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Boyfriend’s bizarre underwear routine?

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Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:42

I recently moved in with BF. I have since discovered that he only changes his underwear after he showers in the evening and doesn’t replace them with a new pair each morning after sleeping in them. I think this is very strange and that each time you get dressed for the day you should change your underwear.

I haven’t lived with a man for a long time so I guess I could be unreasonable to think this way?

YABU - he is still changing them daily so no issue

YANBU - he should change them when getting dressed in the morning

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Sahara123 · 04/06/2024 20:19

Personally I think it's gross to not wear pants to bed. I mean what do you do when you're on your period? Surely you wear pants to bed then?

Well yes, obviously then I did ! But I prefer air around my bits , and anyway I can’t see how they’re directly in contact with my sheets !

Sue152 · 04/06/2024 20:10

This thread is peak MN surely?

Personally I think it's gross to not wear pants to bed. I mean what do you do when you're on your period? Surely you wear pants to bed then?

I change my pants every morning but i couldn't get that upset if someone did it every evening instead - I don't shower every day though, so i am literally the worst of the worst on MN 😁I'll take it though as all the money I save in water and electricity bills i spend on going on holiday several times a year.

Sahara123 · 04/06/2024 20:10

MorvernBlack · 04/06/2024 19:47

Can't imagine sleeping with no knickers, given sheets aren't replaced everyday. Also can't imagine going to bed without a shower, you get far dirtier in the daytime that you do at night. Why would you wake up sweaty? (unless menopausal obviously, but I'm on HRT, so not an issue). I would have a quick shower after sex, so even then I wouldn't need a morning shower.
I dampen down and scrunch my hair in the morning.

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Because I get hot in bed despite windows open all year round and a 2.5 tog duvet! Always have , I knew menopause would be mentioned !
Fine hair doesn’t need damping down, it goes completely flat with bits sticking out at odd angles !

mightymam · 04/06/2024 19:59

Unless he's shitting himself in the night I fail to see a problem with this?

If he's having a shower last thing at night, then putting on a clean pair of pants, surely his arse and pants are clean for the next day?!

MorvernBlack · 04/06/2024 19:47

Sahara123 · 04/06/2024 19:37

I can’t imagine not showering in the morning, don’t people wake up feeling a bit sweaty ! Plus my hair would be a right mess, it’s very fine and sticks out all over the place . No knickers in bed, clean in morning after shower

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Can't imagine sleeping with no knickers, given sheets aren't replaced everyday. Also can't imagine going to bed without a shower, you get far dirtier in the daytime that you do at night. Why would you wake up sweaty? (unless menopausal obviously, but I'm on HRT, so not an issue). I would have a quick shower after sex, so even then I wouldn't need a morning shower.
I dampen down and scrunch my hair in the morning.

Summertimer · 04/06/2024 19:45

The outraged of MN have arrived 🤣

Q124 · 04/06/2024 19:44

PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/06/2024 19:30

Its not getting an airing if you've got fabric directly next to it I.e pants

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It's not getting airing under a duvet

Alwaysgothiccups · 04/06/2024 19:44

Seems a wierd way round to do things.. but thinking about it it's not much different in principle to what I do. I put on fresh underwear after a shower in the morning..
I do sometimes sleep in the underwear I've had on during the day.. though not if it's been really hot or I've been exercising.
But I suppose that's the same as only showering in the evening then changing underwear then..
Altho I'd prefer to have the fresh underwear on at the beginning of the day.. I suppose its the same amount of time to have underwear on

Exactlab · 04/06/2024 19:44

Yellowhammer09 · 04/06/2024 10:13

My DH does this. Showers in the evening, changes into his underwear and that's it for 24hrs. I found it unusual but he doesn't smell 🤷‍♀️

I bet you I would be able to smell the both of you

Exactlab · 04/06/2024 19:42

Revelatio · 04/06/2024 09:44

What’s the alternative? Changing underwear twice a day? I change after a shower, but I shower in the morning. If I have two showers then I would change at night too.

Gross. You should have a shower before you go to bed and if you don’t then you should at least change your underwear.

Shizzlestix · 04/06/2024 19:39

I have a bath in the evening and put on clean knickers that then stay on until the next night. I can't sleep naked, strikes me as a bit unhygienic. If I don't have a bath, I change my knickers in the morning. 🤷

Sahara123 · 04/06/2024 19:37

MorvernBlack · 04/06/2024 18:57

I shower in the evening then clean knickers on and I sleep in knickers and a big tee shirt. Can't imagine getting into bed dirty.
I don't shower in the morning as showers make me feel light headed first thing. I sometimes put on clean underwear in a morning, sometimes I don't.

I can’t imagine not showering in the morning, don’t people wake up feeling a bit sweaty ! Plus my hair would be a right mess, it’s very fine and sticks out all over the place . No knickers in bed, clean in morning after shower

Summertimer · 04/06/2024 19:35

HereILayStillAndBreathless · 04/06/2024 17:34

So... The morning showerers do what? Shower in the morning, then work all day/do other activities and go to bed without a shower after all days work? In summer too? I find that much MUCH weirder (and much more gross).

As for underwear, I really struggle to understand what on earth is going on with people's undercrackers when they sleep? Like ok, I'm an evening showerer like OP's BF, so brush teeth, cleanse face, shower, deodorant on, undies on (I sleep in underwear, always did and will continue to do so), go to bed. Sleep 6 hours (always do) in a clean bed. I don't shit my pants, don't piss them and don't sweat excessively. So what in the fresh hell happens to my knicks during those 6 hours of lying still in bed that's SO HORRIBLE, gross and so minging?

Deodorant to go to bed? That’s something I’ve never heard of.

Sahara123 · 04/06/2024 19:33

Mumblechum0 · 04/06/2024 09:45

My thoughts exactly.

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Me too

PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/06/2024 19:30

Q124 · 04/06/2024 18:57

Do you not sleep under a duvet?

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Its not getting an airing if you've got fabric directly next to it I.e pants

Arlanymor · 04/06/2024 19:15

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 09:46

It's not unusual, my DP sleeps in boxers, I sleep in my pants

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All the blokes I have known have worn one pair of undercrackers for the day and another for night.

DressOrSkirt · 04/06/2024 19:14

While I agree with you, my husband does the same, so I think it's normal for men.

butterpuffed · 04/06/2024 19:11

He's a 24 hour Pants Man , like most men . The fact he showers in the evening and OMG , dares to change his pants at a different time is NOT bizarre .

Ledci · 04/06/2024 19:10

Although, I change my underwear twice a day....3 times if I have a shower after work
Always put a fresh pair of knickers on for bed, without fail.

Ledci · 04/06/2024 19:07

Snickerdoodle55 · 04/06/2024 09:42

I recently moved in with BF. I have since discovered that he only changes his underwear after he showers in the evening and doesn’t replace them with a new pair each morning after sleeping in them. I think this is very strange and that each time you get dressed for the day you should change your underwear.

I haven’t lived with a man for a long time so I guess I could be unreasonable to think this way?

YABU - he is still changing them daily so no issue

YANBU - he should change them when getting dressed in the morning

Do we share the same boyfriend, as mine does exactly this too!

Wexone · 04/06/2024 19:00

Sweet Jesus what world do we live in ?? here we wash in eve me a relaxing bath and himself a shower ( he a builder so normally comes home covered in crap so straight to shower) clean underwear and bed clothes at night. we do not change underwear in mroming nor shower. no crime committed

Isitsummer2024 · 04/06/2024 19:00

Everyone needs fresh pants in the morning even if they showered the night before. Everyone sweats in the night.

Q124 · 04/06/2024 18:57

LakieLady · 04/06/2024 17:56

Me too! I can't imagine sleeping in my knickers, I like to give my fanjo a bit of an airing.

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Do you not sleep under a duvet?

MorvernBlack · 04/06/2024 18:57

I shower in the evening then clean knickers on and I sleep in knickers and a big tee shirt. Can't imagine getting into bed dirty.
I don't shower in the morning as showers make me feel light headed first thing. I sometimes put on clean underwear in a morning, sometimes I don't.

Floogal · 04/06/2024 18:48

OP that's not exactly bizarre underwear behaviour 🤣. Bizarre underwear would be a guy wearing briefs under boxers 🩲🩲🩲🩲