Family kept illness secret before GCSE’s

How were her results @Happyharry2003

Keep us posted. We want to know how your daughter gets on and we’ll all lobby on her behalf to the examining board if needs be. Also,we want every detail of how your squirming relatives are desperately, grovelingly apologizing to you for their unforgivably stupid, thoughtless and utterly selfish behaviour. I did think this post would be picked up by the daily mail and your relatives would get a taste of what people thought of their actions.

I’m concerned that her best while poorly isn’t anywhere near her best while she’s well and not puking..
I hope she gets fab results.
I hope the rest of you are also better now

There’s something awful about a young person trying hard and facing the first most important academic challenge in her life being sabotaged by selfish idiots. Their comments about re-takes and minimising made my blood boil.

This thread is making me quite emotional and angry. How fucking dare they treat you like you’re in the wrong.

Best of luck to your daughter. How much allowance will the exam board give for sickness?

I would cut the family off, especially if they have form for being like this.

Just read this and wow.

Absolute respectfully to you OP there is no way I could have managed your self control.

I hope you have a restful weekend and exam has gone ok.

It's a story for my own thread perhaps but this is a stark remark that concentrating on your nuclear family sometimes is the right thing to do. I'm like you and try to do everything for no thanks. And scenarios like this.

Wishing you well.

I agree with them deserving a good slap. For showing complete disregard for your DD, by glibly saying she can re-take! What absolute arseholes they are. Don't they actually understand it's not that simple (if it's even possible depending on subject!). They may not care about education, but the OP and her immediate family clearly do care. Not only that, but re-taking means having to spend all that time revising again - all because some complete idiot is a selfish git. This is exactly the kind of thing that would make me go no contact with someone who did that. Today's youngsters have so much to put up with - they really don't need this kind of hand grenade thrown at them.

Well done for getting through it and supporting your daughter.

I'd struggle to let this go with family.

I literally have no tolerance for people who spread norovirus - the principle of staying away from other people for 48 hours is a no fucking brainer.

I'd be absolutely furious that they've put you all in this situation. Poor DD, what a star she's been.

Well I’m impressed that you’re clearly steeling yourself and soldiering on very impressively and your daughter sounds amazing - quite how she was able to actually do those exams with the bug i cant imagine.
Please show your family this thread and come back to tell us how contrite they are. I cannot remember the last time a post on mumsnet made my blood boil like this one.

My 19 year old son was vomiting on Saturday, he had been out for a couple of afternoon pints with my husband and had not eaten. That may have been the reason but he also may have been starting with a bug. I phoned my parents and told them in case they were going to call in. Nobody wants to visit anyone if any illness is lurking in the household.

Well done to you all for getting through this miserable time!

Common sense seems to have totally gone out the window, you are right to be annoyed with your family. The birthday party could have been delayed till everyone was well.

I'd be livid

@Happyharry2003 I haven't RTFT, just your posts as I really wanted to know how your daughter was. I'm so sorry. I am in tears for you. That is truly toxic of them. Your daughter's school sounds amazing, and so does your DD for having the determination to sit her exams. I hope your daughters are better soon and that the rest of you don't come down with it. Your family has behaved appallingly. Don't let them gaslight you. Massive unmumsnetty hugs x

So sorry she came down with the bug. The school sound brilliant - glad they've been so understanding. Bless her heart, though. I'm glad she's managing to get through the exams but it's not ideal, is it? Hope she's over the worst of it today.

Just seen your update. Hope your DD gets well soon and does well in the exams. She deserves to after all this.

Definitely not! 😂🤦‍♀️ What a truly thoughtless and gaslighting bunch they are.

What sort of person brings a sick child to a gathering putting everyone at risk of hospitalisation?!

And GCSE results are essential to get into college. Some are not happy with retakes even.

However if your lovely DD does get sick, this can be taken into account so please make her realise if she misses an exam due to illness, she can be kept in isolation and retake or the grade can be worked out from other sources such as mocks or other papers.

Good luck with English Language P2 today ☺️

Are you being unreasonable?
No youre not!!
What a selfish thing for them to do.
Hoping your DD stays well🙏

Well done OP and well done your daughter for being so brave!

Your family - well there are no words. They'll be trying to make themselves feel better. Just ignore them for a bit. You don't have to reply. Or talk to them. Just say 'busy at the moment with the exams, so can't talk'. Mute the chats if on whatapp.

If they had a shred of decency they would feel guilty without you making them. They are vile people who think only of themselves and how they feel. If DD manages to do as she hoped before catching this they will no doubt say it was alright in the end and a line should be drawn under it. What they've put DD and your family and others through for their selfishness is disgusting.

I'm so sorry. What a bunch of self centred idiots. And whining that YOU'RE making them feel guilty.

I'd stay silent for now and focus on your DCs. When they're better and the exams are all over, I'd write out a clear, calm reasonable statement of exactly what your family did.

It was their choice to behave in this thoughtless and irresponsible way, knowing there was sickness in their house, that your daughter has anxiety linked with ASD, and the huge importance of GCSEs at this age, plus minimising, dismissing and attempting to turn it onto you as the bad guy making them feel bad.

They need to hear this and the consequences of their behaviour has made your poor DC's feel dreadful. Having to sit unmissable exams in isolation with a sick bucket? That was on them.

I'd let them know you and the dcs require an acknowledgement and an apology - but somehow I don't think they'll see it.