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Pippin24 · 01/06/2024 16:21

I’m visiting Belfast today to see extended family. My dad’s family are from Ireland/n Ireland I try to get over a few times per year. I’m in my aunts house and we had planned a picnic in the garden which has steadily been interrupted by orange bands marching up a down a road not far from her. It’s a terrible noise and apart from the assault to the ears seems entirely pointless- I cannot believe in this day and age this is still happening.

it’s a mixed area faith wise and my aunt is so embarrassed about it. My husband has just arrived back from a walk where he managed to see some of the march and has informed me that there are a shit ton of the marchers drinking - singing anti catholic/Irish songs and generally behaving badly. Surely there are rules around this? Grown men with younger kids marching drunk and causing a disturbance. Culture is one thing - this isn’t it. Rant over!

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 02/06/2024 16:23

A bit of a side question I know, but why are rehearsals needed for any of these marches?
These aren't state occasions with massed ranks of troops and countless vehicles, but a bunch of folk walking along with banners and various bands - and if the bands need to rehearse they can presumably do it in a hall somewhere

It's hard not to wonder if it's really just another opportunity to encourage division and hope for a ruck along the way

stressedespresso · 02/06/2024 15:21

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Abhannmor · 02/06/2024 13:36

That's the beauty of the Good Friday Agreement @suki1964 . There's something in it for everyone. You can have a British passport or an Irish one. Or both. You can identify as British, Irish , Northern Irish or any combination thereof. Or indeed European. There is the possibility of joint sovereignty or a federal system - which seem a more feasible option than a United Ireland tbh. Although the door is left open for that depending on a sizeable majority in favour I'd imagine.

In retrospect the GFA seems like a miracle of diplomacy. Except to a small group of extremists on either side. Like Michael Gove , who described it as ' treason '. In any event the issue of sovereignty didn't seem that pressing in 1998. There was an open border with free trade in a single market. The fact we were all in the EU seemed to have helped defuse the tension and given a bit of perspective.

But then ....

suki1964 · 02/06/2024 12:01

I have to say I often find English people of Irish and Northern Irish extraction to be particularly zealous, simplistic and opinionated on this.

I have to admit, I was one of those, being English with Irish parents

Now living here for 20 years married to a Northern Irish man, I see things very differently now

Things have moved on so much these past 25 years - for the better. Indeed some of the changes have been very very fast when you think of it

When I came over, I refused point blank to move anywhere near my husbands home - because it was still very very divided . I remember walking down the town with his kids and carrying on walking when the kids said ' we dont go down that end , this is our end " and it saddened me and that was just 25 years ago. Now those two kids as I say that grew up in a very very divided community have married Catholics and send the grandkids to integrated schools and the kids get to try any sport or out of school activity they wish, mix with whoever they wish and shop and socialise in any part of that town without fear

A PP has mentioned that she lived here through the troubles ( as did my husband ) and they saw the devastation it bought first hand ( husband was held with a gun to his forehead whilst his boss was shot, many of his friends were blown up ) and hes seen his children grow up and now our grandchildren not having to bear witness to that

And no the history of NI was never taught in the schools. I remember having a conversation with my MIL, a few years after FIL had died and she telling me that she had finally got herself an education about Ireland and the forming of NI through reading and she was very troubled over what she had never known , that she felt her entire lifes beliefs were based on very simplistic views

And I think really that's most people, their idealism comes from very simplistic beliefs because they really haven't studied Irish history. I cant say I know too much, but I do know that living here has stopped me from thinking that uniting Ireland is the answer , and perhaps not the best solution - definitely not now anyway

DotDashDot24 · 02/06/2024 11:51

Summertimeagain · 02/06/2024 11:16

I'm assuming the "they "referred to here are Ulster Protestants.A large percentage of this entire post is pure hate speech against a particular section of the community in NI.
Try targeting any other section of the community and see how that progresses.

Sorry, that poster responded to a post as though the post was about Ulster scots/unionists, but the original post actually seemed to be referring to marches. That's what I meant.

DotDashDot24 · 02/06/2024 11:49

Having them go on from March - July is ridiculous

You want marching bands to practice without marching.

There's only so much they can practise in a hall.
Going around a field/stadium is also not totally equivalent. And most of them would be wet & muddy if you matched around them, because it never stops raining here.

They probably can't even use municipal facilities - because people might kick off about those being used by those type of organisations, I don't know.

(They also do it partly to raise money for the instruments and uniforms etc.)

Abhannmor · 02/06/2024 11:33

Summertimeagain · 02/06/2024 11:16

I'm assuming the "they "referred to here are Ulster Protestants.A large percentage of this entire post is pure hate speech against a particular section of the community in NI.
Try targeting any other section of the community and see how that progresses.

Simply observing that Scottish Protestants settled in the North of Ireland during the Ulster Plantation is not hate speech. It is just a part of history. Which pp have complained nobody ever told them about. After all nobody can blame people for stuff that happened 400 years ago. Apart from some crank I guess. I think most people neither celebrate it nor mourn it really.

Boatonalake · 02/06/2024 11:20

Which entire post are you referring to @Summertimeagain?

Summertimeagain · 02/06/2024 11:16

DotDashDot24 · 01/06/2024 18:57

I think she's referring to marches lol

I'm assuming the "they "referred to here are Ulster Protestants.A large percentage of this entire post is pure hate speech against a particular section of the community in NI.
Try targeting any other section of the community and see how that progresses.

newnamethanks · 02/06/2024 11:01

Utterly incomprehensible to any of us in England and Wales without Irish connections. Pointless macho displays of blokey braggadocio with spurious religious message. They are a shameful, antiquated playtime for bigots.

noctilucentcloud · 02/06/2024 10:55

I was taught some history of Northern Ireland and Ireland around 30 years ago for a GCSE in England. I struggled to understand then and still struggle now, I think because I haven't lived there. The closest I can think of is that I intuitively understand the Miner's Strikes and all the fall out, struggles and anger because I lived in the area even though I was too young to be aware. I now live on the west coast of Scotland and see the sectarian undercurrent, particularly related to football. It's no day to day but I hadn't come across that before I moved here and still struggle to understand. (England is far from perfect but doesn't have the same sectarianism in my experience.)

I don't like the marches and the undercurrents that come with it and that some seem to be antagonistic. But I understand that it is part of the culture of Northern Ireland and that changes can't be imposed and will take time. I don't really know what the solution is.

implantsandaDyson · 02/06/2024 10:52

History GCSE includes the topic Changing Relations : NI & its Neighbours 1965-1988, its on the CCEA syllabus and is one of four topics that can be chosen.
I've found that quite a lot of schools here in NI that would refer to themselves as diverse and inclusive would rather gouge their own eyes out with a spoon than teach it.

Boatonalake · 02/06/2024 10:48

MoreCraicPlease · 02/06/2024 09:37

For those who don’t see the negative attitudes towards the diaspora and particularly their children, I refer you to the commonly used term “plastic paddies” which I’ve heard all over Ireland to refer to these people. These are the same kids who have returned year on year to spend school holidays with granny and grandad and might have two Irish parents, yet are “the English” (despite not having a UK passport in many cases). The same when they support Ireland at Twickenham. Oh the “banter”.

I agree wholeheartedly about the education part. I believe colonialism is taught in UK curriculum now which is helpful. There’s so much damage to unpick and there are many countries to discuss.

@MoreCraicPlease
But thinking someone is a "plastic paddy" - which is usually based in frustration about wrong or incomplete or out-dated assumptions some of the diaspora have about Ireland - is not at all the same as your claim that Irish people "laugh at them and their descendents for having to leave". It's not nearly the same thing.

Really.
Nobody is laughing about emigration.
Nobody's laughing at those who left - in many cases because they had literally no other choice.

How can you even think that?

Abhannmor · 02/06/2024 10:36

Divilabit · 02/06/2024 08:50

What a bizarre post. Who is ‘ridiculing and despising’ the Irish diaspora? Who thinks emigration is funny? Why would their ‘Irish blood’ have anything to do with the success’ of emigrants?

I lived in England for decades. It's not that we were ridiculed - that would have entailed acknowledging our existence. We were an irrelevance to official Ireland at best , an embarrassment at worst. Mary Robinson was the first President to show any interest in us.

I remember once having a conversation with a very left wing feminist nurse from Dublin. Foolishly I suggested that we emigrants might have the vote for a limited period - like British and American people. Well , you'd think I had suggested the death of the first born children. Incandescent she was. And that's how cherished we were.

I think for a lot of us , Protestant or Catholic , we were really only at home on the ferry. 🛥

LlynTegid · 02/06/2024 10:34

Orange marches should be a thing of the past, and indeed other marches such as those commemorating the Easter Rising. There should be gatherings and memorial events instead.

Won't happen though.

DanielGault · 02/06/2024 10:23

stressedespresso · 01/06/2024 22:21

Not touched on whatsoever it would seem - even here in NI it’s not taught as part of history GCSE as it was deemed too divisive of a subject.. beggars belief

I met a UK history teacher in a pub in Dublin once and she genuinely had no idea of the origins of the Troubles. No idea whatsoever. So the kids have no hope. She just seemed to to accept the idea that NI people were murderous bastards and never questioned where that came from!

Divilabit · 02/06/2024 10:07

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 02/06/2024 09:39

You know what people asay about people making assumptions re others
HTH

@DistinguishedSocialCommentator, m not making any assumptions about you. Your widespread lack of knowledge is manifest in all your posts, including, ironically, about university education you appear to think is useless, but which would give you, in some instances, knowledge and nuance you patently lack.

Re negative attitudes to the diaspora — I don’t see ‘plastic paddies’, n itself a dopey term, but one emerging from cultural cringe due to internalised colonial attitudes, as indicating any kind of general negativity. Virtually everyone has spent time away themselves, or has close family who have. I spent nearly 30 years away before returning with an English-born child. At one point my parents had children in the ME, Tokyo, Poland and England. Mary Robinson had her diaspora light in Áras an Uachtarán.

NewLifter · 02/06/2024 09:59

Mystro202 · 02/06/2024 09:25

They should be cut to July only at the very least. Paddy's Day is one day and as already stated, is inclusive to all. Having them go on from March - July is ridiculous and infuriating to those caught up in the disruption.

Completely agree!!!! It's absolutely ridiculous!!!!

NewLifter · 02/06/2024 09:57

Sorry op, but I don't believe that your husband accurately reported what he saw. There's absolutely no way that bandmen were drinking alcohol while marching, that absolutely doesn't happen. The audience will have been the ones drinking. In my town, the lodges come round and clear up any litter after, I believe most do that. It's also highly unusual that they just kept marching up and down past your aunt's house for ages - I've never heard of that.....

I absolutely detest orange bands. Hate them. But there's not much point in spreading inaccuracies, there's enough negative stuff to say about them without making more up!

However when I visit a new town / country, I don't tend to sit for hours bitching about what goes on there. If I choose to go somewhere, I make the best of it and accept it will be different to my hometown.

You display shocking arrogance thinking you know better and none of us have ever thought for ourselves that it would be wonderful to do away with this shite. Of course we think it, but we've enough understanding to know it wouldn't be worth the consequences. Also it would just happen anyway, there aren't enough police in the country to stop it. Much like in London I hated seeing so much drug dealing happening right in front of me - I didn't post on MN saying 'gosh I feel that should be banned as I didn't like it'. I've the wit to understand the police can only do so much.

FredaFandango · 02/06/2024 09:54

Goodwins Law always raises its head in any serious discussion, it's the law don't you know🤔

Evanna13 · 02/06/2024 09:50

MoreCraicPlease · 02/06/2024 09:37

For those who don’t see the negative attitudes towards the diaspora and particularly their children, I refer you to the commonly used term “plastic paddies” which I’ve heard all over Ireland to refer to these people. These are the same kids who have returned year on year to spend school holidays with granny and grandad and might have two Irish parents, yet are “the English” (despite not having a UK passport in many cases). The same when they support Ireland at Twickenham. Oh the “banter”.

I agree wholeheartedly about the education part. I believe colonialism is taught in UK curriculum now which is helpful. There’s so much damage to unpick and there are many countries to discuss.

Yes, I have heard the term plastic paddies and it's not ideal. However it is deemed a bit of banter and many 1st/2nd/3rd generation would use the term themselves.
I would completely disagree with you that the Irish despise their diaspora. And that they ridicule them because they had to emigrate...

ThatBrickRaven · 02/06/2024 09:45

Has the OP said she is English? Plus I agree that we are moving slowly forward and we are t Disneyland but really visitors here don’t know that to a great extent. They see what’s in front of them. I want people to be honest about their experiences here good or bad.

to previous posters who comment that OP family must not live in a very mixed area - as I’ve said before there are mixed areas where people are asked to contribute to “cultural” events which is just bigotry with a mask on. Dunmurry is mixed and I know for a fact it happens there- same with warren point. Same with parts of Armagh.

the OP had disappeared now - can’t blame her- but I for one appreciate her unvarnished opinion. She might not have gotten every right but she is articulating what a lot of visitors think. I worked in a city centre bar for a while. Whilst tourists love the black taxi/mural tours they view it like a museum piece - what they don’t want is to witness sectarianism. from either side.

I wouldn’t want to go to Germany and watch a facist rally. I think we need to move on from divisive traditions. We can acknowledge our past and culture without encouraging racism and bigotry.

Pippa246 · 02/06/2024 09:45

wellington77 · 01/06/2024 20:59

I’m confused, why do Scots do the match too? If they are in Scotland I’m presuming they are not related to Protestant Scot’s that went to settle in Northern Ireland 100’s of years ago, why do they care?! Can someone teach me on this one

Although founded in Ulster, many Protestants migrated to Scotland and formed lodges in support of the Irish orangemen who wanted to support the British monarchy. Also, Ulster was largely populated by migrants from Britain, mainly Protestants from Scotland and the north of England. So the migration of Protestants to and from Ulster gives it the “brotherhood” of the orangemen.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 02/06/2024 09:39

Divilabit · 01/06/2024 23:45

Yes, well, you clearly know as little about NI as you do about university, so maybe educate yourself before pronouncing?

OP, like a PP, I’m struggling to understand why this is such a surprise to you, given that you have family in NI whom you clearly visit frequently. Sure, you may not have visited during the rehearsal period of marching season, but surely you’re familiar with the practice? Our NI friends used to come and visit wherever we lived to avoid the 12th.

You know what people asay about people making assumptions re others
HTH