfect for my frame. I’m now more than 15 stone but planning on losing for my wedding last year, I don’t worry about excess skin, it’s more important to lose weight for the health benefits.

BIWI · 05/06/2024 16:51

Good luck @Wantachangefor2024! Sounds like you're well and truly 'in the game' now! Flowers

Wantachangefor2024 · 05/06/2024 16:09

CertainAppealToIt · 05/06/2024 13:13

Just eat is wondering where I am

😂😂

When I started a few months ago I half expected my local Chinese to put in a welfare check 😂

🤣🤣 I know, like is this person still with us? I have been living it up, just eat everyday and if not, I go out and it’s always Italian with wine or lots of cocktails. The worst part - I don’t even like alcohol! Just another comfort. I’m actually looking forward to retreating socially and stopping in. See where I am in a month and then treat myself to one night out.

I’ve stuck to it today and been for a long dog walk which has refreshed me so I can move! Heading to my first slimming world meeting in half an hour x

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