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Quit my job due to anxiety of job / team - how do i make it through the notice period?

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ChicCrab · 04/06/2024 09:36

I have been at a new job for 3 months, a couple of weeks ago someone asked me how i was and i just burst into tears. I am covering maternity and i've been thrown into the deep end on projects. I am a person who likes to know everything and i am overwhelmed by how much i need to do and the projects that i have on. My boss knows the job inside out and can probably do it with her eyes closed but when i say i dont feel confident in what i'm doing she just says its because i'm new. I do everything she tells me i need to do and it ends up being wrong or not the way i should do it.
I feel like she is making subtle hints at me constantly and undermining me. She goes on about pay continuously as though i am on money that she is so i feel like she doesnt give me the support in need because i should work it out myself.
If i ask her something that I might have asked last week she gets annoyed because i am asking the same question. I am just trying to make sure i know the right thing as a new job is overwhelming and i am not coping.
She was previously bullied at a different company and says she hates bullying. But i feel like she is just intimating me and is bullying me.
I have told her i am stuggling and she doesnt even acknowledge that.
I've handed in my notice, but now i feel it has got worse. I have a long notice period and not sure how i am going to make it through.
Has anyone got any advice on how to not worry?

OP posts:
Startingagainandagain · 04/06/2024 10:03

If this is a maternity cover of a year I would have first tried the following: asked for a meeting with your manager/HR and made it clear you needed a proper induction and training to be able to do the role and that you wanted 3 days to be ring fenced to cover this before you could resume the actual role.

But as you have ended your notice I would also look at what is written in your contract, usually there is a probation period and during that period the notice is only one week.

As other people have said I would just get signed off sick and start job-hunting. They have wasted your time and compromised your health and you don't owe them anything...

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 04/06/2024 09:40

Go off sick if you see no other option
However, getting you next job may become a bit more difficult
Good luck

changingchaali · 04/06/2024 09:39

Put yourself first. You have raised your concerns and been ignored. I'd suggest getting signed off by your GP with anxiety for your notice period.
Just be glad you are out of there soon.
So sorry you are going through this OP. Good luck x

AgathaMystery · 04/06/2024 09:38

Ring in sick, Go to your GP, be v honest and ask to please be signed off.