Was this weird of me at work?

And telling someone they look beautiful in the women's toilet isn't at all weird or creepy?? !

I frequently get complimented on my hair (never the you're beautiful bit) by strangers, men & women - it's always really nice to receive compliments - and if I'm having a bit of a down day it can really boost my mood.

I don't think it's bad but it can feel a bit personal in a work environment or to a stranger. I once had a female colleague who would always comment on my hair - we worked in a dept full of men and it always made me a bit self-conscious. They never got comments! And also had a female colleague who would go on about how beautiful one of our colleagues were. This colleague was very beautiful - but a) I didn't really think about my colleague like that until it was raised. b) It did make you feel a bit like, what am I, chopped liver?! When she kept going on about how stunning someone else was. Felt a bit high schoolish.

By referring to them as barbie dolls?

There's definitely a difference there I agree. Ideally both shouldn't happen but the complimenting someone's dress sense when you know them and perhaps have discussed fashion over the years is way more acceptable

No this is lovely. Women should be building each other up!

I think it's fine to compliment someone, not weird or creepy, especially in a private ish area like the toilets. It's not like you've drawn attention to her looks in a meeting.

I do like giving compliments and I'm very happy to receive them too.

I agree. This person doesn't know you and could easily misunderstand your intentions.

It just gets worse and worse...

Perhaps it’s the difference between -

Scenario A where my long term colleague Jane walks past my office door and says “hey nightmaries what a lovely skirt that is! Where did you get it?”

Scenario B where a person in my organisation who I don’t know says “excuse me, you don’t know me, but I just wanted to say your hair is really beautiful.”

A wouldn’t even register with me, B would possibly make me go “erm” and then think okay cool hair looks good. I guess

Compliments are lovely to get, and the ones I've had throughout my life have stuck with me!

No, not weird, OP. That was lovely and seems like it made her happy. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life. I wish more people were positive towards others if they notice anything nice about them 😁 She might have really needed that compliment.

@User1979289 I would consider caution approaching strangers and complimenting them. The woman I know would have maced you 🤣

It’s lovely. I’d be thrilled to get a compliment like this. Now, think about it like this: your colleague doesn’t think it’s nice to compliment another woman. She also decided to tell you this to make you feel uncomfortable and embarrassed rather than just privately think her stupid thought. That tells you everything you need to know about her. You = generous with compliments, like making people feel good. Her = doesn’t like other women to get big heads. Likes to pull nice people down. If you haven’t heard of him, Google Troy Hawke and see why most people would prefer your behaviour in the office.

she's wrong! Utterly wrong. I compliment every time I think something is wonderful as a general rule. I once crossed the road to tell a very elderly woman she looked stunning - why not? Spread some cheer! https://www.tiktok.com/@lalalandkindcafe/video/6948593899619224837?lang=en

So today's answer to what are women today "a piece of art,"🤣🤣😂😂

@Handsomesquidward

Just ment to say admiring someone in platonic way paying them a complement whithout doing it for personal gain

Is a wonderful thing,

Is just like admiring a good work of art 🎨 or something...🤔

@Handsomesquidward

I complement women ones i know or dont know, sometimes or occasionally,
🤷 usaully about if they have cool foot wear or acctractive clothes i like,

I think it's only natural to notice,
be (platonic= non- sexual) acctracted to something acctractive whether people or what people wear or anything really as a matter of fact,

In our sexual obsessed centric society some people think if someone admires something 🙄 🤔 personal about someone it must be they fancy them
whether heterosexual or Gay sexually way or Bi sexual way,
Unfortunately it's just another way western society skewed optics way of perceiving stuff,
that's it really...

like admiring lovely art work piece

Your friend could be a bit envious of this other long locks her crowing glory that everyone else can't help noticing too..

I was complimented on my hair on a day I was seriously considering getting it all lopped offf.

So do it.

I work with someone like this who is v attractive and dresses very stylishly gets comments like this all the time. Because it happens so often, she says she hates it because in a work context she finds it stressful having to 'respond or react to the compliment every time particularly when it is 'influential' senior partners. she stresses about what to say because thank you every time seems very repetitive to the same people.

There's nothing wrong in complimenting peopel or being nice but in a work environment particularly with very attractive who get it all the time it may be a bit better to avoid.

Appreciating beauty is part of being human. You are definitely NBU

I often compliment women on what they're wearing or how nice their hair/make-up looks - both family members, as well as random strangers. I told a bloke the other day that he smelt gorgeous. He knew I wasn't chatting him up, he's younger than my sons (and I added that too)

Ask yourself why you think it's in any way acceptable

Considering you lost me at the first "Simples" I really don't know what to do with the second one... If I was in a car I might just drive it into a wall.

I work in a traditional office environment and do not see any issue with a pleasant compliment on a woman's hair. It is different when comments are made that are negative or seem to mean more than just saying something nice. My boss will usually notice after I cut my hair and it does not seem inappropriate to me.

I do not think it is right for a workplace to be so sensitive that you are no longer allowed to give a compliment.