dc’s dad (my ex) has seen dc every weekend since he was born. He’s now 2 and 7 months. He’s told me today that he’s had to accept a job that is a 5 hour drive away and 4.5 hour train journey. The reasons for this are related to the sort of work he can do, though I do suspect he is choosing the best job in terms of what suits him and his career prospects, rather than taking a similar paid job closer… but obviously I don’t know for sure and can’t force him to stay closer.
He’s not yet said how it will impact seeing ds other than he ‘clearly can’t do every weekend.’ He has never had ds in the week so that won’t change anyway, I’ve always been left to do all the work while working full time myself!
I am wary of rocking the boat too much as he does contribute financially and is highly paid. I don’t want to cause a huge row and while things between us are quite hostile (I won’t go into that!), we have managed to be civil for ds. I also think if we are in better terms he may help with a fortnightly cleaner or something as I am obviously going to find it hard keeping on top of the house while working full time and not getting a moment from one week to the next.
Basically.. I’m just worried about how this will impact ds? Will he even have a good relationship with his dad if he barely sees him? I don’t even want to ask how often he’s planning on seeing him as I feel like I will get upset and angry he could move that far in the first place. He has said it’s an awful position he is in but he has to take the job. I don’t know if he will plan every other weekend, is that reasonable to expect?
Anyone have any experience? Am I worrying too much?