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Was this weird of me at work?

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Handsomesquidward · 02/06/2024 11:32

I'm a straight woman, I work in a semi-formal office environment. We have a young girl there who has beautiful long, blonde Rapunzel hair and who is just beautiful in general.
I haven't really spoken to her as she's in another department. I saw this girl and I just said 'Hi I hope you don't mind me saying, just wanted to say I really love your hair, you look beautiful!'
She seemed really happy I'd said it and appreciated it.
My other colleague was in the toilets too and had heard, she told me it was really weird and creepy id said that.
I feel so embarrassed now and wonder if I shouldn't have said anything. I was just trying to be nice, I imagine some women would be very jealous of her and she gets some cattiness, I don't think I said anything inappropriate.
Just wondered what others think? Surely it's a sad world where you can't compliment people.

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowItHaveAGin · 02/06/2024 11:40

Imo it is a bit weird to tell a random woman in the work toilets that she looks beautiful. That's more of a pub toilet thing.

Complimenting people is absolutely lovely, but it could be misconstrued in a work environment, as your friend has demonstrated.

HasToStop · 02/06/2024 11:39

I think it's lovely when women compliment other women. I tend to do it more on achievements than on looks but I'm always complimenting my colleagues at work and I would never take credit for something they've done. I always make sure I acknowledge them when they've done really well.

LightSpeeds · 02/06/2024 11:39

That's great! With all the misery in the world, at the moment, it feels good to get a compliment.

Fiery30 · 02/06/2024 11:39

You did nothing wrong. It's really nice of you to compliment her. Often people think it but don't say anything. We do at my workplace all the time, to men and women. Brings a smile to someone's face 🙂

BranchGold · 02/06/2024 11:37

I think compliments are nice to do, especially when it’s regarding something someone has actively chosen, so you’re complimenting their taste or the effort they’ve made.

I think it’s generally best to steer away from statements like ‘you’re beautiful’ in a workplace though.

WetBandits · 02/06/2024 11:36

Aw no, I think that was lovely of you to say. There are some people who don’t like compliments but I think they are the minority, and it’s a nice little boost for most people.

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Handsomesquidward · 02/06/2024 11:35

greengreyblue · 02/06/2024 11:35

I think it was fine. I pay compliments to people all the time. Not just about appearance . Don’t overthink it. Your colleague is being weird.

Thank you, I'm glad you think so. I like to pay compliments too but some people think they're overstepping.

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Tempnametoday · 02/06/2024 11:35

I compliment people all the time. Not creepy at all.

I love being complimented too, usually my eyes or my teeth 😂, nothing else. Funnily enough though I am paranoid about my eyes, I have a lazy eye which was corrected around 20 years ago but it still sometimes drifts.

greengreyblue · 02/06/2024 11:35

I think it was fine. I pay compliments to people all the time. Not just about appearance . Don’t overthink it. Your colleague is being weird.

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