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Family kept illness secret before GCSE’s

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Happyharry2003 · 04/06/2024 12:50

Hi
im just wondering if IBU as my family say I am but they have a history of telling me i overreact.

My daughter is in the middle of her GCSE’s. On Sunday we went to a family party to celebrate her cousins birthday.

Today her sister woke up with a sickness bug.

I have since found out one of the children at the gathering (10 adults and kids in total) went to doctor and hospital friday and Saturday due to being unwell and dehydrated. Subsequently, their whole family came down with a vomiting bug yesterday. Nobody told me anything.

if I had been told anyone was ill I would not have attended with my daughters. The adults at the party were aware how important these exams are to my youngest daughter and chose not to mention the cousins illness prior to us arriving. They only mentioned the cousin being under the weather just as we left.

I am so disappointed that this was kept from me and also that no one thought it important enough to give me the option of not attending due to GCSE’s. I told a family member how sad this has made me feel and how anxious my youngest now is that she might catch this vomiting bug right in the middle of the exams. I was told I was being ridiculous and that she could always resit them another time.

aibu?

OP posts:
endofthelinefinally · 04/06/2024 13:01

We had an invite to a family birthday. (In Laws, so I usually make an effort to be polite). I am immunosuppressed. They know this. My illness already causes a degree of pain, fatigue and disability. They know this too.
About halfway through the meal someone mentioned that they had all been ill with D&V and the couple who just arrived had been hospitalised.
They are still sulking because we left.

3luckystars · 04/06/2024 12:58

I had a friend who used to do things like this, she is not a friend anymore. Extremely thoughtless.

PandaCwtch · 04/06/2024 12:57

I was told I was being ridiculous and that she could always resit them another time.

What a shocking attitude to your child's education. Resitting is a pain - you can't just resit at a time to suit you! Your daughter has presumably prepared for exams being this week. She won't want to have to redo all that preparation.

yeesh · 04/06/2024 12:56

This is the sort of thing my sister does, I don’t see her very much as a result. I can’t trust her

HumerousHumous · 04/06/2024 12:56

That is appalling not telling you, op. How can they this is acceptable? They possibly just didn't think, but still...

I would definitely be speaking to those family members about it, even if your DD (hopefully) stays well.

Good luck to her for the exams. 🙏🏻🤞🏻

Original poster
Happyharry2003 · 04/06/2024 12:56

Phew thanks all! Just to clarify the illness didn’t present in the very young child as a sickness bug but as dehydration/temp but even so I would expect to have been given the choice. The fact the rest of them now have sickness, dehydration and temps suggests it’s all the same thing.

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RockAndRollerskate · 04/06/2024 12:52

What the fuck! I’d be fuming!

mountaingoatsarehairy · 04/06/2024 12:52

Jesus ! That is awful. Stick your family on the naughty step for a year. That is a massive fuck up on their part.

also anyone who excuses it is just as bad. ‘Just resit GSCEs????

Rainydayinlondon · 04/06/2024 12:52

Not a bit unreasonable. Your family are utterly selfish. Fingers crossed your daughter doesn’t succumb… hopefully the longer the time since Sunday, the less likely it is

Nottherealslimshady · 04/06/2024 12:52

YANBU you inform people of a sickness bug before socialising with them. It's common sense and common courtesy.
PILs once invited us round for dinner then told us it was the first thing they'd been able to keep down as they'd had it coming out both ends for 2 days. We started that evening.

I don't know if those people are thick or selfish .

Fatotter · 04/06/2024 12:52

Disgusting behaviour from your family. Feels like sabotage. Idiots.

Hope your DD stays well and aces her exams.

MrsPerfect12 · 04/06/2024 12:52

YANBU!! That's bloody awful and no she can't just resit when she should be focused on the next chapter instead. They're twats.

pikkumyy77 · 04/06/2024 12:51

Its absolutely awful. You are right!