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Health visitor is a waste of time

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WhenSunnyGetsBlue · 04/06/2024 12:18

A need a little rant.

I'm getting seriously wound up by my health visitor. I see absolutely no point in going to the appointments, she is completely incompetent.

The centre is a 40 minute walk away, so it takes a fair amount of effort to get there and back. It started when my daughter was 5 days old and I had to walk to the appointment with my stitches. I mean surely it's in the name Health 'visitor'.

At every appointment she has been useless with broken English. I find her incredibly patronising. She takes phonecalls during appointments, and is generally rude and judgy in my opinion.

I got a phonecall from her yesterday saying, "you've missed your appointment again" in a condescending voice. (For ref, the first appointment she cancelled, not me). I asked her what appointment. She hadn't notified me, no text, no letter. Nothing. She then said I had to attend an appointment today at 1pm (less than 24 h notice).

I know it's a little thing, but I really can't wait until we don't have to see her any more. What are other people's experiences? Am I being oversensitive? Anyway....I better wake my baby up from her nap to go this appointment now otherwise we will be in trouble for being late!

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stressedespresso · 04/06/2024 12:20

Mine was so condescending (and lacking in the brain cell department) that I told her to please leave my house and not to come back. No regrets!

Lifelessordinary1 · 04/06/2024 12:20

Medical services are voluntary - you can stop seeing her and do not need to give a reason.

fedupandstuck · 04/06/2024 12:20

You don't have to go to see the health visitor if you don't want to. Just phone their main number and tell them that you will only be attending the child development check appointments from now on.

Neverstophulaing · 04/06/2024 12:20

My youngest is 8 and HV used to come to your house btw.

Neverstophulaing · 04/06/2024 12:19

You don't have to go. You don't have to see her.

EmilyTjP · 04/06/2024 12:19

Do you have to see her? Is a health visitor mandatory?

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