Do your parents help you out with money without you asking

Even if they could afford it and you badly needed it for your family??

My parents regularly give my siblings money but never me. I’ve never been able to work out why that is.

Mine would definitely offer to help as would my husbands

I often take him and his lartner out for dinner or use Christmas and Birthdays to buy them little luxuries they wouldn't otherwise afford.

No. My dad is a tenant farmer on a state pension. I am a higher rate tax payer with decent savings. I would be fucking embarrassed to take any money from him.

I helped out my mum for many years. She was so bad with money I had to give her a weekly allowance though.

I paid for her holidays abroad to Europe, america. Paid for new decor in all her flats.

She was champagne tastes, beer money 🙈

No, and if they did, I wouldn’t take it.

I would ask and they would always say yes. But, I have an excellent track record for paying them and before them my grandparents back - always early or on time - and have done since my grandad got my first car for me! Paid him back every week like clockwork. They also offer when I haven’t asked.

If I was unreliable I doubt they’d lend me money at all tbh.

No, I actually help them with money. They haven't given me any money since I finished uni.

I would automatically help my adult children if I could. I would also expect them to ask if I hadn't noticed.

My family never helped us financially. My in laws did once we paid it back. My BIL had no children so helped ours out.

We're helping out now.

Pay it forward.

I don't see the point in waiting till we're gone when our children are in the most expensive time of their lives.

Yep and I’m 56🥴.
It usually happens when my db (54) has made another cock up with his life and they’ve had to bail him out again. My parents used to pay for odd things unnecessarily, for example we were buying a 2nd hand car & they gave 2k towards it or paying the outstanding balance on our kitchen.
It happens every 2-5years and varying amounts. All very nice & never asked for but I could never work out why. It was my dh who worked out what was going on.
I used to get cross about my db needing bailouts but I justify it: my parents can afford it now, my db needs their help, they make it equal.
Plus db has a life limiting condition (self inflicted by his own admission) so it’s unlikely he’ll ever get his share of an inheritance. Although dm is starting to show signs of dementia so no doubt he’ll get to avoid dealing with that too.
That said we’re in the process of moving house and my dad has offered the extra 75k so we won’t need a mortgage.
We also would help our children out financially without them having to ask.

It’s hard for families nowadays. The cost of living, mortgage rates, childcare etc. In an ideal world there would be savings etc for emergencies, but reality isn’t like that as everything costs so much just to get from one month to the next.
If your children work hard and are doing their best, I would find it sad that parents wouldn’t help out if they are in a position to do so. It seems cold and mean not to. That is what families are about. Being there for each other.

Thats quite sad tbh.
Theres no shame in needing help.

I just name change every time they do it. I’m surprised MN haven’t banned them yet tbh.

Yes absolutely if they could. I don't understand parents who'd watch their kids even as adults struggle for something as essential as a car repair if they had means to offer help.

Mine are dead now but they were always giving us money. The older they got, the more money they off-loaded.

One of my sisters was less well off than the rest of us and my parents were always helping them even more. They bought her every car and household appliance she ever owned.

No. My mother probably would have until we were 25 or so.

My parents would, and have done for my sister, who's needed some financial support through different circumstances.

My ILs just wouldn't, despite being fair wealthier than my parents.

Nope. I'm lucky if my mum offers to pay for lunch.

This covers it exactly.👍

My DM would have given me the food off her plate. Nothing made her happier than giving to her children and grandchildren. She was also really aware of the unfairness of wealth sitting with one generation due to eg property values, student loans which meant she was determined to help when she could. I will absolutely do the same for my children.

Correct but the way the poster posted it, their dad was contributing a couple of hundred quid as he wanted to help reduce the stress but you are correct

Ha! I wish. My mum never did because my dad never paid maintenance so she scraped by and dad hoards everything, including money. Refuses to even spend on his house which is falling down around his ears (because he refuses to spend on it). He has already told me there won't be anything for me when he goes by pretending to be worried I won't have any money when I am old, so I am fairly sure I've been signed out of the will, even though I'm the only child. It's funny because as a kid he wanted to be the "cool dad" so would let me spend hours shopping and pay for it rather than show proper love. Now he's angry if I go on holiday with my own money, no chance of offering any of his!

Exactly this and I would expect to do the same. That’s what a family is.