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What’s fair here?

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ColdExtremities · 01/06/2024 09:19

Friends A and B meet for dinner or spa days very regularly. Bill is always split 50/50 as they tend to have similar tastes in food, wine etc.

They met last night at a restaurant that both wanted to go to. On arrival, A mentions that she was a £100 voucher for that restaurant that she’s happy for them to use it towards the meal as it’s not a place she goes to often.

Both eat and drink and have a lovely night.

The bill arrives and it’s for £144.

Who should pay what?

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Youcantellalotofthingsabouttheflowers · 01/06/2024 18:13

Would be extremely bad form not to pay the £44

ferryboatscrubcaps · 01/06/2024 18:10

B pays £44 win for both of them

randomusernam · 01/06/2024 13:41

Anyone saying £22 each is a terrible person! The £100 didn't just magic out of thin air.

Immemorialelms · 01/06/2024 13:20

@mrsdineen2 I got you :)

sparkleowl · 01/06/2024 13:18

Caroparo52 · 01/06/2024 10:47

Depends if A offered to put voucher in between them. Should have been discussed beforehand

Yes it should be clear beforehand but I think if B paid the £44 that’s fair enough.

Brendabigbaps · 01/06/2024 13:16

I had this with an accommodation voucher, friend with voucher still expected me to pay my full share despite her voucher being enough to cover some of my share.

Goldengirl123 · 01/06/2024 13:13

B should pay £44. It’s still a saving

SoEmbarrassed2024 · 01/06/2024 12:46

A has already covered £100 of the bill with her voucher, so B pays the £44

WaltzingWaters · 01/06/2024 12:27

Depends somewhat how A worded it. “I have a voucher we can both use so let’s go all out” - B pays the remaining £44.

If not, depends if A was happy to share part of the voucher, who wanted what etc. but in general- voucher is used and B pays the rest.

mrsdineen2 · 01/06/2024 12:15

Btw I'm desperately hoping my username gets noticed on this thread.

PatternedLlama · 01/06/2024 11:37

Myblindsaredown · 01/06/2024 11:04

Then you should have insisted back

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Why? We have been friends for 15 years, eat dinner out every month together. Any money off voucher or a buy one get one free voucher applied and we always split 50/50. I think it depends on your friendship.

StormingNorman · 01/06/2024 11:21

If it was my voucher, I’d pay the balance.

If I was B, I would pay the £44 and any other drinks we might have before or after dinner.

Onda · 01/06/2024 11:16

B would pay the £44, it's still less than half what they would have paid without the voucher.

Beautifulbythebay · 01/06/2024 11:12

My bestie and I always benefit form each other's vouchers and pay half any left over balance. Depends on the friend ime.

mrsdineen2 · 01/06/2024 11:09

If I'm A, I expect B to pay £44.

If I'm B, I'm offering £72, but quietly hoping she'll refuse the difference.

cansu · 01/06/2024 11:07

I would ask the person with the voucher if they wanted to just use the voucher for their half. If they insisted that it would be for the whole meal then I would pay the remaining 44 pounds plus tip.

Myblindsaredown · 01/06/2024 11:04

PatternedLlama · 01/06/2024 10:54

I have been in this situation and my friend insisted we split the remaining bill 50/50 but I was completely prepared to pay the £44 in this case as it was far less than the half if there had been no voucher. I would be led by what my friend wanted in terms of the voucher use.

Then you should have insisted back

TheIceQween · 01/06/2024 11:04

B pays the balance and thanks A for the £28 towards the meal

theeyeofdoe · 01/06/2024 10:59

B offers to pay £44.

Starseeking · 01/06/2024 10:57

If it was me with the voucher and this friend who we always go 50/50, I'd use the voucher then each pay £22.

PatternedLlama · 01/06/2024 10:54

I have been in this situation and my friend insisted we split the remaining bill 50/50 but I was completely prepared to pay the £44 in this case as it was far less than the half if there had been no voucher. I would be led by what my friend wanted in terms of the voucher use.

TidyDancer · 01/06/2024 10:54

B should pay the £44 excess. She is still getting a good deal out of it as she's paying £44 for a £72 meal. If they split the excess, it would be virtually equivalent to A paying £122 and B paying £22 which is obviously quite unfair.

Jellycatspyjamas · 01/06/2024 10:53

I’d pay half the whole meal, so £44 to the restaurant and offer my friend the balance to make up my half of the cost. I wouldn’t assume she wanted to share the voucher but wanted someone to go with her.

Supersimkin2 · 01/06/2024 10:49

B pays £44 and thanks lucky stars.

I know people who’d ask for £22.

longdistanceclaraclara · 01/06/2024 10:49

Just pay the £44.

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