Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

Your child is missing out because of you and because the teacher has every right to decide not to deal with your rudeness.

”I expect them to be delivered” 🤣 don’t be a dick!

Uh huh.

If you really did do this, your comment was totally unnecessary. I wouldn't want to deal with you either. Play stupid games, as they say...

This - and don’t make the same mistake of being rude!

Manners do matter, somewhat worrying you got this far in life without understanding this. It’s a shame for your kid, but if you do this often then it won’t be the first time they are going to have to lose out because you can’t treat people with basic respect.

Oh God, you're one of those parents!!

Rings the headteacher at the drop of a hat because your precious life and children have been affected by something you have done but oh so isn't your responsibility!!

You were rude to the freelance, independent teacher that is not paid to put up with your bullshit, if you're kid misses out then that's on you not them.

This is clever 😂😂

Is this a reverse, by any chance?

I bloody HATE reverses.

As a self employed member of staff, there is very little the school can do, they can’t dictate terms to her as then it starts to veer into employment. Chasing parents for payment is a nightmare - people frequently don’t pay on time and then you to send the child away who has turned up for a lesson. There was a mistake and she put yours right. There was no need to send the second email and if it comes across like in your OP then it would come across as rude. If you want your son to continue, then I suggest that you apologise for being rude and you didn’t mean it and you’d really like your DS to continue. There is a big shortage of instrumental teachers on some instruments and you may not find other options. It also means that teachers know that gaps can be filled very quickly.

Blimey! I wouldn’t put up with that either - good for her!

Sorry OP, I wouldn’t teach a child if this was their parents attitude. You’re getting a bit of a beating but a few commenters are right in saying the way you communicate in your writing needs adjusting

Bet you haven’t got the balls to post a screenshot of your actual message to her.

Even before I knew what the detail of your post was, I read this line, “therefore sent her a message telling her to check her account” and thought - told, not asked? - how rude are you 🙄

So if I got that about you before even reading that you were dumped for your rudeness, I can well imagine the tone of your messages. It’s a certain mindset that recounts the tale with telling not asking, it says a lot.

It would appear your money is not instrumental to her livelihood :)

Have you paid for any lessons she hasn’t delivered?

your child is missing out because you were unnecessarily rude to the teacher. She doesn’t have to deal with that. It’s on you.

You expect the lessons to be delivered? But they have been? But no more.
If your child is missing out, there's only one person to blame here and it's not the teacher.

You spotted a mistake - she acknowledged it, made the necessary adjustment and apologised to you. You then got on your high horse and rather than say: “Thanks very much, I appreciate it” you responded to rebuke her again and laid it on with a trowel.

Snowflake’s chance in hell that she will change her mind - who needs to hassle of dealing with someone so unpleasant? She’s freelance so doubt the head will be able to do anything about it either. Except maybe offer to teach you some manners..?!

Then find someone who is prepared to deliver them. She clearly is not!

Well, I wouldn't teach you or your child with that attitude!

You can't force her to accept your money and teach your child 😂 find another teacher!

As she’s freelance it’s up to her whether she teaches your child or not. She doesn’t have to give any reason, but a parent being rude is definitely a good reason to not have to have anymore to do with you

That's on you not on her.

You overpaid her. But then she accused you of not paying? Doesn't make sense. Communicating in writing may not be your strong point, and your email to the teacher may well have come across as much more rude and aggressive than you realise.

I would focus your energies into finding another music teacher, quite honestly.

You TOLD her to check her accounts? Wow.
The relationship between you has broken down and she is right not to want to continue to teach your child. This is entirely your own fault, sorry.
Move on.

This is what consumerism has done.. people expect amazing VIP service and the right to be rude and it be tolerated. No.. YABU and you were rude to her. She isnt obliged to teach your child! Perhaps you should have considered how your behaviour would affect your relationship with her before you sent a shitty message…

The correct response to the apology would have been " That's Ok, mistakes are easily made. Daughter will see you next week as usual"
Anything else is easily misconstrued as aggressive.