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What’s up with the ‘out and about’ brigade?

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Nayouknow · 01/06/2024 16:26

You know the ones. ‘I like to be out and about’ brigade. The ‘I’d be climbing the walls if I didn’t leave the house every day’ crew. The people who view time spent in their homes to be ‘wasted’ and time spent outside it to somehow automatically be more rewarding/interesting/energising/virtuous/insert positive.

I’ve only really come across this sort of mentality on MN and I find it fascinating. What’s their deal? Do they not like their homes? Do they have no indoor pursuits that they enjoy enough to be occupied for one day? Is it the actual outside air (not to be confused with the air in their gardens, as those of them who have gardens are generally very clear that hanging out in the garden isn’t sufficient)? Are they hardcore extroverts?

Like everyone else I know, I like to go out and I like to stay in. Walks are nice. Activities are nice. Spending a weekend at home cooking/reading/watching box sets/playing with DS is also nice. Based on their comments, the aforementioned crew would consider the latter a ‘wasted weekend’.

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Spirallingdownwards · 01/06/2024 16:33

I am much more a home and shut up shutters type!

WearyAuldWumman · 01/06/2024 16:32

In my case, it's because I'm widowed and it's the only time I see other people.

I have no children of my own, no siblings and spent more than 20 yrs working full time and caring for adult relatives. My social skills are - as you may have guessed - not terribly well developed.

It's been suggested that I'm on the spectrum. Quite possible: I got a formal diagnosis of OCD when I was 36 and once one younger family member was diagnosed with Asperger's, it made a lot of sense with regard to other family members. I worked as a secondary school teacher, but found that I could put on an act in the classroom. The one area where I sometimes slipped was with eye contact.

I was fine when my DH was still here, but find the need to get out of the house now. I often go to a farm cafe that DH and I frequented: I can watch the fields from my chair, have lunch and listen to the chatter around me.

ByCupidStunt · 01/06/2024 16:32

We're all different.