Boyfriend’s bizarre underwear routine?

My dh showers after work and changes underwear he's not unhygienic in my opinion he goes to work in work clothes comes in shower changes underwear clean clothes I think that's fine

So many people on this thread seem to there that not only is their way the right way but it is the only way and it isn’t

Nothing. It’s perfectly normal.

Yep, always natural fibres in bed. Pure cotton covers always, wool, silk or down duvets. I have down ones, they are very old and I wouldn't buy again because of the cruelty of it, but there's no doubting they make a difference to temperature regulation.

@CharlotteBog highly recommend a wool duvet, really helped regulate my temperature at night.

Oh I see, I thought you were focussing just on needing fresh undies, not that you are more sweaty all over.
I had some terrible night sweats during peri - and that meant fresh everything, right down to the mattress protector. And of course a shower.

Glad I'm not the only one. I was beginning to think I was a freak!

I'm a woman and I do this.

I have a shower at 10.30pm put clean knickers on after and I don't change them in the morning.

@CharlotteBog well it’s different for everyone but I’ve definitely become sweatier at night in menopause…everywhere. HRT helped….but it can only do so much.

I usually shower at night but still need one in the morning too….

That was my reaction.

I mean feet smell there's no getting around it, unless you put deodorant on them (which I've tried) if you're in close proximity to anyone who wears shoes you'll probably get a whiff of something. Yours probably do too, oh the horror. And cheap loo roll means bits get left behind-in fact it's hard to find any loo roll that doesn't do this. I don't think those people sound particularly grubby because you can't really help most of those things.

I'm surprised a shower lasting only a few minutes meets your high standards of cleanliness tbh.

I'm amazed so many people are aghast at people wearing underwear to bed and think they're the normal ones for wiping their genitals all over the bed sheets all night...Oh but it's ok cos they had a shower before they got into bed 😬

*too

*We all shower in the morning and wear clean pants, shower again and change pants if exercise in the day, shower and clean PJs for bedtime. Each shower is only a few minutes and allows washing all the vital areas so it’s hardly a drama.

How anyone can get into bed when they have walked around barefoot or been for a poo etc and not had a wash before bedtime is quite honestly beyond me. I would feel horrible.*

Life is just to short to be this much of a precious clean freak

Yeah not a good sign when you've just moved in

Do you think maybe your job might be be influencing how you feel?
I'm pretty sure most people don't shower according to their poo schedule.
What if you shower after the gym, eat dinner, have a poo - do you then shower again?

I don't think we'd be able to keep up with the number of dry towels needed, and we are just a family of 2 or 3 (depending on what adult son is doing). We do quite a bit of sport.

Yuck. These threads always make me feel grubby and the people who come on with all the ‘natural oils and odour are all perfectly fine and I only bathe weekly’ just make my skin crawl.

I examine people at work (healthcare) and people are surprisingly grubby given majority have access to washing facilities- dirty smelly feet, sweaty armpits, bits of loo roll in bum cheeks and worse.

We all shower in the morning and wear clean pants, shower again and change pants if exercise in the day, shower and clean PJs for bedtime. Each shower is only a few minutes and allows washing all the vital areas so it’s hardly a drama.

How anyone can get into bed when they have walked around barefoot or been for a poo etc and not had a wash before bedtime is quite honestly beyond me. I would feel horrible.

Reckon I could go years in the same pants if I had to. This evening shower / pants routine actually seems pretty logical. I would expect to incur less sweat / grime during sleep than during normal working day, so makes more sense this way around if you are only allowed to change pants every 24 hours.

I’m weird with underwear.

I always change in to fresh underwear after a shower. If it’s evening shower after a gym/run/grubby day then they go in the laundry.

If it’s been a non-sweaty day I would shower, probably put pjs/no underwear on and then use them the next day for run/gym and change into a clean pair after that.

If I shower in the morning though - this is really interesting stuff - I’d sometimes leave the worn but clean pair out, change for a run or gym, shower, then back on the go the cleaner pair.

Weird eh?

Similar protocol with socks.

God it’s complicated sometimes.

I think it’s a bit grotty, people always smell (even if you think you don’t) after they’ve been asleep all night, and the clothes smell a bit too, I’d prefer a morning shower and clean underwear in the morning.

I had football today so just had a shower. First one of the week. Previously i would have put on fresh underwear. But since sleeping with underwear is weird and I can't bother doing laundry that often, so I'm not gonna change underwear every 12h. So I guess it is time to winnie the pooh. I'm sure the neighbours appreciate the basic instict on the balcony 😁

I’d rather sleep next to man in fresh knick knacks than one with unwashed pits from the day 😛

This!

Your keyboard is probably a far bigger health concern than your unshowered body!
[waits for the MN collective to remind me I should be sanitising my hands and keyboard every time I step away to make a cup of tea or heaven forbid, dead head a flower]

Honestly, yes. Unless I have been particularly active, I don't shower at night. I don't feel particularly dirty, either, maybe because most of my working day is spent hunched over a computer.