Boyfriend’s bizarre underwear routine?

Of course that's normal. That what DH and I do.

How are you all getting so dirty from having a shower, going to sleep and waking up in the morning that you need fresh underpants when you wake up? 😳

I put new underwear on in the morning and then it stays on all night until I shower and change it the next day.

No different to the situation described in the OP really

Well it's a bit like putting your trousers on at night after a shower and then getting up and going to work in them....

Yep. A real issue isn't it? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Lots of red flags here. Time to have a good hard think about your relationship. You deserve so much better than this weird behaviour.

My H has slept in his underwear for as long as I have known him. Changes them morning and evening, regardless of when he showers, which is at least once a day.

I sleep in pyjamas. I do not wear anything under them. I would find that uncomfortable and not conducive to sleep. I wear a clean set daily.

My dh (stbxh) will fall asleep on the sofa in his clothes and wake up the next morning and go straight out to work. God help the other bus passengers.

I sleep in underwear! I put on clean after evening bath and clean in the morning but couldn’t put my pj’s on with no underwear .

@pinkdelight
I was expecting some really whacky underpant ritual.

Me too. Disappointing, OP 😆

Seriously though... isn't it different for men? Especially wearing loose-ish boxers. Not the same as having knickers right next to a vagina which understandably need to be changed more frequently. (Sorry if that's a bit graphic!)

I shower at night and have one pair for bed, a new one in the morning.

BUT I don't think it's that weird? Lots of people shower in the morning, wear underwear all day and then sleep in that same pair, it's only the same but the other way round isn't it? In fact it's surely cleaner this way?

Some people don’t shower in the morning because they start work very early. My son starts at 5am so showering at 4am would wake everyone up. He showers at night. I’ve no idea what he does underwear wise but if you had a really physical job, I’d not sure you would bother if you only changed at night. It’s not that outlandish to be honest.

Genuine question – if you sleep naked, do you change your sheets every day? I presume that you must do. If you change your clothes every day, then by the same logic you need to change your bedding every day if you’ve been sleeping with your naked body rubbing against them. Otherwise it’s gross and unhygienic.

Because when it’s my week to do the washing I’m aware if there’s 14 or 28 pairs of boxers in the wash that week.

Why to buggery do you crazy people know how often your DHs and adult DSs change pants? How can someone else's pants be a part of your life?

You don’t wear underwear to bed?? That’s weird.

My husband is a night showerer, common in his culture to go to bed 'clean', he wears a new pair of underwear to bed and doesn't change them in the morning.
But he doesn't sweat like I often do in the night. If he does for some reason then he'd re shower in the morning and change again.
In contrast, he finds it odd that I go to bed 'dirty' from my day. Just different upbringings etc. Neither of us is smelly or gross.

This really. He’s doing the same thing as everyone else, just at a different time. I admit to even thinking it a bit gross myself at first before using a bit of common sense and reasoning my way through it. I have noticed on mn that a lot of people think you get really gross when you sleep at night, which I don’t think is true for most people either. Surely a normal daily of school runs, commutes, work, housework etc gets you dirtier and smellier than just lying in bed? People on here are weird

It's up to him, other people's nightwear and shower timings routines are up to them.

I would say a daily shower and a daily pair of fresh undies is decent or better compared to a lot of men- you're winning.

That's weird (speaking as a man)

The issue here imo isn't sleeping in underwear; it's wearing the same pair for 24 hours. That's what I'd find off-putting. I don't wear day clothes to bed, and equally I don't wear the same underwear in bed that I've been wearing all day; I change into a fresh pair of big comfy nighttime knicks.

I used to do this on beach holidays. Come back to the hotel, shower, clean clothes, dinner. Next morning put on swimsuit.

My DH is the same Op, it’s all completely normal.

If he showered in the mornings and changed his underwear then, would that be OK? Cause he would be wearing the same underwear 24h. So same as now.

And wearing underwear to bed is normal. As is showering in the evenings. But to be fair I'm absolutely disgusting in MN standards cause I don't shower twice a day, change the sheets twice a week and don't change the towels after evey use and I might even wear the same t shirt more than once.

Some of the comments here are bonkers. It’s not weird to wear underwear in bed, and suggesting otherwise is causing a problem where there doesn’t need to be one. It all comes down to personal preference, it isn’t a rule.

OP don’t worry about what’s ’normal’, the only issue is if you have concerns over his hygiene, be it now or at any part of the relationship. No concerns? Then party on

He sounds clean enough to me, and if he doesn't smell, then all good.
But then, my bar was set very low by a particularly minging exh.