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If one spouse wants to rehome a dog, and the other doesn't, who should get their way?

208 replies

AnonAnonEmouse · 01/06/2024 20:19

As title. Currently a huge source of tension in our home. In cases where a couple disagree on having another child say, on here the consensus is that the one who doesn't want one should get their way. Would the same principle apply here?

For the purposes of voting:
YABU - the one who no longer wants the dog should get their way
YANBU - the dog should stay

OP posts:
nomoneymoreproblems · 01/06/2024 20:23

I'd get rid of my partner before rehoming either of my dogs

VivaVivaa · 01/06/2024 20:23

Your analogy re: more DC doesn’t work at all.

Depends entirely why you/your partner want to rehome the dog.

LordSnot · 01/06/2024 20:23

If there's no compromise then generally the status quo wins out. So that means no creating a new child in one scenario, and no rehoming a dog that's already a part of the family in the other scenario.

Dragonsandcats · 01/06/2024 20:23

Depends why you want to rehome it - if it is aggressive or your child has turned out to be allergic then yes, otherwise I don’t think pets should be treated as disposable.

GCAcademic · 01/06/2024 20:22

JustTalkToThem · 01/06/2024 20:21

The analogy of the extra kid doesn’t hold. It would hold if you were thinking about getting a new dog.

you’ve already committed to this dog. Unless there’s aggression that can’t be solved with dedicated work, you should uphold that commitment

Yep. The dog stays. The partner who doesn’t want to live with it can leave. The relationship will be over anyway.

JustTalkToThem · 01/06/2024 20:21

The analogy of the extra kid doesn’t hold. It would hold if you were thinking about getting a new dog.

you’ve already committed to this dog. Unless there’s aggression that can’t be solved with dedicated work, you should uphold that commitment

BubblePerm · 01/06/2024 20:20

Rehome the spouse who doesn't want the poor dog.

coconutpie · 01/06/2024 20:20

What is the reason for re homing the dog?