AIBU to wish that there was dedicated housing for quiet people?

Move to Germany!

My neighbours didn't realise I was even here for two years as I generally float above floors and through walls - I lip read my tv on silent and communicate only through the written word.

Genuinely don't know how others can be so noisy!

Oh, could you tell me what breed of dog? Or is it just a personality thing? I've never owned a dog grew up with cats and would love to get one because I love them and want to do more walking, but am a bit worried about whether there would be too much barking. If so, I'd probably need to pay for training and/or dog behaviourist and be disciplined in how I train the dog, but what if all that didn't help?

I know some breeds are quieter than others, but I didn't know some never barked at all.

Can't stand noise at night. Hate it as I try to settle to sleep. DH thinks I need to see a GP as he thinks I am too sensitive to noise.

Last night next door neighbours arrived back from a family get together, 9.50pm...fine. but no not fine. They then get in their house then put TV on, keep their 3yo up till midnight....FFS completely unnecessary being so loud. I am early 40s and can't cope with people who have parties laughing and talking loudly into the wee small hours. Shut up some of us need sleep!

Definitely I should be priority for quiet folk only housing!!!

I'll come too if there is immediate eviction for whistling, and vocalised yawns and sneezes.

Unfortunately sometimes noisy things are necessary.

You need to learn to cope with them.

Cos reality.

Whilst older persons living complexes might sound quiet, choose very carefully, due to my work I'm in and out of our local ones and 1 is very quiet, one is party central and the others in between

I'd be up for it. I'm well over 50, but I'm not looking at retirement complexes for relief - with my luck I'd end up with all the superannuated ravers of my generation. It'll be less Darby and Joan than 24 Hour Party People in lovingly preserved vintage bucket hats.

Yes here's my gripes:

Next door neighbors...have spent the whole weekend doing DIY in the garden...all day noise, sound, banging, drill, power tools, music, loud speaking...I can't go into my own garden because it's so bloody loud. Kitchen patio doors have to be shut. Prior to that a few weeks ago they spent 9 days in succession doing DIY in their garden. They also have 4 dogs that not walked that bark at 5.30am, and in the past have played loud music until 2am...a few months ago they were doing DIY at 10.45pm at night in the room next to our bed, or the time they were removing floor tiles at 11.30pm, or came home from a night out and woke us up at 4am...and when we complain they shirty and funny with us, as if we are the ones being disrespectful and anti social... I'm also autistic and it drives me insane. I'd love for all the introverts, highly sensitive people, autistic/neurodiverse people who don't like loud noise to live near each other, the rest who want to be noisy and don't care can live near each other and out do each other and speak above each other's noise.

Oh God, yes please!

Just been chased inside again by neighbour putting his loud banging (shit) music on at full volume. His full grown teenage sons have started kicking the ball repeatedly against the wall (though at least they can't vault over the fence to retrieve it repeatedly now, I planted an edible thorny hedge three years ago to stop that). We've been lucky today, at least the hot tub and 'tiki' bar aren't being used from 10 am until midnight, that's usually what happens every sunny day.

We live in a small victorian terraced house with small gardens.

I have a 7 and 11 year old, I take them to the very nearby park to play football, they've never screamed in the garden and generally busy themselves reading or following interests (hunting for bugs and frogs at the moment). I don't assume the entire road shares my taste in music so wear headphones or play it quietly indoors at quiet tv volume level.

If my other neighbours weren't an elderly lady and a care home for two disabled ladies I would treat fuckwit neighbour to an all day BTS and Jackson Wang-a-thon.

Currently hunting for a rural/seaside house, we wfh so no worries there, though realistically finances mean we have to have a few more summers without use of our garden yet.

Maybe we could crowd fund a small gated community?

That’s for me to decide
and therein is the issue for everyone else.

Of course this is fine if everyone else wants you to do it your way. Or collectively together although just from this thread it’s was to see disagreements in practice.

why should everyone else be silent for you? Why shouldn’t people have bbqs with clinking glasses and chatter on a nice day? No loud music, children playing not screaming, no banging music.

Things that are antisocial are against the law. I’m not antisocial. But your want of me to be quiet doesn’t trump my right to reasonable as defined in law enjoyment.

People like you are the reason most people don't take our disability seriously.

I think that's a little unfair. I started by wondering the same thing, and that eventually led to my NHS diagnosis.

Great idea. The closest you can probably get is a detached bungalow in a road full of other bungalows. No guarantees as they are becoming more popular with younger people but other than age restricted communities it's probably the best you can do.

Yes. I don’t mind the noise of a lawn mower as it is doing its job being noisy. Blasting music is just selfish.

I'll join you too. I'm not looking forward to moving house as it's generally lovely and quiet here. The odd dog will bark but it's no longer than 5 minutes, plenty of children playing and laughing at the nursery but no screamers (except in September with the new intake until the staff have taught them not to scream). Just birdsong, the odd car in the distance and lawn mowing but most neighbours seem to copy each other so when one starts another joins within 15 minutes, then another. The whole street is done in 2 hours and then it's quiet for a fortnight 😂

I can cope with noise if I can guess when it will end such as lawn mowing. It's the 24/7 loud radios, revving bikes, party animals, hot tubs etc that make me murderous 😡

@oakleaffy

I am seriously wondering if I too have autistic traits.

People like you are the reason most people don't take our disability seriously.

@WoollyFurs

What's wrong with plain silence? I don't need constant noise in my life even if it is a "healing frequency".

That is like fingers down a chalk board to me.

I made a post about this, this morning (sort of). I'm autistic too. I hate the neighbours kids playing!!!

I have kids myself but I hate the screaming and football banging against the fence.

Gardening calms me but not here.

YANBU.!

I would also love this!

Also, after being away for a few days, I wish hotels had volume limiters on their TVs (and provided headphones). Some people have music and TV programmes up SO high!

And someone needs to tell the mobile phone companies to reinstate the headphone jacks on devices as well.

This...you don't really notice it as it's background.

%3D%3D

Detached houses sadly are no protection from other peoples' children, builders, loud garden machinery, dogs, outdoor music, hot tubs and all the rest.

A house all by itself in the middle of 10 acres of private land is my dream. It doesn't need to be big.