To dislike it when men post on mumsnet?

@MakeTheRumourTrue

Facinanting that the thread about the size of penises was answered by women.

The one about a 'porn type' sex act by men and within a minute so there are people waiting to pounce.
First and last time on there for me. 😁

For years mumsnet refused to have a sex board, as they said they thought it would attract trolls and pervs. They weren’t wrong.

Yes it is. But I don’t object to childless women using it for the reasons I described.

@Howbizarre22 but you said it’s “by mums for mums”.

I just had a look on the sex board (never have before in twenty plus years). Started with nappy cream and the mummy mafia, now at adult children back home.

First thread, 90% male responders. Female poster. I don't think I'd ask a question there.

I've always assumed that much like many of us have found Mumsnet they Google advice on...(Sleep/behaviour etc) .then get a list of sites and have a read add a thread etc. I certainly never searched for a site for women only man hating mothers. For a long time I stuck to childcare threads. It's only recently I've read others and realised lots of women hate men ....and I know there are a lot of arse holes (had my share) but I hope we're doing our bit as mothers to change the future. Speaking out not putting up with it etc.

I don't get it you don't like them saying from the start I'm a man but then any post that isn't agreeing must almost certainly be a man doesn't that mean it's better for them to say to start with then if you don't want to know what they have to say you can just skip past?
I've never understood the point of a thread that doesn't want all opinions and debate that's how we develop as people maybe posts should start I only want affirmation answers?

@ASighMadeOfStone ,

Let me try one more time for you!

I am not a hypocrite as I think this site is for ANYONE who wants to post, as long as they obey the site rules.

What I object to is NOT non parents posting (how you got that from any of my posts, I have no idea. It is a manifestation of your bias, not based on any objective parsing of my words) but non parents objecting to half of all parents posting (yes, that will be us men) on a parenting site. To me, this it total hypocrisy.

And I didn’t say all men are evil and all women are saintly, did I?

This thread is about men posting on mumsnet and I picked out the sort of men that I find problematic here. I also said some men here are fine and no issue at all. Also some posters may be men and I’d have no idea. But I can talk about the problematic ones without it saying all men are a problem.

They start "dad here" so later on they don't get called out, and to make it clear they understand their experience is possibly different posts on here are very quick to claim men are different, don't understand, closet pedophiles, abusive etc they probably feel being open is less threatening. Maybe you should start a site for women only then it's open to all identifying as a woman?

But when the vast majority of their posts about women being bad, stories of men being wronged by women and double standards etc, you know why they’re here. They have an agenda.

Hello, man here! 🤣

I'm probably exactly the sort of poster you hate OP, I spend most of my time on AIBU, relationships, and FWR. Mainly because they're the three topics most likely to show up in trending.

I don't tend to announce myself as a man, unless there's a reason for it. If I start talking about my own relationship I will, because otherwise people assume I'm a lesbian when I mention DP is she. And I'll often comment on threads that feature things like Erectile dysfunction, and mention that I have the relevant equipment. I may also mention I'm male if someone is in an abusive relationship and one of her reasons for not leaving is that the next relationship would be just the same. I think it can be helpful on threads like that to point out that some men find that behaviour abhorrent, and that you don't have to put up with it because "that's just what men are like"

FWR is different, I lurk there a lot, and it's been hugely important to me in terms of evolving my views on womens rights and the trans issue. But I almost never post there unless someone's specifically asking how to get men to engage on an issue.

The one area I'd agree with you OP that men should be barred from is the sex topic. It's grim over there, and I stay well clear. How Mumsnet would achieve that though I don't know.

No because a lotnjj ohf the issues discussed are not parent related ie about relationships. I see it as a safe space for women.

At every possible turn, they post about mumsnets double standards and poor men. Some admit they’re men, some pose as women."

But there ARE double standards on Mumsnet. And they're pretty rife. I comment on them, and I'm very much female and a mother of daughters.
I do however, find a lack of logic very difficult to scroll past, even though I invariably get acccused of NAMALTing when it involves me questioning an illogical assumption about a male.

Not all men are evil and not all women are saintly.

😂😂

Check IDs... 🤣🤣🤣

I can’t stand the men that hang around the sex board. Often they post on the relationships board too but only on threads talking about sex. Something very off about a man trawling through threads on here to talk about sex, often sharing unnecessary details about their sexual interests. When they resurrect a thread from years ago to do it...🤮

Then there are the ones that present themselves as ‘Mr Pretty Much Perfect’, who apparently come here for advice on their relationship because their wife/partner isn’t interested in them. The language used, the style of writing, again, something often feels off. Sometimes I think it’s for attention from women, other times their mask slips and they’re just a misogynistic man looking to tell women how wrong they are.

Then there’s the obvious MRA types that post on every thread possible about women being the problem in society, how they’re just as violent as men etc. At every possible turn, they post about mumsnets double standards and poor men. Some admit they’re men, some pose as women.

But, I’ve come across some men that post that seem fine and I have no issue with those men.

Well said

Men are parents too

I would prefer it to be women only too. But I realise that's impossible.

@Howbizarre22 do you also object to childless women posting here?

the only ones making "everything about men" on here are.. people like you.

The rest of us who have no issue about male or female posters are not actually bothered, they are just replying to you - or to the OP.

I still don't know why you'd expect a parenting site to be a female only space for a start?

I have no interest in women-only sites personally. I can't think of any subject where a man wouldn't be able to bring an opinion or a advice just because he happens to be male. Trolls can be just as nasty if they are female, and are equally unwanted.
I mean, even my obstetrician happened to be male and I have no complaint!

If you want a female-only site, I am sure there are some, or you can create your own. Having an issue about an existing site where male have a place is odd.

It depends what the topic is. Usually you wouldn't know it was a man posting unless they announce it, which I dislike. I also hate when a man responds to a woman on the sex board, on a topic that he would have no experience or knowlege of. For example, a woman asking about difficulty orgasming and then a man comes on and says " try this vibrator, this sex position,my wife likes this etc.." Just butt out, you might know what your wife likes, but you don't have firsthand experience and this isn't your opportunity to get yourself all worked up.

Well 20 years ago when I joined it was just mums on Mumsnet but I'm thinking inclusivity - around males in general or trans male parents, became more of a factor that it used to be, hence the modernisation of the tagline "Mumsnet - by Parents for Parents".