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To wish more schools had uniforms like this

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Imsooveritt · 02/06/2024 16:07

Talking to a friend today who's daughter attends an all girls private day school. She's 7. We were discussing buying uniform for the next year and I said it's a headache.

My 3 kids are in Y1, Y5 and Y8. All 3 have to wear those uncomfortable Teflon trousers/skirts. Older two need shirt and tie, eldest blazer. Uncomfortable school shoes. Logos on jumpers etc.

Her daughters school uniform is

  • Navy, Red or White Polo
  • Navy bottoms (have to be from their supplier but have the option of soft jeggings, leggings, skirt, pinafore or jersey material shorts)
  • Red or Navy polo dress
  • Red or Navy cardigan or hoodie
  • white socks/navy tights
  • Navy trainers
  • Navy jackets from supplier but they are quilted style and have no logo so would be suitable for outside school too

This seems so much better, so many more options, no logos so somethings can get used outside school too, nice materials. Good blend of it being uniform but comfy. Not forced to have white polos that will discolour or uncomfortable shirts and ties.

AIBU to wonder why this can't be the norm? What is the need for shirts and ties, Teflon trousers and polyester blazers?!

OP posts:
elliejjtiny · 02/06/2024 20:09

Yanbu. My 9 year old has autism and really struggles with uniform.

Parker231 · 02/06/2024 20:08

DappledThings · 02/06/2024 19:09

Same. The material never bothered me or any of it. They were just normal clothes, same as others. Never felt the need to change at home time unless there was a club with another uniform that night. Nobody did. If we were going to someone else's house after school everyone just stayed in their uniform.

A shirt with a tie and blazer are not normal clothes.

Ineedaholidayyyy · 02/06/2024 20:08

My son is in primary, state school not private. One of the things I love about his school is the relaxed attitude regarding the uniform. It's polo shirts all the way through to Y6, no shirts or ties. PE twice a week, so on those days the kids wear PE kit all day, which is joggers in blue, black or grey, and normal white polo top. My son would definitely prefer to wear the joggers/shorts everyday rather than the usual uniform, but atleast he only has to wear them 3 days out of 5.

At the other local primary, the kids have to wear shirts and ties, even in reception. They also have to wear a seperate colour uniform for PE, so more expense. There is no need for kids so young to be ties, they look silly to me.

cakecoffeecakecoffee · 02/06/2024 20:03

I agree.

I didn’t have a uniform at all when I was at primary school but I do appreciate the ease of having school clothes separate.

my kids have an easy one of white polos, grey skirt, dress, trousers, sorts and a royal blue jumper or cardi. Any shop, no logo required. I buy soft jersey grey items.

they’re also understanding of DS sensory issues and when he very occasionally refuses to wear his uniform they don’t say anything about him turning up in mufti.

Saschka · 02/06/2024 20:02

DS wears grey supermarket trousers, plain white polo and a fleece. Black Clarks shoes which are a bit heavy but basically trainers.

Seems comfy enough, he certainly manages to climb up trees and run around in the playground in it.

piefacedClique · 02/06/2024 19:58

I think in Wales now only one item has to be branded with the school logo. Makes it so much easier to buy comfortable affordable uniform.

pizzaHeart · 02/06/2024 19:57

Imsooveritt · 02/06/2024 16:13

My youngest can be bought from a super market but the trousers and skirts are all that awful Teflon fabric rather than something comfy!

Because it’s cheaper.

Parker231 · 02/06/2024 19:56

ageratum1 · 02/06/2024 17:42

You do not have to get Teflon trousers, I bet the uniform policy only states the colour, you can choose the fabric
I don't know why you think no other countries have school uniforms?
Asian countries definitely do, I think African countries di as well and Australia for starters

https://mapsontheweb.zoom-maps.com/post/724355095335190528/school-uniform-policy-by-geoomapss

UK is one of only a couple of European countries with school uniform. It’s unnecessary.

Maps on the Web

School Uniform Policy. by geoo_mapss

https://mapsontheweb.zoom-maps.com/post/724355095335190528/school-uniform-policy-by-geoomapss

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 02/06/2024 19:54

I went to an independent girls school in London with many strict and ridiculous uniform rules. Between the ages of 11 and 18 there were five different hats depending on the season and which year you were in!

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 02/06/2024 19:47

NuffSaidSam · 02/06/2024 16:18

I think it should be jogging bottoms/leggings/shorts and a polo shirt and jumper, all unisex, until secondary.

There's no need whatsoever for a four year old to wear a tie and tailored trousers!

Ds school requires all from reception to wear button up shirt and tie, they can wear clip on or elastic ties.

DS has sensory issues so wears a polo and a zip up jacket instead but when I approached school about this every one I talked to said they have no idea why any of the young kids have to wear ties or button up shirts and it causes more distraction than necessary.

Always having to tell kids to put on their ties and stop fussing they're uncomfortable.

It was such a crazy conversation and they just said they're powerless to change it.

ditalini · 02/06/2024 19:40

Ds2's primary uniform is grey bottoms, white polo, coloured jumper or cardy. Logoed items are available but also all items can be supermarket.

Ds1's secondary uniform is black bottoms, white shirt and the only non-negotiable is the tie which is a fiver from the school, but always loads of secondhand ones available for free.

Neither school gives a shit about shoes or hair.

I feel like we really lucked out tbh when I read some stories on here.

itsgettingweird · 02/06/2024 19:34

SneezedToothOut · 02/06/2024 17:44

DD wants to be a pilot. Maybe I should send her to school in a jumpsuit and helmet.

🤣

katepilar · 02/06/2024 19:32

I have always wondered why parents keep buying this nasty stuff. If half of the parents didnt buy it I think things would get moving.

VaccineSticker · 02/06/2024 19:22

CoManagerOfTheShitpile · 02/06/2024 16:18

Friend's son goes to a posh private school which traditionally also has a history of bursary boarding boys. Uniform is included in fees and only available from the uniform lady in school. New starters get their set of kit - some of which will be second hand - and as they grow out of it or it needs replacing, they go back to the uniform lady who gives them replacements and patches up their hand me downs for use by someone else. What a great leveller as well as great for the environment.

And also if the same person is in charge of both ordering the clothes and washing the clothes I imagine the quality has to be good. Whoever chose my kids sports socks has never had to wash them!

Wow. All schools should follow suit. What an amazing way to recycle clothes and keep cost down.

Didimum · 02/06/2024 19:21

My kids in state private school have a uniform similar to the private school one you describe.

Are your children in state school? They are no longer allowed to insist on uniform items with logos.

Pompleandprim · 02/06/2024 19:16

Agreed! DS goes to a special school and his uniform is a school logo jumper (can be sweatshirt or hoody, but they really aren’t strict on it having their logo anyway), white shirt or polo shirt or tshirt, and black or grey trousers/leggings/joggers. The children are all wearing what they are comfortable in.

Kitkat1523 · 02/06/2024 19:14

Imsooveritt · 02/06/2024 16:13

My youngest can be bought from a super market but the trousers and skirts are all that awful Teflon fabric rather than something comfy!

Asda do jersey skirts, pinafores and trousers, not scratchy at all

DappledThings · 02/06/2024 19:09

Zwicky · 02/06/2024 16:22

I wore a skirt, shirt, tie and blazer all the way from 5 to 16. So have my dcs (except trousers too), and “proper” shoes. I’ve never understood the comfort angle - they are just normal clothes. I wouldn’t go to bed in them but they aren’t uncomfortable. They can look a bit naff, but so can polo shirts etc.

Same. The material never bothered me or any of it. They were just normal clothes, same as others. Never felt the need to change at home time unless there was a club with another uniform that night. Nobody did. If we were going to someone else's house after school everyone just stayed in their uniform.

ARichtGoodDram · 02/06/2024 18:59

SneezedToothOut · 02/06/2024 17:38

Don’t get me started on that one. That’s project 2.

There is no pavement for part of DD’s walk to school, and we are in wales where it rains 80% of the time, but they seem to want the kids to be invisible to cars.

It’s ridiculous how blasé some heads are about it.

I offended one accidentally once when I was working in schools (was in and out different schools as part of my job). There was a discussion in the staff room about another school, that happened to be my DSs, where they’d tried to change the uniform to include a black coat.

I said, half flippant and half serious, that people wanting to be HT’s should be asked “what colour of coat would you make mandatory uniform at your school?” and any who said black/navy/dark would instantly prove themselves unsuitable for the job.

Unbeknown to me the HT had recently done a review of uniform and was planning on including a dark purple coat as part of it.

ambushoftigers · 02/06/2024 18:50

Parker231 · 02/06/2024 16:34

Same here - DT’s went through ages 4-18 in a non uniform school. They wore jeans or shorts with a T-shirt and hoodie. The bullying about what you were wearing - no one was interested. No time wasted in policing ridiculous school uniform rules.
Same as their cousins in France, Belgium and the US.

Same in Scandinavia. Works very well. And we call our teachers by their first name, as it should be.

OnehundredStars · 02/06/2024 18:41

Totally agree .. ours is navy and blue and no logo on anything and no specific shop to purchase from

Sahara123 · 02/06/2024 18:40

EndlessWashingUp · 02/06/2024 17:30

During Covid, my DC school couldn't use the PE changing rooms so they had to wear their PE uniform on the days they had PE. For some (who took it as a subject as well as a core subject) that was most days.

All the pupils looked smart with a regulation PE top (that washes great, dries quick and doesn't need ironed!) and joggers/leggings.

Given the drop off in sport amongst teenagers (and especially girls), we should surely be encouraging them to be constantly wearing clothes that you can do something active in at the drop of a hat. A quick 15 minutes of basket ball or football outside or being able to spontaneously join in with sport lunch clubs without the hassle of changing would create more of a culture of physical movement, I would argue.

Have you ever been into a classroom full of adolescents who did PE a couple of hours ago and not changed ..! It’s not pleasant!
We were so relieved when uniform returned , plus they looked like they “belonged “ again .

SneezedToothOut · 02/06/2024 17:52

PaintedPottery · 02/06/2024 17:50

you want to try wearing secondary school uniform with sensory issues. Absolute nightmare.

Indeed. DD can’t tolerate waistbands or tight shoes. Hated tights and sock seams.

PaintedPottery · 02/06/2024 17:50

you want to try wearing secondary school uniform with sensory issues. Absolute nightmare.

Marblessolveeverything · 02/06/2024 17:48

Of the 109 million children attending school in the EU, less than one million of them wear uniforms. @ageratum1 . I know UK has left but this is where I imagine most of us are referring to.