Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

As someone who used to do a similar job, not teaching music but comparable, I am totally with the teacher here.

You pointed out a mistake, she apologised and sorted it. Then you got rude. Why should she want to continue teaching your child? There is plenty of freelance work out there, teachers can generally pick and choose. They do not have time for arsey parents.

The head teacher will not be interested or have any control over this. You cannot "expect" that your precious child has lessons. Find him another teacher or another hobby. Tell him mummy was rude, don't let him think the teacher is letting him down or does not want to see him.

I have sacked pupils in the past because they had parents like you. Learn a bit of humility and move on.

😂

She doesn't want your money now so doesn't have to deliver anything.

Tbh if you come across to her as you here she's dodged a bullet terminating your contract

Goodness. You really don't see why she no longer wants your custom.

Hahaha serves you right. Tell your kid why he can't have his violin lessons anymore so he can learn that being a rude dick doesn't get you anywhere.

Hmmmmm. On another thread you’ve worked as a peripatetic in primaries for years, and don’t like a snobbish head of music - which kind of suggests your area is music. Intriguing that your OP didn’t reference what your own approach would be given your similarity in career with this teacher…

Oh well. From your 25 years I’m sure you’ve made plenty of contacts for alternative music teachers. Not sure where you’ll find someone to teach your child manners though 😉

Yes, you could try apologising profusely for your rudeness and see if she changes her mind.

Not sensing that's your vibe though, but would be happy to be proved wrong.

OP, your style of writing is quite aggressive, which is very off putting.

Teacher will know from experience that parents like you will never be happy and will be a lot of hassle. That is why she has dropped you child.

Think about how you will be perceived next time. These relationships are a two way thing. It is not just money orientated.
Nobody wants to deal with rude or aggressive parents.

Unfortunately your child does not have the contract with the teacher , you do and if the teacher no longer wants to deal with you then that is her prerogative. I’m with the teacher , you were rude in what you said after she had simply made a mistake and corrected it . Find a different teacher and adjust your attitude .

Why can’t she just move on and continue to do her job which we pay for???

Why indeed?

You really have no idea?

She’s not your indentured servant - that may be why she doesn’t have to continue. The people who have any attitude of entitlement when it comes to paid services are always going to struggle with others finding them obnoxious. It’s a real shame for your child and hopefully he grows up learning from your bad behaviour OP. That’s the silver lining!

Thingsthatgo too true. I used to be freelance with much less opportunity to pick and choose my clients.

A freelancer who can just say 'see you then' to rudeness has warmed the cockles of my heart.

@MairSS you're at it.

There’s only one way out here and that’s apologise profusely. She made a mistake, started chasing invoices, you pointed out that there was an error, she apologised and amended it. The only response to that should have been thanks for sorting, DS is looking forward to seeing you on Monday. There was no need for anything else. You may not have meant to have come across as rude, but everyone including myself is saying that if the message was similar to your posting style then yes it was rude.
There was a similar story on here last year and the parent did apologise and it turned out okay. The parent found out the hard way that violin teachers are not easy to find.

Why can’t she just move on and continue to do her job which we pay for???

Because she doesn't want to.

I wrote another message saying that in fact I always pay on time and didn’t appreciate getting messages saying I hadn’t paid when I had.

Why can’t she couldn't you just move on and continue to pay her to do her job???

Still not sure this is real though. If it is you are VERY unaware of yourself.

She doesnt want your money. Move on

Nope.

You paid her for a service. She has withdrawn your access to this service. She’s not an indentured servant.

As you are now beginning to realise, you haven’t a leg to stand on.

this is beautiful. I love it when people stick up for themselves against rudeness.
It is your own fault that your 6 year old will no longer be having violin lessons at school. I hope you reflect on that for a while.

1. This is marvellous. You sound quite deranged.
2. There are easier ways for her to make her money. She is not a peasant scrabbling about to be graced by your custom.
3. She probably has a waiting list as long as her arm so she can pick and choose.
4. Return the literally tiny violin on Monday and move on.

This. She has a choice and is exercising that choice. The world would be a better place if more people felt the consequences of rudeness.

Look for another teacher and don't be rude to them.

It's really very simple.

It was an innocent mistake. She immediately rectified it and apologised. To have sent a follow up saying you find her rude for requesting incorrect payment is unnecessary.
She believed she invoiced you the correct amount, it was not rude it was a simple error.
I don't really see how the head teacher can force her to work with your child against her will? And why would you want her to?

I mean this just makes you sound like a dick

Is this a reversey-mc-reverseface?
Because if it isn't oh dear.

No it's not. She's not your skivvy.

Have you posted this before? There was a similar post last year. YABU and rude.