Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

It also sounds like it was your mistake in the first place paying the wrong amount last term. Then expected the teacher to spend time reconciliating her accounts when I’m sure she’d have rather been teaching. If you thought you were ‘doing her a favour’ by choosing a random amount to pay her and expecting her to keep track of all the crazy parents who Think they know better than just pay the right amount you were very wrong. The. You doubled down and didn’t apologise.

you handled it really poorly and you child will now suffer.

Wow.

My DDs lessons were twice the price.
What’s sad is that (often) people with the most money are the ones least likely to spend it or treat people with respect. Op seems to be tight as a gnat’s chuff and no mistake. Please treat people better @MairSS . Seriously. It’s just shameful to not apologise. I’m embarrassed for you.

Being paid early is not helping her unless she is literally starving.

And she'll go thanks for bringing the violin back bye now.

Why would you put your child in that position?

so you started all this fuss over £7 🙄

Then why are being such an arrogant rude person then?

you shot yourself in the foot here and you know it but rather than swallow your pride for the sake of your child you are acting like a complete ….

she will probably do the lesson then take back the violin on Tuesday because she knows fine you’re going to be as disrespectful difficult and manipulative as you can and if she does that then you have nothing to hold over her.

OR YOU CAN

be genuinely apologetic while showing you take full responsibility for your own actions in this situation and for your behaviour then ask nicely if she wouldn’t mind drawing a line under this and you promise you won’t treat her with such contempt and disrespect again.

'I’m paying £7 per group lesson (20 minutes) and going rate for 1-1 private lessons in my area is £16 (30 minutes) so you can see why I want to keep lessons in school!'

So why deliberately go out of your way to antagonise her?

You've whit yourself in the door and you appear utterly belligerent to the fact you have behaved badly.

If this is how you go through life then your child is either going too copy you and have a massive chip on their shoulder or will realise your behaviour is unacceptable and will distance themselves from you.

Just to add that my late husband and I attended group music lessons some years back: it was a council initiative - there were various instrumental groups of various levels.

One of the instruments taught was violin and the group lessons were very successful, judging from the end-of-year concert and ceilidh.

That's the right price for half-an-hour of a private lesson. A one-to-one lesson of any kind normally costs about £30 an hour.

The OP really is lady bountiful, isn't she. Unfortunately for her the teacher isn't grovelling as expected!

Hmm, so it's only now that you realise she's worthy of your time? Now you've realised she has control of something you want?

but you said ' I thought it was also beneficial to the teacher as she would have had extra money in her account. '

a whole £7 yes seven pounds !!!

Isn't it sad when rude and entitled parents ruin things for their kids! All the missed opportunities they have because of them. I really feel for OPs kids.

All this carry on you have started for £7 😂

Puzzling isn't it.

I do feel sorry for teachers, who are not self-employed and don't have the luxury to chose the parents. Can you imagine.

Your behaviour aside, is £7 for 20 minutes with multiple other beginner violinists really good value for money? Your son is going to sound like a strangled parrot for a decade at this rate. Surely you want better for little Tarquin?

Well you should have thought carefully about how you communicate with her!!

Your second email was unpleasant. Do you seriously go around pointing out people’s errors and expecting them to continue to provide a service? She has the right to withdraw her services if a relationship has broken down.

What a shame that you didn't treat the teacher with courtesy then, isn't it.

And seriously? That's the amount of money you've made all this unnecessary fuss about?

Then send the music teacher a grovelling apology for your rudeness

@Clarinet1 - did you know Dame Fanny? She was the most terrifying woman I ever met. Four foot nothing of sheer intimidation and will. I felt about eight years old and in trouble any time I was in her presence.

btw

does anyone know how much a shared violin lesson at school is ?

and does anyone know how much a private violin lesson is ?

I don't think you quite understand.

The professional music teacher who has been teaching your child, is under no obligation to continue to teach them. She has terms and conditions for people who wish to pay for lessons. You broke those. So, she isn't going to continue teaching your child.

It doesn't matter what's convenient for you or your child at this point. What matters is that you broke the terms and conditions. This is your mess-up, not the teacher's.

If you really, really want your child to continue music lessons with this particular teacher, then you'd better get to work on drafting an apology. A proper one. It might not be enough at this point, but you won't know unless you try.

Otherwise, you'll just need to find a new teacher and a new violin if that one is on loan from her. And try to be nicer to the next one.

Aw you sound delightful. I can't possibly think why she might not want to have to deal with you again.

Sorry, it's not mean. It's the absolute truth. People with attitudes like the op's don't save that attitude just for music teachers. This behaviour translates into every relationship they have. If she doesn't do some massive self-reflection and take steps to not be so fucking ridiculous and entitled, her son will face consequences due to her actions.