Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

In my experience peripatetic music teachers often like their pupils to take part in concerts at the end of the school year, possibly in a school assembly . It’s a great opportunity for the kids to get the experience of playing for an audience and showing what they have learned, and lovely for parents if they are prewarned and can attend to watch. But for your son any such little concert would just be the sad experience of watching his peers enjoying the applause.

OP, you are being ridiculous. Your only option here is to grovel.

Apologise for being rude, explain you were stressed , you wouldn’t want your child to suffer for your mistake, and hope that she is more forgiving than you!!

It’s either this or find a new teacher..

' Why can’t she just move on and continue to do her job which we pay for??? '

oh wow ! what an attitude you have

give the violin back, accept and realise YOU have messed up

and as a result it is YOUR CHILD that is now missing out

hey ho, I suspect he will get used to that...

Can you not see that your behaviour will have a negative impact on your child? To deliberately send your child for his lesson after she has told you she won't be teaching him is horrible. Maybe get over yourself and think how that will make him feel. If I was the music teacher and you refused to give your details I would ask the Head to pop an envelope with a cheque or cash in your child's book bag. You really couldn't be more unreasonable if you tried.
I really feel for your poor child. I cant imagine this will be the last opportunity he will miss out on due to your poor behaviour.

Music teacher here. The amount of crap I've dealt with from parents over the years when self employed could fill a book and is why I don't teach much outside of a Paye school I have now.
You were rude. Maybe she was a little hasty back but if it's the 10th time that week she's dealt with aggy parents and she's had to continuously chase money she's owed alongside that (all unpaid admin time of course) then I don't blame her at all.
If you want to repair the relationship email back once apologising that your tone was a bit rude in the last email, your child really enjoys their lessons and you would like to start afresh. Fgs don't go to the headteacher, who won't be able to do anything about it anyway if she's freelance!

Well if I wasn't already on the teacher's side I would be now!

What an attitude you have.

So you accept you were rude - what behaviour will you now model for DS?

Music teacher out there singing this song right now!

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Take this as a life lesson that your reactions are OTT and not always proportionate to the situation. Your son will now miss out on music lessons because of you, no one else.

Example 1 - the snotty message you sent to the music teacher.
Example 2 - saying you would demand to speak to the head.
Example 3 - refusing the refund.

When something annoys or upsets you take a deep breath. Perhaps vent to your partner or a friend, then respond calmly later.
I say this as someone who can be quick tempered and unfortunately smart phones mean it is all too easy to send that WhatsApp message or email in the heat of the moment!

I like the sound of that teacher. She seems very fuck around and find out. And you've fucked around and found out 🤣

Have you even apologised for your rudeness?

I pay for lessons and I expect them to be delivered!

Yeah but she’s entitled to refuse your money and not deliver your child lessons, because she’s not an indentured servant.

One of my friends is a music teacher and considering quitting because of the increase in parents like you.

“My mummy pays your wages!”

Your sense of entitlement is astounding.

Op you are that parent.
Do better so your DC doesn’t learn this attitude from you.

How to take an apology graciously - lesson to learn for the day OP.

And you'll be told once again that she isn't teaching him. If he looks forward to it so much maybe think about the way you speak to people so that you don't keep ruining his opportunities.

Hopefully she'll give your child the one lesson she owes and than take the violin back. She will no longer need your bank details then. 😂😂

She's probably imagining how you will behave at exam time!

'I wrote another message saying that in fact I always pay on time and didn’t appreciate getting messages saying I hadn’t paid when I had. '

The woman made a mistake and apologised and immediately rectified the mistake but you had to give her a hoity toity poke!

You are the rude one.

With much experience in this field, you are coming across as the nightmare parent. No freelancer, usually with a waiting list, will want to touch you with a bargepole. Do you treat the school staff the same?

Sending your child in expecting a lesson is batshit to the teacher and unkind to your son. Try to be an adult here.

If I was the teacher, I would give a cash refund, and ask the secretary or class teacher to pass it on, not via the child. All signed for and witnessed, so your petulant behaviour did not affect them.

My goodness what a terrible role model you are for your child. You are only going to humiliate your 6 year old if you do what you are threatening. You need to take a step back, apologise and move on and find a private violin teacher. You also need to calm your entitled and demanding attitude and behaviour.

I'm self employed and accept some referrals from an agency. For the first time ever I experienced aggressive and rude behaviour from a client this week. I've refused to continue working with her. The agency is fully supportive of my decision and she's been told she'll be allocated to someone else. If you're self employed you don't have to put up with rudeness.

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Are you really this entitled?!
Your reply to her message was totally unnecessary and extremely rude. Own it

Your poor kid is going to be sent in for a lesson they don't have, get their violin taken off then unexpectedly, and it is entirely your fault. Every possible step of the way you have made things worse when you could very easily have made them better.

From everything you've said here, I think it serves you right. Feel a bit sorry for your kid though.

And if they find out about her from this teacher they won't want her custom either.

True! Just can't understand why the OP is so determined to stick with this particular tutor.