Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

Don’t just send your child in, that’s not fair on him or the teacher.

instead of being argumentative why not send an email apologising and kindly asking if this can be put behind you so your son can continue with the lessons?

This is glorious. Surely this woman can't be the first person to have pulled you up on this attitude in life, @MairSS ? I suspect that as your child is young, maybe this is the first time your rudeness has had consequences for other people.

You obviously cannot force her to teach your child, but if you are hoping for the lessons to continue, I sincerely hope that you have resisted the overwhelming temptation to send her yet another rude email, and have instead been composing an apology for coming across as rude in your email.

Not an apology IF you came across as rude, but for HAVING come across as rude. It was not your intention. You hope that you can please put this behind you, and continue with little Frederick's lessons.

Because it is her right as a self employed person to choose not to deal with people who are rude arseholes to her.

She can send you a cheque via guaranteed delivery, oh foolish one.

Nah. This has to be a wind-up.

Mind you, I’ve not had this much fun since the time a parent complained that no one in my secondary school dept was prepared to give her child extra lessons over the Easter holidays. 🤣

Why can’t she just move on and continue to do her job which we pay for???

@MairSS because you don't own her

OK, then what? Because your best case scenario there is that she gives him one last lesson and collects her violin from him and then is done with you. Is that what you want? And, obviously, the head teacher is just facilitating the lessons, so no help there.

If you actually want your son to continue having lessons, your best bet would be to apologise profusely.

Yes you were and rude people should really apologise, shouldn’t they?

In terms of your batshit plan:

1. You are setting up your child to have a shit day on Tuesday because she will tell them they are not having a lesson and just remove the violin
2. She will probably give him a note to give to you asking for your bank details to return the money - I can’t see her giving a young child cash

So your kid will come home without a violin, without having had a lesson and not understanding why - so will probably think it is something that THEY have done. That’s very cowardly and actually conniving of you - expecting the teacher to capitulate because THEY don’t want to disappoint your child.

Be a fucking grown up and APOLOGISE! You are making stuff unnecessarily horrible for your child because you’re so arrogant you think the world should bend to accommodate you despite the fact you are ill mannered and entitled.

This is one of the best I’ve heard in years!

#”that”parent

All that will happen then is that your six year old will end up in the middle of this. With you telling him he has a lesson and the teacher saying " no I told your mum this already" then taking the violin back.

Your next complaint on Tuesday will be that she made your ds cry.

Bottom line is that this whole scenario should have ended with her apologising and adjusting the invoice...the rest is of your making.

Please don't put a six year old in the middle of this.

Please don't do that. It will be very embarrassing and upsetting for your son when the teacher tells him that he is no longer having lessons. That needs to come from you, at home, rather than at school.

So you're trying to beat the AIBU all-time high score then.

There's a reason my sibling who teaches alongside her pro jobs doesn't teach kids any more.

People like you.

Can’t help but wonder if you’ve brought MairJr up with the same rudeness, and the teacher is actually glad to have an easy excuse to see the back of him.

This may be a reverse. In another of your posts you are self employed working within schools?

Dude, don't do that to your kid man. Shell take the violin, thank him for returning it and send him away. Don't to it to the poor little bugger.

You just made me snort with laughter. This is not how people behave.

You can't send your son in with HIS violin cause he doesn't have one, it's the tutor's. She will rightly take her violin back and probably send a sad and confused 6 year old back out the door. You are just making an awkward situation for your child.

Are you honestly expecting that she will backtrack and continue with the lessons? She is self employed probably for this exact reason - so she doesn't have to deal with unhinged and entitled parents like you

Well I guess that you and your son have learnt a valuable lesson. Being rude doesn't pay off and your son is going to miss out as a result if your actions.

If you prevent her from refunding you, that's on you. Or she might send you a cheque

And on Tuesday, I expect she'll take the violin away from your son

I think it's quite telling that you've ignore everyone's advice. If you grovelled, apologised and begged for another chance, she might have agreed. But if your correspondence to her is like your tone in this thread, then I'm not surprised she wants to end the working relationship

And if they find out about her from this teacher they won't want her custom either.

You expect your 6 year old to be sent out of a lesson because you won’t accept the teacher no longer accepts him as a pupil?

Send the violin back. You fucked up. Own it.

Other violin tutors are available.

I can’t believe you are going to put your six year old child in the embarrassing position of going to the music room for his lesson only to be turned away.

You really would rather do that than apologise?

Parent of the Month award winging its way to you right now.

Please don't put your little boy in that position! Imagine how upsetting it will be for him when she takes his violin back and tells him he's not having any more lessons.