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Boyfriend’s bizarre underwear routine?

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:42

I recently moved in with BF. I have since discovered that he only changes his underwear after he showers in the evening and doesn’t replace them with a new pair each morning after sleeping in them. I think this is very strange and that each time you get dressed for the day you should change your underwear.

I haven’t lived with a man for a long time so I guess I could be unreasonable to think this way?

YABU - he is still changing them daily so no issue

YANBU - he should change them when getting dressed in the morning

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BobbyBiscuits · 04/06/2024 09:58

If that's his only shower of the day, then I guess the way to unweird it might be if he changed into pyjama bottoms/sleep shorts for bed then donned clean undies in the morning?
Could you say you like him wearing certain things in bed, he looks hot in it etc. or you could say wearing undies in bed is a turn off?
I guess you can't force him to wear it but you could suggest.

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:53

I’m mostly a morning shower-er too so I guess I’m struggling to relate to the routine here

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Summertimer · 04/06/2024 09:51

I think sleeping in underwear is fine but I’d have thought it would be looseish boxers that were only ever nightwear rather than regular underwear/pants.

I’m morning shower person as is DH, but our DS sometimes has his shower at bedtime. Says it’s more relaxing. All of us change undies if we shower, including before going out showers

solitarymonster · 04/06/2024 09:49

me and DH always sleep in underwear and yes it is changed in the evening after a shower. I just cannot imagine getting into bed dirty from the day, urgh, I always shower before bed and have a good wash in the morning and re-apply deodorant

OrlandointheWilderness · 04/06/2024 09:48

Well I think each to their own - personally I can't bear clothing to sleep in and DP is the same, however I know lots of people are very different!

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:46

I don’t think it’s related to minimising laundry and when I asked he said ‘what’s the point’. Yes he sleeps just in a pair of boxers (unless he has had reason to take them off in bed lol) - I actually thought this was normal but am I wrong on that too 🤣🤷🏼‍♀️

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 09:46

OrlandointheWilderness · 04/06/2024 09:44

He sleeps in underwear?!

It's not unusual, my DP sleeps in boxers, I sleep in my pants

Mumblechum0 · 04/06/2024 09:45

OrlandointheWilderness · 04/06/2024 09:44

He sleeps in underwear?!

My thoughts exactly.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 09:45

I don't understand showering in the evening only, can't imagine you'd feel very fresh the next morning and ready for the day. Shower at night if I'm particularly grubby from the day but always, always shower in the morning with fresh underwear

Revelatio · 04/06/2024 09:44

What’s the alternative? Changing underwear twice a day? I change after a shower, but I shower in the morning. If I have two showers then I would change at night too.

OrlandointheWilderness · 04/06/2024 09:44

He sleeps in underwear?!

Beautifulbythebay · 04/06/2024 09:44

Is he cutting down on laundry costs or just a lazy buggar?

Jennyathemall · 04/06/2024 09:43

Yes it’s weird.