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To think a declining birth rate is a good (and inevitable) thing

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OptimismvsRealism · 01/06/2024 11:09

Article in the times today about the "push for Britain to have more babies" on the basis that a declining population will cause economic shocks.

One of the proposals is "fertility checks in your 20s and education about declining fertility in biology classes".

I mean. Isn't it great that people only have babies if they really, truly want them? And isn't it good to have a smaller human burden on the planet (and fewer humans vying for declining jobs as tech replaces us at most of the things we used to do)?

I don't believe for a second that fertility checks would help anyone. Nobody is out there going "trala I'm 45 and really want five babies but just haven't felt like starting yet"!

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Ithinktomyselfwhatawonderfulworld · 09/06/2024 17:41

We need sufficient children to support an ageing population. In our friendship group of 8 couples only one has gone on to have a 2nd child. This is largely due to costs

DonnaBanana · 09/06/2024 17:41

Yes it’s a good thing as it will help reduce our economy, encourage us all to live simpler lives, and mean that the state pension becomes unviable in future decades which will encourage us to become more creative in how we survive

Helar · 09/06/2024 17:39

LaPalmaLlama · 09/06/2024 16:34

I don’t necessarily think a declining birth rate is good but I think the reasons are very complex and not easily solved. its also largely a case of people having fewer children ( I believe the number of childless/ child free women combined is roughly the same as it has been but now the people who do have children aren’t having enough to even it out). Smaller family sizes ( 1 or 2 vs 3 or more) 💯 make sense for most women on completely rational criteria so I resent efforts to make them have any more.

People had larger families in the distant past, but the recent falls in birth rates are due to increasing numbers of childless adults. “Unplanned childlessness” as Stephen Shaw has called it. Most women still want children but for complex reasons many more are not achieving their desired family.

Pollipops1 · 09/06/2024 17:33

“accept more immigration”- I think we have quite enough already. A few hundred a month coming over in the boats should do it. If they stay and if they work that is.

it’s inevitable, there aren’t enough workers and we have a capitalist model

RationalityIsHard · 09/06/2024 17:20

Wethairwendy · 09/06/2024 17:06

Who do you think will look after the elderly 🤦‍♀️

Maybe the elderly should have thought about that before now and stopped voting for parties that advanced their own interests ahead of their childrens and grandchildrens.

How sad that it seems that it's only now that our society cares about children, and even then it's only in terms of what they can do for us, rather than what we do for them.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 09/06/2024 17:17

henlake7 · 09/06/2024 17:02

I suppose from a speciesest pov we do need to have more children to keep the economy running and care for the elderly in the future.
However from a planetary pov human beings are the worst thing that happened to the earth and it will be better off without us!

Totally agree with this.

“accept more immigration”- I think we have quite enough already. A few hundred a month coming over in the boats should do it. If they stay and if they work that is.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 09/06/2024 17:12

Halfemptyhalfling · 09/06/2024 17:10

It seems that the families likely most put off compared with previous generations are (1) social sciences/ humanities degrees who are most likely to care about the environment plus most affected by student loans, fewer and more precarious and lower paid jobs. So it's possible the 'missing' offspring will be bad for the planet

What makes you say a humanities graduate is more likely to be environmentally conscious than e.g. a chemistry graduate?

I've never seen any info to support this.

Hellogoodbyehello4321 · 09/06/2024 17:11

I never get the argument that we need more ppl on this planet. The planet is dying, a decreasing birth rate is a good thing surely.

Yes we may be screwed for one generation if there aren't enough young to pay the pensions of tomorrow, but that's a problem for one generation as it'll then even out if the birth rate stays low. Surely if we have less children, some of the spend on e.g. education would help plug the gap to pay the pensions etc.

Surely increasing the birth rate causes more problems for the planet further down the line, to fix an issue that only affects us short term.

Halfemptyhalfling · 09/06/2024 17:10

It seems that the families likely most put off compared with previous generations are (1) social sciences/ humanities degrees who are most likely to care about the environment plus most affected by student loans, fewer and more precarious and lower paid jobs. So it's possible the 'missing' offspring will be bad for the planet

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 09/06/2024 17:06

In the long run - yes. The planet cannot support 8bn people all living a comfortable 'western' lifestyle. (At present only the wealthiest few on the planet get to do that.) If all 8bn people consumed resources at the rate of the average north American or European citizen, the planet would be in an even worse state than it currently is.

In the short term - there is going to be some serious pain as the global population shrinks and there aren't enough young people to support and care for the ageing population.

No easy answers.

Wethairwendy · 09/06/2024 17:06

Who do you think will look after the elderly 🤦‍♀️

Chickatease · 09/06/2024 17:05

I agree op, I think the impacts on economy and aging population etc are all relatively short term in comparison to the impact on the planet and less people is only a good thing

twoforwardandtwoback · 09/06/2024 17:04

Nobody is out there going "trala I'm 45 and really want five babies but just haven't felt like starting yet"!

No, but there are many women who find out in their twenties and early thirties** that their ovarian reserve is that of a woman 10+ years older, and then go through many years of heartache trying to have a child.

I'm sure I wasn't the only millennial who was warned at school that you only need to have sex once and you'll get pregnant. I'd like to think sex education is much more balanced now.

You may not have meant to but your post comes across very ignorant and insensitive towards families (and there are many!) who have fertility challenges.

Pollipops1 · 09/06/2024 17:04

@AllIWantIsACuppa You are correct, they are the choices but cries of ageism means governments have got away with not planning for the demographic shift. Some of the inflation and issues with the NHS we are seeing now is due to the ageing population.

RationalityIsHard · 09/06/2024 17:04

I've advised my kids not to have children themselves. Why would you prop up the ponzi scheme that is late stage capitalism so that older generations will get the benefits that you never will?
Truly dystopian that we are being told to have more children to save the economy.

EatCrow · 09/06/2024 17:04

Nigellasstickytoffeepudding · 09/06/2024 16:57

I would have had a football team if it was possible to have been able to afford not to work to care for them. As it is I have two and thats my lot because it's all I can afford.

Which is a very real shame.

henlake7 · 09/06/2024 17:02

I suppose from a speciesest pov we do need to have more children to keep the economy running and care for the elderly in the future.
However from a planetary pov human beings are the worst thing that happened to the earth and it will be better off without us!

LuckysDadsHat · 09/06/2024 17:01

I would have had 1 more if we could afford it. But we live in an area where house prices to average local wages are one of the worst in the country (outside London). We couldn't afford another childcare bill, we were on the bones of our arse for 3 years when we had to pay full time childcare, we can't afford the bigger house and car that would be needed, so we stuck with what we have.

It is an issue for the government in the coming decades as taxation receipts will fall but with an ever aging population to pay for (pensions, healthcare etc....) I don't know what the answer is, but it is a 1st world worldwide problem.

Pollipops1 · 09/06/2024 17:01

no-one knows what the sustainable level of people is on the planet because people use vastly different levels of resources.

This is often overlooked, a family with lots of dc in certain parts of Africa with high birth rates are going to have a smaller carbon footprint than a smaller family in the west.

AllIWantIsACuppa · 09/06/2024 17:01

The problem is that we do have an economic ticking time bomb. There simply won't be enough workers to pay for all the pensioners that there are going to be in the near future because we are no longer having babies at replacement rate.

And no, pensioners have not "paid into the system to cover their costs". That's not how it works. Today's workers pay for the pensions of today's pensioners, so tomorrow's workers will be paying for tomorrow's pensioners.

If we don't have enough workers to pay for all the pensioners, then we need to take some tough choices.

These are: accept more immigration, reduce pensioner benefits, austerity 2.0 which will be austerity on crack, or completely overhaul the tax system to include wealth taxes that will potentially deter the highest tax payers from settling here. None of these are particularly appealing but burying our heads in the sand and maintaining the status quo simply isn't an option.

So yes, we need more babies. But that takes time and frankly it's too late to avoid the forthcoming problems.

And no, I'm not getting at pensioners. It's not ageist to point out that there is an economic problem with an aging population who are financially dependent on the state. It's just maths.

Kitkat1523 · 09/06/2024 17:00

Pollipops1 · 09/06/2024 16:53

I would say housing costs impact most people’s decisions re dc as many will want housing security before and that’s prohibitive.

Agree….I could afford a nice big 50s semi ,3 bed house with large garden for my 3 on relatively low wages ( one public sector job above minimum wage but not much) and a 20 hr a week nursing post….and also afford to put in a loft conversion….and still have all mortgage paid off when I was 48….this was in the 90s …… we wouldn’t even get on the home owner ladder now..ll we live in the NW but it’s the same all over now

Pollipops1 · 09/06/2024 16:59

When its too late, my view is that we will have to start paying people to have children.

They are looking at that in other countries & I think it didn’t work in Japan

https://www.independent.co.uk/asia/east-asia/south-korea-birth-rate-cash-incentive-b2533188.html

Thepeopleversuswork · 09/06/2024 16:58

@buttnut

Why is there an assumption it’s down to women ‘not realising’ their fertility declines? I’ve never met another woman who wasn’t aware of this..

I know. So patronising and irritating. And almost invariably followed by lecturing women for daring to try to “have it all”.

Nigellasstickytoffeepudding · 09/06/2024 16:57

I would have had a football team if it was possible to have been able to afford not to work to care for them. As it is I have two and thats my lot because it's all I can afford.

ilovemoney · 09/06/2024 16:54

no-one knows what the sustainable level of people is on the planet because people use vastly different levels of resources.

We are heading for a cliff if we don't have enough young people to work and generate income and generate innovation.

Some women's fertility drops off a cliff before 30, mine did, i would have liked to have known as i would have loved to have kids. I waited until 35 and i was personally too old by then

There are few things sadder than infertility and there are so many women who want children or more children but there is no support for families.

If we want people to have more children we need low cost childcare, affordable housing, much better maternity and birth care, support for new mothers etc.

When its too late, my view is that we will have to start paying people to have children.

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