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Boyfriend’s bizarre underwear routine?

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:42

I recently moved in with BF. I have since discovered that he only changes his underwear after he showers in the evening and doesn’t replace them with a new pair each morning after sleeping in them. I think this is very strange and that each time you get dressed for the day you should change your underwear.

I haven’t lived with a man for a long time so I guess I could be unreasonable to think this way?

YABU - he is still changing them daily so no issue

YANBU - he should change them when getting dressed in the morning

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CharlotteBog · 04/06/2024 16:39

inamarina · 04/06/2024 15:27

I never count the pants in the wash.

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Indeed. I keep the amount of contact between my hands and my teen's pants to a minimum.

scarletbegoniass · 04/06/2024 16:38

Don’t wear underwear to bed (apart from when on my period) but I wouldn’t change in the morning. Can’t get very dirty from sleeping, surely.

Danioyellow · 04/06/2024 16:38

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 14:19

Surely you can tell by the number of pants in the wash!

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I was going to reply with that but was expecting an instant, stupid dig of something like ‘but why are you doing another adults washing’ 🙄 and imo you don’t need to count the pants in the wash to know how many people are going through. I find it far stranger that you can be with a life partner for years and years, and have an adult son you’ve obviously raised from birth, and not know their basic routines?

Utterlyb · 04/06/2024 16:35

OP@Snickerdoodle55 I think there will be wives and gfs on here who think you are lucky to have an OH who showers and changes their pants once a day! The shower once a day thing is a relatively new thing, probably like many, my mum had a bath once a week in a tin bath in front of the fire that all 5 kids plus parents shared.

CharlotteBog · 04/06/2024 16:35

BigDahliaFan · 04/06/2024 10:02

OOh, wait till the menopause honey....

Sorry but fresh underwear in the morning (unless you are in your 20s and doing the walk of shame) is minimum cleanliness...

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I have just hit menopause. The knickers I put on after my evening shower (which is far more common than a morning one because I do sport in the evening) are fine in the morning. I'm sure it's different for every woman, but I don't have much cervical mucous any more and no bleeding.

I do still change, but that's more for my own preference rather than any "need" as such.

Whatever it meant by your "Oooh wait" hasn't happened to me yet

S00tyandSweep · 04/06/2024 16:14

TBH, I find it worse that there are people on here saying they shower in the morning, then after a (potentially) hot, sweaty day, get into bed naked without showering first 😱

Unless you're changing your sheets every day, surely all naked sleepers need to have a proper wash before bed 🤔

rio2 · 04/06/2024 16:04

My ex did this i found it strange too Envy

Q124 · 04/06/2024 16:01

SallyWD · 04/06/2024 16:00

I'm amazed everyone thinks this is so weird! What on earth happens to pants during the night that means the need to changed the next morning? Surely they stay clean in the night - unlike during the days when you're repeatedly going to the toilet.

Exactly!

sakura06 · 04/06/2024 16:00

He changes it every day. Surely that's what most people do?

SallyWD · 04/06/2024 16:00

I'm amazed everyone thinks this is so weird! What on earth happens to pants during the night that means the need to changed the next morning? Surely they stay clean in the night - unlike during the days when you're repeatedly going to the toilet.

HelpMeGetThrough · 04/06/2024 15:55

Imo as long as you shower 1-2 times a week and change your pants about that often you're clean.

Turning them inside out doesn't count.

QuantumPanic · 04/06/2024 15:53

Some hilarious comments on here.

Imo as long as you shower 1-2 times a week and change your pants about that often you're clean.

I haven't owned pyjamas since I was in single digits, but honestly who cares what people wear to bed?

BigGrubbyFlowerPot · 04/06/2024 15:50

What's going to happen to his pants ine between his shower and doing to work?

BigGrubbyFlowerPot · 04/06/2024 15:49

Jc2001 · 04/06/2024 13:59

PJs 😂i didn't think anyone under 70 wore them.

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I love pj's! Always have done! Not 70 yet!

HelpMeGetThrough · 04/06/2024 15:49

Mine would be changed in the morning as well. Couldn't start the day without clean undercrackers.

Original poster
Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 15:47

Blue collar worker (I think this probably makes it all ok and I have made a mountain out of a molehill)

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NewShoes · 04/06/2024 15:47

I wouldn’t find this weird at all! He’s showering daily and changing his underwear daily, I’m not sure I see the problem.

ladyofshertonabbas · 04/06/2024 15:45

What kind of job does he do? Farmer or lawyer?

Piddypigeon · 04/06/2024 15:42

OrlandointheWilderness · 04/06/2024 09:44

He sleeps in underwear?!

Since when is that weird? I think I sleep wrong 🤷

MiniPumpkin · 04/06/2024 15:42

I agree a change of boxers is required in the morning

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 15:40

Tiswa · 04/06/2024 15:33

I am struggling to comprehend how those who shower in the morning (valid choice to wake up) think it is more hygienic to shower then than in the evening

and that the OP can’t see that if someone needs to get up and leave that early an evening shower may fit in bettrr

I have no issue whatsoever with the evening shower! Just wasn’t sure on not changing pants before work 🤷🏼‍♀️

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PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/06/2024 15:38

I couldn't sleep in pants. Those areas need to get air to them at least a few hrs a day imo.

Maelil01 · 04/06/2024 15:37

Notamorningkindofperson · 04/06/2024 10:10

What's weird about sleeping in underwear?

The clue is in the name!
Underwear is for wearing “under clothes”

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 15:35

inamarina · 04/06/2024 15:27

I never count the pants in the wash.

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Even so you’d notice a large amount of pants in the wash!

Tiswa · 04/06/2024 15:33

I am struggling to comprehend how those who shower in the morning (valid choice to wake up) think it is more hygienic to shower then than in the evening

and that the OP can’t see that if someone needs to get up and leave that early an evening shower may fit in bettrr