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Is 15 st too heavy to come back from??

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Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:21

I am 32 and currently weigh 15 stone. 5’3. Had an accident and had to have surgery, sat around feeling sorry for myself and got depressed and the weight I’m at. I finally faced myself in the mirror and burst into tears. Am I being unreasonable that I’m too far gone to come back? I’d like to lose 6 stone and get back to 9 stone. Will I be left with terribly loose skin??

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Wantachangefor2024 · 23/09/2024 13:42

HelenaWaiting · 04/06/2024 17:26

Not at 32, you won't. I lost 10 stone between 36 and 40. Didn't have loose skin. Kept it off too. The trick is to avoid silly fad diets and anything that promises quick results. It's a change of habits, not a diet. You should also consult your GP to talk through your options. They have had great results with weight loss drugs. Try to combine with exercise. Good luck.

Just re-reading this thread for some inspiration. Wow ten stone and no loose skin is incredible. What help did you get from your gp?

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 20:41

ReadingSoManyThreads · 25/06/2024 19:22

Saying this with kindness, be VERY careful only having 1000 calories per day. That really isn't sustainable long-term and you may start suffering with burnout. I speak from experience!! Low calorie diets can also cause kidney damage. Really you should be looking at a minimum of 1200 - 1500 calories per day. That'll still get you a 2lb per week loss which is the healthy advised maximum.

Strength training is really good, HASfit on youtube is really good (I lost 5 stone using their workouts), using kettlebells and dumbbells, all for free at home. I did this alongside a 1200-1500/day calorie intake.

Good luck xx

No all advice is welcome. It’s just with my height, 1600 calories is maintaining weight, from what I’ve calculated. I was even tempted to do the Michael Moseley fast 800 for a few months to get going. Long term I won’t be doing it. But if I can do two months. It’s hard to weigh up isn’t it what’s more harmful, the weight or going too far in a calorie deficit. I even considered the wegovy injections, if I start to feel it’s unmanageable I will increase my calories xx

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 20:37

littlefox90 · 25/06/2024 18:59

Absolutely possible 😊 I lost weight through diet and joining some fitness groups, I did pole fit and summer class thing that was a free community thing once a week. I cut out most high saturated stuff. You've totally got this

You look great, thanks of sharing, proves it can be done x

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CheeseyOnionPie · 25/06/2024 19:39

Nope. Not at all. It won’t be easy but you can get halfway there in about 4-5 months and the whole way there within a year. The time will go by anyway whether you’re trying to lose weight or not.

littlefox90 · 25/06/2024 19:28

littlefox90 · 25/06/2024 18:59

Absolutely possible 😊 I lost weight through diet and joining some fitness groups, I did pole fit and summer class thing that was a free community thing once a week. I cut out most high saturated stuff. You've totally got this

There is also a really good free app called myfitness pal. It helps you work out a safe amount of calories plus helps keep track of them

ReadingSoManyThreads · 25/06/2024 19:22

Saying this with kindness, be VERY careful only having 1000 calories per day. That really isn't sustainable long-term and you may start suffering with burnout. I speak from experience!! Low calorie diets can also cause kidney damage. Really you should be looking at a minimum of 1200 - 1500 calories per day. That'll still get you a 2lb per week loss which is the healthy advised maximum.

Strength training is really good, HASfit on youtube is really good (I lost 5 stone using their workouts), using kettlebells and dumbbells, all for free at home. I did this alongside a 1200-1500/day calorie intake.

Good luck xx

littlefox90 · 25/06/2024 18:59

Absolutely possible 😊 I lost weight through diet and joining some fitness groups, I did pole fit and summer class thing that was a free community thing once a week. I cut out most high saturated stuff. You've totally got this

Is 15 st too heavy to come back from??
Is 15 st too heavy to come back from??
SexSectionNameChange · 25/06/2024 18:54

Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 17:53

Thank you! I feel more positive than I did a few weeks ago like this is achievable now! And I’m quite a cynical person so would have thought that was impossible. I haven’t really moved much, I’m simply too unfit. I’ve done a short twenty minute walk everyday - that’s how bad I’ve got. But I’ve completely cut sugar out of my diet. For me. More than food. Sugar was my issue. And I’m starting to say was. Not is. I’m talking four full fat cans of coke a day addiction. Every day that has gone by. I’ve not wanted it as much. Which then makes a healthier meal choice easier. I’ve never smoked but I equate it to giving up smoking. Feel like I’ve abused my body and got away with it up to now - no fillings in my teeth, no diabetes or cholesterol. I realised I had to change. Not should. You can too girl!

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Sugar is my thing too unfortunately. I find it impossible to cut down, but I have successfully cut it out quite a few times.

SexSectionNameChange · 25/06/2024 18:52

Dita73 · 05/06/2024 04:40

You can definitely do it. Loose skin is less likely to happen if you lose weight gradually but even if it does happen it can go. A few years ago I lost over 8 stone very quickly. The top picture is about 6 months after losing it. The second picture is after 2 years. It just snapped back. It took a while but it did happen. I had no strict exercise regime or anything like that (I’m too lazy!). I just kept the weight off and my body seemed to sort itself out. Just to add,I was 46 when I lost the weight. Best wishes to you

Those pictures are an eye opener! I wonder if it’s your genetics too as some people are left with so much overhanging skin.

Haveyouseenmyinsertitemhere · 25/06/2024 18:44

I lost 4.5 stone and have 0 loose skin. I'm hoping to lose another stone but its not happening!

So just get started and see how you go.

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 18:41

Hagpie · 25/06/2024 18:14

I was a size 20 in 2017 and now a size 6-8.

Just walk, drink some water and remember - we ADD to our diets, we don’t take away. We want more fruit and veg; a bit of cake does not make you a failure. I have never counted calories in my life and never had any interest in fad diets. Just make the best decisions you can, by the day.

I do have a teeny bit of loose skin on my tummy but that’s due to 3 pregnancies, not fat. As of a couple months ago, I started wearing crop tops again and I promise no one notices/cares.

To end up in a size 8 is a massive achievement! I’m really focusing on how nice clothes shopping will be in the future. It’s torture at the minute. I’m not going to buy any new clothes until I’ve shifted a few stone. I feel I do need to stick to calorie counting for now just to kick start me and check myself that I’m not accidentally having too much.

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 18:14

@Dita73 wow what a difference between those two photos! You look great. Proves your skin will catch up with your new weight eventually! Thanks for sharing that it spurred me on. I’m covered in stretch marks from before I even gained any weight in puberty and I just think I’m going to make the best version of who I can be xx

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Hagpie · 25/06/2024 18:14

I was a size 20 in 2017 and now a size 6-8.

Just walk, drink some water and remember - we ADD to our diets, we don’t take away. We want more fruit and veg; a bit of cake does not make you a failure. I have never counted calories in my life and never had any interest in fad diets. Just make the best decisions you can, by the day.

I do have a teeny bit of loose skin on my tummy but that’s due to 3 pregnancies, not fat. As of a couple months ago, I started wearing crop tops again and I promise no one notices/cares.

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 18:12

@BIWI you were so right about other people trying to sabotage others, when I told family and friends I’d basically be self isolating and only going out on the odd treat day I was told not possible. Unrealistic. But I’ve actually enjoyed my own mini lockdown! Locking the rubbish away. Every day is getting easier without my sugary treats

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 18:10

@murmuration you were so right about telling me I had to be in a positive mind. I got really down when I looked at myself. But since I’ve accepted I’ve done what I’ve done to my body. Now do something about it. I feel lighter just from that mindset!

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 18:08

@Elphamouche I’d love to join forces. How are you getting along? I don’t even have the excuse of a baby though! Just sheer laziness and bad habits deeply engrained. It’s the undoing of the daily Starbucks and eating out. I had a migraine for the first five days my body was crying for sugar

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 18:04

PaminaMozart · 25/06/2024 06:59

Sugar is my biggest downfall and if I could kick the addiction. Half my battle would be won

Read THE SUGAR SOLUTION by Dr Mark Hyman. A succinct explanation of the physiological effects if sugar and actionable advice on how to combat sugar 'addiction' - plus some good recipes.

Dr Becky Gillaspy on YouTube has lots of short talks about sugar and how to learn to live without it.

Thank you I’ll take a look. Sugar was my main problem, I was like a crack addict for it. Its only after three weeks that its slowly bating down the craving for it

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 18:03

@MrsSkylerWhite you telling me your stomach was like a drum after losing weight was the biggest boost to me thinking I can get my stomach back to how it used to look. Maybe not perfectly, but better than now. I’m a stone down in three weeks so I feel like I’m on the right path. I need to build my fitness up I think that will be harder than the eating side

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Dillydollydingdong · 25/06/2024 18:01

No, it's not too far. I went up to 16st and lost 4 st at Slimming World. It takes time. Be patient but have faith.

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 18:00

@CertainAppealToIt and I’ve enjoyed going to slimming world. I sound dim just can’t get my head fully around the “free” food bit as I’m really strict calorie counting

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 17:58

@UnicornAndSparkles that’s a great loss. How are you getting along?

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 17:53

SexSectionNameChange · 24/06/2024 15:56

You’ve lost a stone in three weeks??? That’s incredible! Can you sum up in a sentence how you did it? I know it’s a cliche but did it boil down to ‘eat less and do more’?

Do you feel any different? Like, is there anything that is physically easier? Tying shoelaces, walking upstairs, something relatable like that?

What difference has it made to the fit of your clothes?

Are there any mental differences? Do you feel like you’ve got the momentum going and it’ll be easier now because you’ve already made the initial change so from now on it’s simply more of the same?

I’m so inspired by that much in a short time!

Also, what do you mean by water weight? Have you drunk less or more? Or is it simply what happens at the beginning of losing weight? I’ve heard the term before but I’ve never been quite sure what is meant by it.

Final edit - I’m 16 stone so I feel if I figure out your secret I can trail behind you, if you see what I mean.

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Thank you! I feel more positive than I did a few weeks ago like this is achievable now! And I’m quite a cynical person so would have thought that was impossible. I haven’t really moved much, I’m simply too unfit. I’ve done a short twenty minute walk everyday - that’s how bad I’ve got. But I’ve completely cut sugar out of my diet. For me. More than food. Sugar was my issue. And I’m starting to say was. Not is. I’m talking four full fat cans of coke a day addiction. Every day that has gone by. I’ve not wanted it as much. Which then makes a healthier meal choice easier. I’ve never smoked but I equate it to giving up smoking. Feel like I’ve abused my body and got away with it up to now - no fillings in my teeth, no diabetes or cholesterol. I realised I had to change. Not should. You can too girl!

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Wantachangefor2024 · 25/06/2024 17:47

CertainAppealToIt · 24/06/2024 18:49

Absolutely amazing op, well done! Sure some of it will be water weight but nowhere near all of it. Such a great start.

I'm still the exact same weight as the last time I posted on 5/6. However I've been on holiday in the middle (and AI 😬) so I'm just glad I haven't gained tbh. Back on it for me now though.

I’ve actually enjoyed having me time. Collagen powder in a tea with a book. Moisturising and body brushing instead of a quick ten minute shower. I feel it all must help just getting reacquainted with my body in a strange way!

A holiday is really tough, you’ve done well! I’ve told friends I’ll be missing in action this summer. I need this time to get me back and I cant socialise as I know I’ll fall off the wagon. I’ve done three weeks on 1000 calories so why im motivated I want to keep going x

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PaminaMozart · 25/06/2024 06:59

Sugar is my biggest downfall and if I could kick the addiction. Half my battle would be won

Read THE SUGAR SOLUTION by Dr Mark Hyman. A succinct explanation of the physiological effects if sugar and actionable advice on how to combat sugar 'addiction' - plus some good recipes.

Dr Becky Gillaspy on YouTube has lots of short talks about sugar and how to learn to live without it.

murmuration · 25/06/2024 06:40

Wantachangefor2024 · 24/06/2024 12:13

Hey guys just wondering how any of you also losing weight are getting on? Three weeks in and I’ve lost a stone. I know that it is mainly water weight, but it’s given me the buzz of this is achievable!

Congratulations @Wantachangefor2024 ! That's a great start!

I've actually just ticked into BMI being purely Overweight rather than Obese this morning! I know there are all sorts of issues with BMI, but it's great thinking I'm now just overweight and not obese :)

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