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Boyfriend’s bizarre underwear routine?

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:42

I recently moved in with BF. I have since discovered that he only changes his underwear after he showers in the evening and doesn’t replace them with a new pair each morning after sleeping in them. I think this is very strange and that each time you get dressed for the day you should change your underwear.

I haven’t lived with a man for a long time so I guess I could be unreasonable to think this way?

YABU - he is still changing them daily so no issue

YANBU - he should change them when getting dressed in the morning

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inamarina · 04/06/2024 15:31

2Rebecca · 04/06/2024 13:56

The sleeping in pants bit would put me off more than the not washing them.

How is someone else sleeping in pants off putting?

inamarina · 04/06/2024 15:29

TuesdayWhistler · 04/06/2024 14:41

Im always extremely shocked by the amount of laundry Mumsnet users aim they HAVE to do.

I'm now seeing why so many people have such huge piles.

The earth is knackered, but hey, gotta wash everything after 7 hours wear.. 🙄🙄🙄

Agree.

inamarina · 04/06/2024 15:27

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 14:19

Surely you can tell by the number of pants in the wash!

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I never count the pants in the wash.

LadeOde · 04/06/2024 15:11

Portfun24 · 04/06/2024 12:32

My husband does this, never understood it. He showers after work, clean boxers on then doesn't change till he gets his showered the next day after work. He's a tradesman and always says what's the point I'm putting a clean bum etc in it and going to do messy work the next morning. Clean underwear when he showers in the mornings when no work obviously though or on holiday in morning and after shower in the evening.

Its different I suppose for women with pants.

Seriously, you don't get why your DH who is a tradesman prefers to shower as soon as he gets home from work & changes his underwear until the next day again..you really can't understand that preference (as opposed to showering every morning) in relation to his physically exerting job?

ItsFuckingBoringFeedingEveryoneUntilYouDie · 04/06/2024 15:10

Luminousalumnus · 04/06/2024 13:12

Why to buggery do you crazy people know how often your DHs and adult DSs change pants? How can someone else's pants be a part of your life?

Because at some point about 20 years ago made a throwaway comment about the number of pairs of pants in the laundry basket. H informed me he changes them twice a day and if he has done sport, maybe 3x. Other than answering this thread, I have never actively considered it since.

S18 still lives at home so the same thing with large numbers of pairs of pants leads me to assume he changes his as often. Ditto with thought that has gone into it.

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 15:00

Luminousalumnus · 04/06/2024 13:12

Why to buggery do you crazy people know how often your DHs and adult DSs change pants? How can someone else's pants be a part of your life?

I just happened to wake up this morning at 5 when he got up and saw him, then asked about it. I guess the 5am start is a contributory factor too

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 14:55

GooseClues · 04/06/2024 14:32

I bet the BF is complaining to a friend right now that his GF just moved in, doesn’t shower in the evening and gets in bed dirty, not even putting on a fresh pair of undies/pjs and how grim it is 😂

I mean the above half jokingly. Unless you change your pants twice a day you are a bit weird for criticising his hygiene.

Haha that would be absolutely valid I suppose. For me, the question was whether or not it was odd to wear the same undies all night and then to work the next day. I don’t think he’s dirty or unhygienic I just found it a bit strange! I do tend to shower in the morning, put on a fresh pair then change into something else after work so I probably do change twice a day personally but I think I could be the odd one one for that. I don’t just wear my work clothes to bed.

I don’t find it weird that he wears underwear to bed at all only that he keeps them on for the next 24h.

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TuesdayWhistler · 04/06/2024 14:41

Im always extremely shocked by the amount of laundry Mumsnet users aim they HAVE to do.

I'm now seeing why so many people have such huge piles.

The earth is knackered, but hey, gotta wash everything after 7 hours wear.. 🙄🙄🙄

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 14:38

They must be pissing the bed I heard its common with karens

What does this even mean?

GooseClues · 04/06/2024 14:32

I bet the BF is complaining to a friend right now that his GF just moved in, doesn’t shower in the evening and gets in bed dirty, not even putting on a fresh pair of undies/pjs and how grim it is 😂

I mean the above half jokingly. Unless you change your pants twice a day you are a bit weird for criticising his hygiene.

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 14:26

As long as you wash/shower once a day and change your underwear that’s fine, unless you are a prolific sweater, have leaking wounds, a skin condition , indulging in sexual activity, or are incontinent! It’s just a waste of water and electricity otherwise. I don't smell.
Similarly, once a week wash for bedding and towels, unless you want to make work for yourselves.

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 14:19

Tummytroubles22 · 04/06/2024 11:00

I have been married for 18 years and just realised I have no idea if DH does this, he showers at night and put clean boxers on for bed but I don’t know if he changes them when he dresses again in the morning. He doesn’t shower before work as he leaves at 4/5 am but he’s not sweaty I’ve never once thought he was whiffy unless after a full days manual labour on a hot day. He would go straight in the shower after work anyway.

Surely you can tell by the number of pants in the wash!

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 14:13

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 09:45

I don't understand showering in the evening only, can't imagine you'd feel very fresh the next morning and ready for the day. Shower at night if I'm particularly grubby from the day but always, always shower in the morning with fresh underwear

Why do you need to shower again in the morning? Unless you’re incontinent it’s a waste of water and energy! You only need a quick wash imo.

sugarapplelane · 04/06/2024 14:12

I’m a shower at night person. I like my bed so want to stay in it as long as possible in the morning. Saves me time in the mornings

horses for courses and all that.

UnctuousUnicorns · 04/06/2024 14:08

Jc2001 · 04/06/2024 14:05

No they said they shower once a day so it's exactly the same.

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Ah, yes, sorry, I misread it. 😳

Jc2001 · 04/06/2024 14:05

UnctuousUnicorns · 04/06/2024 14:00

But you're showering twice in 24 hours, changing your underwear each time. The OP's BF is showering once and wearing the same pair for 24 hours. So not the same.

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No they said they shower once a day so it's exactly the same.

UnctuousUnicorns · 04/06/2024 14:05

Jc2001 · 04/06/2024 13:59

PJs 😂i didn't think anyone under 70 wore them.

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Are you 12? Of course plenty of adults wear pyjamas or nightdresses etc., and of course not all of them are OAPs. There are some right weird attitudes on this place!

UnctuousUnicorns · 04/06/2024 14:00

gavreline · 04/06/2024 13:46

I shower at night and wear clean underwear afterwards. I sleep in my underwear (pants not bra) then I keep the underwear on until I shower again the next evening. So basically the same as OP's BF. Seems normal to me.

But you're showering twice in 24 hours, changing your underwear each time. The OP's BF is showering once and wearing the same pair for 24 hours. So not the same.

Jc2001 · 04/06/2024 13:59

Fatotter · 04/06/2024 10:31

Don’t wear underwear at night.

Nightie for me and pajama shorts for DH. These get washed after every use too.

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PJs 😂i didn't think anyone under 70 wore them.

JackieGoodman · 04/06/2024 13:56

What's the issue? He's showering and changing underwear daily just at a different time to you? Personal preference really.

2Rebecca · 04/06/2024 13:56

The sleeping in pants bit would put me off more than the not washing them.

FunnysInLaJardin · 04/06/2024 13:49

Luminousalumnus · 04/06/2024 13:12

Why to buggery do you crazy people know how often your DHs and adult DSs change pants? How can someone else's pants be a part of your life?

I wondered this. I don't count my DH's or DS's pants, I wouldn't have a clue what their pants routine is. I know they don't smell though.

Only time I have noticed with DS2 when he was a bit younger was when he went on a residential trip and all of his pants were still clean when he came home 😁

gavreline · 04/06/2024 13:46

I shower at night and wear clean underwear afterwards. I sleep in my underwear (pants not bra) then I keep the underwear on until I shower again the next evening. So basically the same as OP's BF. Seems normal to me.

Danioyellow · 04/06/2024 13:44

BigDahliaFan · 04/06/2024 13:36

Well it's a bit like putting your trousers on at night after a shower and then getting up and going to work in them....

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Unless you shit the bed every night, the only issues I see with this is that it would be uncomfortable to sleep and the trousers would be creased for work?

MotherofDogs3 · 04/06/2024 13:40

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