Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

After the discovery that this is probably a reverse, I doubt OP will be back.

Well it's 3.15 pm on Tuesday...
so nearly ' home time '
and Mummy will know if precious child has the borrowed violin in his hands with him or not !

waiting with bated breath for the update...

I now only do a teeny bit of supply.

Prior to retirement, I was a Head of Dept and then Faculty Head in Scotland. (Principal Teacher Curriculum.)

One mother was always complaining. A real horror.

I'm still angry about this: SLT forced me to change my seating plan because the daughter complained that there was a "smell" coming from the girl next to her. There wasn't. The girl was of a different race and the mother's daughter was simply a bullying little racist.

We always had complaints from that woman.

My the time the girl was a senior, she was in someone else's class, but the teacher was off sick so I covered. Next thing, I was subjected to a formal investigation for "bullying".

I was interviewed; every single child in the class was interviewed. The conclusion of the investigation was that I had done nothing wrong. Apparently, my bullying consisted of "Be quiet. People are trying to work." (I was told that I was exonerated because I had also told someone else to be quiet!)

The mother refused to accept the findings. "My daughter always tells the truth."

My response to my line manager was that, in that case, perhaps he should let the mother know that the daughter had informed the entire class: "My mum's a slut! She got [euphemism for impregnated] wi me when she was 15! That's why she put me on the implant at 15!"

Sadly, my line manager declined.

The music teacher is a freelancer though and ultimately can tell horrendous, gobby, entitled parents where to go.

Imagine being one of this child's unfortunate succession of class teachers or TAs. OP would probably drive them to drink - IN the class.

I am a freelancer (different industry) of 20 years. I can confirm that clients can be rude, flaky, demanding, self-obsessed and clueless. And late payment is sadly an occupational hazard.

Thankfully, they're rarely as bad as this OP. I wonder if she's the same poster who was on a while ago complaining about her kid's would-be music teacher objecting to being given the Spanish inquisition about her suitability to teach OP's child prodigy.

Any updates.. has Little Lord Farquaad attended his lesson… does he still have a violin? Was he banished from music forever to lose out on his dream of playing the Met?

The suspense is killing me!

True. I just wanted them over and done with. When my child joined her first group and some lovely mums told me this was their 4th year doing them, I balked. A one on one lesson was the same as the price for 6 lessons in a group of 8. But realistically they each only got a few minutes attention each. So by doing one on one's for 6 months, she was a great swimmer doing lengths with ease. This was job done for me as she doesn't really like the water, but obviously learning to swim is a necessary life skill.

Wtf I have a new found appreciation for the shit teachers have to put up with now.

I hope the teacher stands her ground and the Head backs her up.

Disgusting behaviour.

Either we will never hear from the OP again, in which case we will draw our own conclusions and send virtual flowers to the violin teacher.

OR

The OP will return with a wonderful story about how the violin teacher begged her, on bended knee, to be allowed to teach the OPs child in 1-1 lessons, for free, in perpetuity. Which offer the OP is considering , will probably accept, but will keep the violin teacher in suspense for a day or two just to teach her some respect.

Today's the day! The violin could be being reclaimed as we speak!

Got this ready for tomorrow! 🙈🙈🙈

You were fucking rude and you are entitled and this is where it gets you. Maybe rethink your attitude to people because I can guarantee you are like this in other scenarios in your life too.

Wow well spotted. Well this is utterly bizarre then. I can’t see how it is a reverse though because otherwise a lot of assumptions are being made on behalf of whomever is the highly strung mother…

So you decided to reprimand her over her not noticing your whopping great £7 overpayment that she hadn't asked you to overpay?
I do wonder how you would have responded if she had messaged you to tell you that she does not appreciate you paying money she hasn't asked for.

All this for seven quid.

I suppose it depends what you want to get out of the swimming lessons. Group lessons aren't going to get a child to a high standard, but can be a fun and social setting to learn the basics so they can be safe. My DC does a small group swimming class and loves it - has made a friend, learned some basic safety skills, and has fun in the water.

Bit like group swimming lessons. A false saving in my view.

Then why were you so rude to her? I would refuse to teach your child, your whole attitude is disgusting.

Ok yes, but still. With only 20 mins that gives them just 6.7 minutes of individual attention each .
What can you get out of that really ? And it’s over a pound a minute 😂. I feel like with a group lesson you’d need at least 45 mins per lesson to make it worthwhile,

Karma! 🤣

No, but I've heard a group of them learning together. :D

I agree that this does very much come across as a reverse.
But all the points made still stand.

You sound like hard work.

Have you heard one child learning to play the violin?

I think she said that there were only three in the group?

You are rude. You should have told her that you had paid an extra lesson at the time or stuck to the actual invoice amount.

If you are so desperate to keep this violin teacher then perhaps treat her with respect