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AIBU to wish that there was dedicated housing for quiet people?

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NoMoreNoisePlease · 02/06/2024 13:40

I’m Autistic(Diagnosed) and I’ve never been a fan of noise but I’m becoming increasingly noise averse as I’m approaching middle age.

I don’t expect complete silence and I actively enjoy hearing two of my neighbours’ children play and having fun but some others seem to spend 3/4 of their time screaming. Why do so many children seem to scream now?

Plus there’s the thump of footballs, rusty trampoline springs, people playing loud music, fireworks and so many other loud intrusive noises.

I want to get away from it all but moving rurally(I’m semi rural) isn’t really the best option for me due to disabilities.

I think that I’m going to have to move to an over 50s complex as soon as I’m old enough. Though I fear the blaring televisions.

AIBU to wish that there was specific housing for quiet noise averse people like me?

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fitzwilliamdarcy · 02/06/2024 15:13

THEY want everyone to be quiet but they need allowances to make noise.

THIS, exactly. And I think there are a lot of them about, sadly.

oakleaffy · 02/06/2024 15:13

PaperSheet · 02/06/2024 13:52

I agree. I've had to spend all my savings and mortgaged myself up to the eyeballs on buying a detached property as I almost had a breakdown living in an attached house with inconsiderate neighbours. (Also autistic)

I am seriously wondering if I too have autistic traits.
Noise, textures crowds really bother me

Noise drives me insane

I have to cover my ears if a siren drives by- it’s like an assault.

Noise generally is like an assault.
Now someone is mowing their grass with a loud mower- Something like a scythe at least makes a pleasant swooshing sound.

( An old boy used to scythe his lawn - so peaceful and beautiful to see)

Averagelife · 02/06/2024 15:12

oakleaffy · 02/06/2024 15:07

I have a silent dog- she never barks- I’ve never owned barky dogs as the sound is so annoying.

Certain types are given to inane yapping- horrible sound.

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I live on a (very squashed together) new build estate with back gardens in a court yard design. One dog barks and they all start. It is so antisocial and unfair on the rest of us that just want to enjoy our gardens too. I wouldn’t mind but nobody even bothers to quieten their dogs, it’s almost like it’s seen as acceptable because the neighbours dog does it then its ok for theirs to bark too!

Cathbrownlow · 02/06/2024 15:10

I agree with OP. Please can we add loud tuneless whistling (or any whistling at all) to the list too?

oakleaffy · 02/06/2024 15:09

Pin0cchio · 02/06/2024 15:07

Op have you tried ear plugs or noise cancelling headphones?

They are hot and uncomfortable- and can make one feel claustrophobic.
Also children’s screams aren’t cancelled well by them :(

oakleaffy · 02/06/2024 15:07

Cazzovuoi · 02/06/2024 15:02

Yes to a dog ban too!!!!

I have a silent dog- she never barks- I’ve never owned barky dogs as the sound is so annoying.

Certain types are given to inane yapping- horrible sound.

Pin0cchio · 02/06/2024 15:07

Op have you tried ear plugs or noise cancelling headphones?

lalaloopyhead · 02/06/2024 15:06

Yes please. We have new neighbours, a young couple who play music at volume in the garden...it so inconsiderate. We used to have a young family and I was never bothered by the noise of the kids playing in the garden. There is a barking dog somewhere near too which is so bloody loud but at least that is not constant I suppose.

Cattery · 02/06/2024 15:06

Cazzovuoi · 02/06/2024 14:27

Adult only apartment complexes and housing estates are my dream.

I can’t stand kids and am always happy to pay premium to avoid them!

Same. I’d love to live in peace

oakleaffy · 02/06/2024 15:05

GrandHighPoohbah · 02/06/2024 14:59

I'd move in if you add wind chimes to the banned list!

Those inane twatty things are really annoying
Tinkly tinkle tinkle -or the bamboo ones than clunky- klonk in an irritating manner.

Thankfully they are hopelessly out of fashion now and not as popular.

Even Feng Shui people online advise against wind chimes outdoors now because of the annoyance factor.
None sound pleasant.

Chanelbasketballandchain · 02/06/2024 15:03

I am in!

I am horrified when I read some of the threads on here, where posters claim it's "normal" for kids to run around, kick balls, scream in a flat , where it's "normal" to put the appliances on at night and have loud parties.

I have kids who did live in a flat, screaming and being a social nuisance is not acceptable.

People are getting used to have their tv on all day, so loud, that they cant' even hear or notice their own kids. It's depressing.

Cazzovuoi · 02/06/2024 15:02

Yes to a dog ban too!!!!

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NoMoreNoisePlease · 02/06/2024 15:00

Wind chimes are a definite no.

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GrandHighPoohbah · 02/06/2024 14:59

I'd move in if you add wind chimes to the banned list!

oakleaffy · 02/06/2024 14:59

Agree 100percent with you @NoMoreNoisePlease
The Thwump Thwump Thwump of fucking trampolines and the screaming

Trampolines sound like heavy people having sex on a rickety bed
THWUMP !CREAK squeak SQUEAK …THWUMP! CREAK SQUEAK…squeak
WHUMP!!

I love silence- birds singing- no grizzly screamy kids or barking dogs

A friend moved to a detached rural place as he hated kid noise so much - the shrill screaming.

Misophonia is real.

User135644 · 02/06/2024 14:58

People are only getting noisier and less considerate.

PaperSheet · 02/06/2024 14:58

fitzwilliamdarcy · 02/06/2024 14:00

In theory yes but I know parents who use the quiet coach on trains in the hope that it helps their noisy kids be quiet (it never works).

I would absolutely love it though. Sick to death of kids screaming and kicking footballs all over the place outside my house when there’s an enormous park 3 minutes away.

I was on a quiet coach once and a family got on with 2 kids who they allowed to watch iPads at a loud volume. When someone reminded them it was the quiet carriage the woman replied she knew that but her kids had autism and needed the quiet coach as they couldn't stand noise from others. But also they couldn't wear headphones so needed to listen to their shows out loud.
So yeah I can imagine loud people will still want to live in quiet apartments for the same reason. THEY want everyone to be quiet but they need allowances to make noise.

PaperSheet · 02/06/2024 14:55

Bingbangboo · 02/06/2024 14:47

I'd move in tomorrow. I'd also add hot tubs, pressure washers, basketballs and people who talk through their car's bluetooth whilst sitting on their drive to the banned list. The woman over the road has a cat scarer machine and the clicking of that drives me mad, but also has no impact at all upon passing cats.

Oh my husband bought a cat scarer thing. As soon as I realised the noise of it I removed it. Not because of me, I couldn't hear it in the house at all. But because I knew it would likely drive others round the bend if they could hear it.

kitsuneghost · 02/06/2024 14:53

Yes. Dog free too.

Gabiabbi · 02/06/2024 14:52

Can I move there too? Absolutely sick of my neighbours - their kids are shoved out in the garden all day and they're allowed to scream constantly, shout, jump over my fence for their balls which are constantly bouncing. I have a daughter and whenever her and her friends started to play at an inconsiderate level I'd tell them to quiet down otherwise they'd be going home. Happened like twice then they learned they'd have to be reasonable otherwise they wouldn't be playing here.

Absolute nightmares to live next to.

CranfordScones · 02/06/2024 14:50

That's a brilliant idea - I'm in...

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NoMoreNoisePlease · 02/06/2024 14:49

And no thumpy shouty people are also not welcome.

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NoMoreNoisePlease · 02/06/2024 14:48

Midnight hoovering would definitely not be allowed. There’d have to be ground rules about things like DIY and noisy chores. Likewise TV volumes and no music in the garden ever! (Unless wearing earphones)

When I say quiet people I mean people who, like me, not only love quiet but are also quiet people,

Of course it’d never be perfect but I do think having strict ground rules and targeting quiet lovers would seriously help to reduce noise. It’d probably have to be adult only though I know that there are many quiet children, I was one, but taking footballs, trampolines and shrieking out of the equation would certainly help.

And yes, if I ever found myself in the position to actually do it you’d all be very welcome.

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Bingbangboo · 02/06/2024 14:47

I'd move in tomorrow. I'd also add hot tubs, pressure washers, basketballs and people who talk through their car's bluetooth whilst sitting on their drive to the banned list. The woman over the road has a cat scarer machine and the clicking of that drives me mad, but also has no impact at all upon passing cats.

DillyDeclutter · 02/06/2024 14:42

I think of myself as a quiet person although I do sing in the kitchen sometimes.

I flatshared with someone who described herself as an extremely quiet person, however she was actually pretty noisy (banging, thumping, shouty phone calls, a tendency to midnight hoovering) whilst also being completely intolerant of any noise at all from anywhere else.

She would have wanted to live in Quiet Housing - would she have been allowed?