To think it must be miserable going through life being this angry.

Yes, it's baffling. You wonder how these people live their lives without having a heart attack or some kind of health incident because their blood pressure and cortisol levels must be permanently through the roof. It must be a very miserable existence

You tend to find people like this don't take personal responsibility for their anger, in their minds it will be because someone else did or said something that made them feel angry. So no, it isn't really miserable for them because they don't see it as a problem with themselves. The anger gets externalised and is viewed as a problem with other people.

I worry a great deal about the wives and girlfriends of aggressive dicks. I'd never judge someone who was too frightened or worn down to leave.

I'd hope they weren't one of the 2 women every week murdered by the partner.

YANBU that is a really sad what to live your life

My ex sometimes could be like that but not often. When we were backpacking S.E. Asia we met another couple and went for dinner. The restaurant staff didn't have good English, not surprising since we were not in an English speaking country, and beyond hello and thank you my knowledge of their language was zero so no complaints from me. We managed to get across basically what we wanted (before google translate). He flew off because they got his order wrong 😳 I was morto, the other GF did ask me about it going back to the hostel. We didn't come home as a couple! No idea of age has mellowed or made him worse as I haven't seen him in years.

I had an aggressive boyfriend one of the many reasons I ended it was the shame of being associated with his shit behaviour. Mortifying

Fearing for their own bones I think.

I feel slightly conflicted at the silent wife alongside these angry misogynistic men. Remember one shouting at me that I was a “cunt” his face twisted with hate. I was just cycling along minding my own busjness in my twenties. Wife or partner just sitting there in passenger seat looking down. I think the women are condoning the behaviour by being with the person at all and not speaking up. Afraid i judge them not feel sorry for them.

Probs had a few pints down him.

Although I do like the fact she's seemingly uncowed by a bully of a man, who shouldn't be trying to intimidate someone smaller than him in the first place

I’m really sorry to read this. Sounds like you’d be much better off without him in your life.

There’s every chance that she absolutely does notice. My dad was like this. We were all constantly on the receiving end at home. Mum was scared of him and financially dependent. Dad used to keep telling her that the house and everything in it was his. She could see no way out because he convinced her she’d be penniless and homeless.

I wished you'd moved house without him.

I wonder if it's got worse in recent times. A lot of people are struggling with the cost of living, and that might be a factor.

You were unwise to react to that driver and exacerbate the situation.

Is that true? Probably, often, but I've been known, on the odd occasion, to be unbearably rude over something relatively minor, when I'd reached the end of my tether. Most peole who know me would say I'm invariably polite and mild mannered.

Sad to say but my partner is like this. Constantly pissed off at other drivers and ready to get out the car for a fight. Always thinks people are somehow out to get him or driving badly on purpose. We had to move house as he was so angry with literally everything the neighbours did so now live somewhere with no neighbours. It's exhausting.

She has the choice to stay and have her coffee and not pander to him. She has the choice not to stay married to the nasty man.

I have a customer like this at work. I have to ring her every week, for no reason, other than to placate her (because she is a complainer) and my god. She is so hostile from the start of the call, until the very end. She HATES her neighbours, with a passion even though their only offence is being young. I am going to tell her this week that I won't be calling her any more, and I can't wait. One, because the complaint she'll put in will be entertaining in its bat-shittery and two, because I won't have to talk to her again.

I felt a bit like that when I had depression, it was agitated depression, I ripped everyone’s heads off at any perceived criticism.

Me and DH were once at a friend’s BBQ, and their neighbour came furiously bounding into the back garden through a side gate and shouted “Oi!! Whose is the white car???!!!! It’s blocking my drive get it moved!!”

It was my DH. And actually it wasn’t blocking a drive. The neighbour had done that thing where he’d extended his drive but not put a drop kerb in and when DH parked up he hadn’t seen it was a makeshift drive as it was obscured by a large fence. The car was about 2-3 feet over the not-dropped kerb and there wasn’t even a car on that part of the drive

But DH said “Oh that’s me yeah I’ll move it for you mate” and this guy had NO IDEA what to do when someone responded calmly. In the context of us having a really fun time at a BBQ I just thought what a sad little man this person was

I had a neighbour/sort of friend who was angry about everything and everyone all of the time. Any kind of domestic noise infuriated her. She also badmouthed her so-called friends constantly. I got to the point where I felt like I was walking on eggshells for fear of upsetting her. My heart used to start pounding when I bumped into her. I feel so much lighter at home since she moved on.

I recently let a friendship go because she’d become a very angry, negative and judgemental person. In her case it was more anger and angst at the world, anger at anyone she perceived to be doing better than her or who she perceived as having any sort of privilege. She particularly hated older people as she considered them all rich at the expense of younger people and ‘fucking things up for everyone else’, as were mums who worked part time apparently. It’s a shame because I used to really enjoy her company.

I know an older lady like this, literally flies off the handle at the smallest thing and is very confrontational. It’s a weird way to behave and she probably has lots of negative interactions because she is always on the attack. I’ve been on the receiving end of her outbursts at work a few times! There seems to be zero self awareness with some people that if you are aggressive you aren’t going to get a great reaction back. Life is too short for that shit, it must be an exhausting way to live!

This is my sister. She is absolutely furious constantly and it boils over at slight inconveniences.

When she meets someone who equals her anger, it’s a sight to behold.

She once stood toe to toe at the tip of all places with an angry man who was shouting and swearing at her from in his car for some reason.
She pulled in, threw her door over and flew at his car throwing his door open demanding he get the fuck out and explain himself.
He got out and started screaming in her face and got the same back x 10… the tip fellas stepped in and separated them, she would absolutely have smashed the living shit out of him if he had even raised an eyebrow at her.
She is fearless, does not give a shiny shit who she upsets, offends or intimidates. She is scary.

He was a big bloke, this did not phase her at all. She would have got up and gone back for more of it had got physical with no fucks given.

Let’s just say.. I am VERY low contact with her because she is too difficult to have a relationship with. You never know when she will blow up over nothing.
She must be exhausted all the time with this level of vicious fury.

Sounds like the man is always like it poor wife

Someone I know is always angry and it's never their fault. I think they go around looking for confrontation and fights because they enjoy it.