In the beginning of our relationship the signs were there. But, we bonded through shared issues about our families. He is sensitive, into music, the arts, politics, all things I am too. I thought the match was great. 2 kids later aged 4 and 7, and a lot of personal counselling later. I can see how I have made all decisions while he is too afraid to. He came from a strict up bringing and was never allowed to voice an opinion. But he's just not able to get over it and try to bring any thoughts to family life.He's been in and out of therapy but I don't see any attitude change. Where as I have really sorted my boundaries out and for the better.
I'm exhausted by having all the mental load. Eg today, he mentions taking the kids swimming. Right in front of them. Then wanders off. No further thoughts. Kids excited. He's in a dream land about something else. I ask him what he wants to do re swimming. He looks at floor, shrugs shoulders and say 'ermmmm dunno' as kids are excited now, I'm then trying to work out the day.
This happens with everything. He's like a 3rd child asking to do things. I'm at breaking point. I just can't see a way forward. WWYD?