Do your parents help you out with money without you asking

I’m in the same situation just now OP, my car broke down last week, I started a new job this week and i need a car for it so I’ve been hiring a car to get to work. I found out my car is basically unfixable and my mum and step dad offered to pay the outstanding finance on it so I could buy a new car, it was £3000! I’ve never been offered money or anything by them before so it was a massive shock. I actually declined the offer as I felt so uncomfortable about it but they paid it into my bank account anyway so I have just thanked them profusely. Although I didn’t want to accept it I actually cried with relief as i thought I would have to give up my job without a car.

My dad is dead and my mother barely talks to me

To answer the OP’s question, yes, but my parents have the mindset that their money is no use to them when they’re dead and that so long as they are not leaving themselves short they prefer to see what they’ve got being used to help us out now if we need it.
All of us at one time or another have borrowed money from them which we’ve paid back over timescales we can afford but we’ve also received unasked for and very generous handouts towards hefty repairs, big purchases or holidays.

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They absolutely wouldn’t.
My mum would help if I asked but unless I was at the point where I couldn’t feed my kids I’d never ask for a penny for anyone. I’ve got too much pride but I’d swallow that for my kids.

I earn more part time than my parents do full time. I'd never ask them for money. I have no doubt that if I asked they would attempt to help. Whenever we visit my mum cooks me food she then preps in tubs for me to stick in the freezer for when one of the kids is ill or I don't want to cook. That's her way of helping me right there.

I see my job as a parent to support them as children, encourage then in their education, jobs, training and support them emotionally so they grow into mature, thoughtful people. I want to give them all the skills to be independent adults and once they get there I expect them to manage their own lives. I hope to be able to help with advice, childcare and treats but no I wouldn't expect to pay their bills.

My mum bought me a set of three saucepans and a cook book before I left for college. That was it. 😁

Yes I would. I've just given my daughter £5000 to help her out. I pay half her car finance and paid for nearly everything in her new flat.
I love helping my children if I'm able to

My parents wouldn't know about it.

But if they did know - yes, they probably would help, if asked.

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Children didn't ask to be brought into this world, I also see them as a life long responsibility.
And as pp said it can go both ways, who knows what will be fall any of us

My parents (dead) and PIL absolutely would and do help. It’s not expected but very much appreciated. I would also help my children if I was able to.

It depends on the situation, but yes if I was stick and didn't have access to cash that was needed quickly they would lend me the money until I was in a position to pay it back. Which I always would and have previously.

Yes if they saw me struggling they would help. They helped us financially when we were finding our feet. My parents became successful financially when I was an adult so they are keen to share what we didn’t have growing up.

my DHs parents would also help if they saw us in need. They don’t have a lot so we would likely refuse help if we could. We’ve helped out SIL a fair bit, just to get her up on her feet with a house. It’s what family is about for us. We’ll all need to rely on each other for something at some point, not necessarily financial.

Not all families work the same though.

We were and we (OH and I) truly realised that.
My parents were very much of the mindset that children (even middle-aged children) are their responsibility and if they were in a position to help (whether asked or not), they would.
They were always dumbfounded when they heard of parents unwilling (not unable) to help their offspring.

No. My parents paid for my £5k wedding and that is the only financial gift I have been given by them. ILs have been more generous over the years but I would never ask for money.

My dad wouldn’t, my mom would at least give at least something to help out. I would help my DD if she needed it but she has much more money in savings than I do - I would actually need her to help me out 😂

No.
They have given me nothing financially, emotionally, physically or otherwise since I was 16.
They couldn’t give a shiny shite about me and my troubles.
I do know that they help out my sibling a lot thpugh.

Yes. My parents are very well off and I am very much not. They have so much money and live a fairly basic life so they are able to help me. I had an emergency home repair situation recently which I put on credit card and when my mum asked about it I told her, and she gave me the money to pay it. Literally small change for her but would have taken me months and months to pay off.

I don’t think my parents would help, no. That being said, I would help my children, and I expect a part of that is because I know what it’s like to not have help. I wouldn’t let my children struggle unnecessarily.

My dad has never contributed a penny to my life and my mum hasn't done anything beyond provide the bare essentials until I left at 18. No neither would ever offer me 2k. Now, if you asked my brother you'd get a different answer.

No. Not my parents they don’t have much and I just couldn’t take it from them knowing that. They wouldn’t offer anyway
my in laws would offer, but again 2k is a massive amount imo
hope you get it sorted op

I was about to write the exact same thing

Same here. Honestly, I'd be a bit embarrassed to ask, so it would very much be a last resort after exploring every other option.

No, you're a grown up.. you shouldn't be relying on your parents. It's a bit embarrassing you'd even expect that