To ask you how far you'd go to stop a friend from frequently drink driving

I couldn’t be friends with someone who drink drives. It’s completely unacceptable. I would tell them that, and tell them that I was going to report them.

You can't reason with an addict and you need to protect him and others.

Report him. Imagine how ruined his life would be if he killed someone.

A friend was killed last year by a drunk driver in a hit and run in the South of England. Lovely man, whole life ahead of him. Wife is still in pieces over it. Fucking horrific.

@BodyKeepingScore I've done exactly that in the past. It's really not easy but it's 100% the right thing to do

They kill someome how would you feel call the police

The next time I had witnessed him drinking, or knew for a fact he’d been drinking and then driven his car, I’d simply inform the police and let them catch him in the act.

As you've already tried reasoning with him, I'd wait until you know he's over the limit and driving his van, then dial 111 giving his number plate and approximate location so the police can arrest him; or better still give them some advance warning.
He could kill himself or someone else and that would be harder to recover from than a driving ban or fine.

They would no longer be my friend I’m afraid. Drink drivers kill. Would you be friends with someone who randomly shoots firearms? Just because they hadn’t actually hit someone?

It sounds like he may have issues with alcohol in general op if he's sinking multiple glasses of wine and assuming he's fine on the regular.

I would also report him - he's responsible for his actions and decisions but if you stand by and watch then I'd see that as being complicit. I'd send him and the son resources for alcohol support, report him and then walk away from the friendship.

He's probably got himself into a false sense of security with it as he's been doing it so much but the problem with that is then it escalates, he becomes cocky and he ends up killing someone. You've tried to reach him in a supportive way and he's refused any accountability so I don't think there's anything else you can now do but report him. If not to the police then to his place of work if he's driving for a company - they may have a duty of care but I know most will only act supportively if the person themselves come saying they have a problem.

Report him, before he kills or injures someone.

Paramedics have enough to do.

Report him right now. A long time ago I packed up the clothes of a dead 19 years old to give to her parents after she was killed by a drunk driver. It was 20 years ago this year and I still well up thinking about it. It was utterly horrific. 2 died and one significantly injured and lay unconscious in the car for 5 hours before he was able to flag down a passing car.

She should be 39 and have a career and a partner and kids and all that really.

Please just report him now.

You could make a final warning if it makes you feel better. But tbh anyone who believes they can safely drink and drive is unlikely to be dissuaded buy a threat.

Look at it this way, if he ends up dead or in prison your friendship will also be over, but if he kills someone you will never get over the guilt if you do nothing.

Report him. He's a danger to everyone else on the road - and to himself.

My SIL and BIL were laughing about a friend of theirs who regularly drink drives and drove into some railings. I asked how they'd feel if one of their children was in front of the railings.
I don't know how they can live with themselves, condoning that.

I'd report him.
I have done this, when a distant relative drank several cans of strong lager at a family funeral. He insisted on driving home (40 miles) taking his elderly aunt. He lost his licence and I'm glad he was off the road as it was only a matter of time before he killed someone.

Is this for real? Obviously report.

His son gave him several glasses of wine? I'd blow up at him and say do you want him dead, or someone else dead!!! Then if I know DH has been drinking again and gets behind the wheel I'd phone police and get him arrested!!

I would end the friendship as I would have to report him.

His son should not have let him drink drive.

Just report him when you know he's been drinking and gets in the van. How could you live with yourself if he mows down a little family or an elderly couple?

Report.

He could have 20 odd years of driving still and his ‘luck’ will run out and he will kill someone. Imagine you’d had the opportunity to get in the way of a CRIMINAL committing a crime and you did nothing…

I reported my friend once who left my house at 2am absolutely pissed beyond belief.

He deserved it.

But nothing happened. He didn't get caught.

100% report him. It's not "dobbing him in" or anything petty, it could literally save someones life!

Also, is it his own van or a company van? If a company van, report to his company too?

Report him.

I voted YABU too for exactly this reason.

He needs reporting. He could kill someone and if you don;t do something about it really you are also to blame.