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Boyfriend’s bizarre underwear routine?

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:42

I recently moved in with BF. I have since discovered that he only changes his underwear after he showers in the evening and doesn’t replace them with a new pair each morning after sleeping in them. I think this is very strange and that each time you get dressed for the day you should change your underwear.

I haven’t lived with a man for a long time so I guess I could be unreasonable to think this way?

YABU - he is still changing them daily so no issue

YANBU - he should change them when getting dressed in the morning

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sunshine237 · 04/06/2024 18:48

Wow this thread is an eye opener - I thought I was on the slovenly side but despite being mostly an evening bather, even I manage fresh pants each morning.

bows101 · 04/06/2024 18:29

My DP does this. His arguement is he's just showered and slept, they are fine
Each to their own I say...

StormingNorman · 04/06/2024 18:29

I couldn’t vote. My gut reaction, and the only routine I’ve ever known is a fresh pair of pants in the morning.

BUT there’s no difference in the length of wear ultimately if you do night/day or day/night.

I think neither of you are BU. He’s just a maverick!

LuluBlakey1 · 04/06/2024 18:26

I never wear underwear in bed, nor does DH.

LuluBlakey1 · 04/06/2024 18:25

Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:42

I recently moved in with BF. I have since discovered that he only changes his underwear after he showers in the evening and doesn’t replace them with a new pair each morning after sleeping in them. I think this is very strange and that each time you get dressed for the day you should change your underwear.

I haven’t lived with a man for a long time so I guess I could be unreasonable to think this way?

YABU - he is still changing them daily so no issue

YANBU - he should change them when getting dressed in the morning

Very odd.

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 18:24

saltysquid · 04/06/2024 17:43

Exactly this!

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Totally agree!

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 18:24

LakieLady · 04/06/2024 17:56

Me too! I can't imagine sleeping in my knickers, I like to give my fanjo a bit of an airing.

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Lovely!

Bignanna · 04/06/2024 18:23

BloodyHellKenAgain · 04/06/2024 16:59

I think its strange that he wears underwear in bed !!

Many people do, I would think it’s the norm!

henlake7 · 04/06/2024 18:04

I cant imagine laying in bed naked....what if there was a fire? or someone broke in?...or I have to get up for a wee and accidently catch sight of myself in a mirror!!?
Ive never thought of my undercarriage as being dusty or musty enough to need an airing TBH!

LakieLady · 04/06/2024 17:56

PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/06/2024 15:38

I couldn't sleep in pants. Those areas need to get air to them at least a few hrs a day imo.

Me too! I can't imagine sleeping in my knickers, I like to give my fanjo a bit of an airing.

saltysquid · 04/06/2024 17:43

HereILayStillAndBreathless · 04/06/2024 17:34

So... The morning showerers do what? Shower in the morning, then work all day/do other activities and go to bed without a shower after all days work? In summer too? I find that much MUCH weirder (and much more gross).

As for underwear, I really struggle to understand what on earth is going on with people's undercrackers when they sleep? Like ok, I'm an evening showerer like OP's BF, so brush teeth, cleanse face, shower, deodorant on, undies on (I sleep in underwear, always did and will continue to do so), go to bed. Sleep 6 hours (always do) in a clean bed. I don't shit my pants, don't piss them and don't sweat excessively. So what in the fresh hell happens to my knicks during those 6 hours of lying still in bed that's SO HORRIBLE, gross and so minging?

Exactly this!

HereILayStillAndBreathless · 04/06/2024 17:34

So... The morning showerers do what? Shower in the morning, then work all day/do other activities and go to bed without a shower after all days work? In summer too? I find that much MUCH weirder (and much more gross).

As for underwear, I really struggle to understand what on earth is going on with people's undercrackers when they sleep? Like ok, I'm an evening showerer like OP's BF, so brush teeth, cleanse face, shower, deodorant on, undies on (I sleep in underwear, always did and will continue to do so), go to bed. Sleep 6 hours (always do) in a clean bed. I don't shit my pants, don't piss them and don't sweat excessively. So what in the fresh hell happens to my knicks during those 6 hours of lying still in bed that's SO HORRIBLE, gross and so minging?

Jegersur · 04/06/2024 17:30

I think it’s fine

HelpMeGetThrough · 04/06/2024 17:28

He tends to wear his ‘sleepy time pants’ at night which are a bit baggier

Sleepy Time? Are they pull ups with Thomas on them?

CharlotteBog · 04/06/2024 17:18

I dont stink and Im still alive!

For balance though, the people that died from not showering before and after going to bed or touched their bedding with their naked skin or didn't change their underwear often enough cannot speak up. I bet they regret their slovenly way now, eh?!

CharlotteBog · 04/06/2024 17:15

BloodyHellKenAgain · 04/06/2024 16:59

I think its strange that he wears underwear in bed !!

Broaden your mind, it's quite common.

henlake7 · 04/06/2024 17:08

I am def disappointed that this 'bizarre underwear routine' didnt involve his pants on his head whilst prancing round the bedroom doing a helicopter dance!!LOL

Also underwear in bed isnt weird, naked in bed isnt weird, pj's arent weird....its all personal choice.
I sleep with 3 dogs in my bed, being naked would be potentially scarring to them and possibly physically scarring to me if I get a claw in the wrong place!

and who cares when you shower!? You dont even have to shower/bathe every day to be clean, as long as you are washing the sweaty cracks and crevices every day then thats good enough. There is alot of research that excessive cleansing can even adversely affect your skin biome.
I usually shower after cardio in the morning but a couple of times a week I might just have a strip wash. I dont stink and Im still alive!

BloodyHellKenAgain · 04/06/2024 16:59

I think its strange that he wears underwear in bed !!

drainthebath · 04/06/2024 16:50

QuantumPanic · 04/06/2024 15:53

Some hilarious comments on here.

Imo as long as you shower 1-2 times a week and change your pants about that often you're clean.

I haven't owned pyjamas since I was in single digits, but honestly who cares what people wear to bed?

Ew. He had a physical job. Of course he needs to shower daily. You have low standards

gemsgv · 04/06/2024 16:49

Well it's not like he's going to have any discharge is it?

drainthebath · 04/06/2024 16:48

@Jc2001

PJs 😂i didn't think anyone under 70 wore them.
So all those cute shortie PJs and PJs sold in shops like Zara and H&M were for over 70s in your mind?

thesugarbumfairy · 04/06/2024 16:44

I see no issue here.
(I wear a nightie. And pants)
The kids (boys) shower in the evening and wear their pants (trunks) to bed. They have never liked pjs and don't want to sleep naked. They are clean. Their beds are clean. Why change them again in the morning?
I don't see the point. They don't shower in the morning because it means less time in bed. I don't shower in the morning because I can't be arsed.

drainthebath · 04/06/2024 16:43

Lifelikinotdothinki · 04/06/2024 10:15

Years ago growing up, we didn’t have showers we just had a bath tub. All of us had a bath once a week. My dad was mean with the hot water, so you weren’t allowed much. No one died.

And this is why so many countries thought the British had low standards of cleanliness.

CharlotteBog · 04/06/2024 16:43

S00tyandSweep · 04/06/2024 16:14

TBH, I find it worse that there are people on here saying they shower in the morning, then after a (potentially) hot, sweaty day, get into bed naked without showering first 😱

Unless you're changing your sheets every day, surely all naked sleepers need to have a proper wash before bed 🤔

Not every day is hot and sweaty. We don't have to sleep in pristine clean sheets every night.
It's OK to be in contact with your own (and anyone who are close enough to share a bed with) skin cells, a few shed hairs, some bacteria. We are organic and designed very well to stay well.

FriedGold · 04/06/2024 16:42

ClockworkDisaster · 04/06/2024 10:06

My fella sleeps in underwear. He tends to wear his ‘sleepy time pants’ at night which are a bit baggier and then changes into normal (clean) ones in the morning. He has more normal pants than sleepy time pants though so if they haven’t been washed in time he will use a fresh pair of normal pants to sleep in instead.

Please stop him using the phrase “sleepy time pants”. Thank you