I have 4 children all late teens to early 20s and all live at home.
My eldest moved out briefly a couple of years ago and we barely heard from him texts would go unanswered for days and calls never answered and I'd spend days wondering what was going on and then he'd call and act perfectly happy and normal and say he hadn't seen calls or texts even though he's always glued to his phone and then I'd feel things were ok again just for the same cycle again then he moved back home because he was struggling with the rent and in his own words he was lonely by himself.
He is polite enough at home but sometimes he'll go away for a week to visit his extended family/friends in our home town and we won't hear from him until he's back.
He's pleasant when we do see him but I feel he's unreachable when we don't.
He's the eldest of 4 and I feel like he's slipping away is this just what happens when they grow up or is this a sign he will always be low contact and unavailable?
Sometimes I just think it's rude but then I do try and keep up a good relationship with him.
He doesn't bother to acknowledge birthdays anymore for anyone.
He has one brother and two sisters and we're still as close as ever and I don't feel like I have to try so hard with them.