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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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LuckySantangelo35 · 02/06/2024 08:01

ArnottL · 01/06/2024 19:16

Who makes 8 of these things? Are we into rationing? What the hell? This is bordering on Scrooge. It is not like it is caviar or oysters or whatever it is rich people eat. And I am not talking about the husband - what if kiddies wanted seconds? If you invite kids for a play date, the table has to be positively groaning with this stuff.

@ArnottL

no that causes obesity

WitchyWay · 02/06/2024 07:46

What a prick. I hope you find the courage and ability to leave him at one point. Living with someone, and sharing a bed with someone, who could do that without even an apology and attempt to make it better (drive it back or source replacements) must be more than frustrating ☹️

I hope your son has a good playdate/celebration regardless.

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 02/06/2024 07:41

What a mean thing to do , to his own child, to his own wife. There is no excuse for such behaviour, none.

Allshallbewell2021 · 02/06/2024 07:38

Loving the jam beef

LazyGewl · 02/06/2024 07:22

wibdib · 01/06/2024 19:08

Too late now but if he were to ever do something like this again, I’d ring one of his colleagues (friendly child loving boss/gossipy receptionist preferably) and say that Dh had deliberately taken all the party food into the office, could they do you a favour and grab the food and stick it in a taxi to send it back seeing as dh had refused to and you have a load of kids turning up shortly that need feeding. And to make dh pay.

Emphasise how shocked and unset you were that he could do something like that to you and dc, doubly so knowing that it was dc’s birthday and that you had specifically discussed it/the party baking yesterday so he has no excuse for thinking that it was for him to take to work.

Play him at his own game so he looks an idiot for taking your baking in rather than looking good. Especially if you point out that you don’t think he would make that sort of mistake if it was work related rather than child/ family related!

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I couldn’t humiliate someone at their workplace like that. I think it is serious that he took the food but to go to these lengths? I wouldn’t.

TargetPractice11 · 02/06/2024 06:57

I'd be changing the locks while he's at work.

Selfish disgusting disrespectful man.

Waffle78 · 02/06/2024 05:07

I love all the st Dalfour preserves. I don't usually like marmalade but the orange with ginger chunks in is to die for. Non of our local supermarkets sell it anymore. And I refuse to buy it in bulk off Amazon because we don't have it often enough and it won't all keep. (Sigh)

Nanaof1 · 02/06/2024 02:48

Sorry all, but though I love many varieties of jam, seedless blackberry jam is the bomb! Yum!😋😋

Mothership4two · 02/06/2024 02:31

I've made courgette and ginger jam and rosehip jam. I think my Mum once made grape jam.

One of my favourites is gooseberry jam.

Not the point of the thread!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 02/06/2024 02:31

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/06/2024 23:50

We used to call jam slags nipple cakes

"Thumb-print" cookies here. 🇨🇦

Mumtobabyhavoc · 02/06/2024 02:23

pinkyredrose · 02/06/2024 00:53

Apricot jam doesn't deserve to be called jam.

Jam is ALWAYS raspberry. With seeds.

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Sorry, but you're wrong. There are three types: strawberry, peach and raspberry. In that order.

Mothership4two · 02/06/2024 02:20

Agree with @Nanaof1. I wouldn't be cooking for him for a while, put him on a diet after all that fattening pastry

Nanaof1 · 02/06/2024 01:55

Birump · 01/06/2024 14:51

Yes that’s it! ☺️

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@Birump I hope you update us with your DH's "reasoning explanation".

Mine would be doing his own laundry and own food cooking for the next couple of weeks. I really dislike men who think what they "want" is the only important consideration in life.

AlcoholSwab · 02/06/2024 01:50

idkbroidk · 01/06/2024 23:45

he's a greedy, selfish pig and i can honestly say for the first time in my life - ltb.

I seriously doubt it's your first.

Divorce over a few sausage rolls.

Now that's Peak Mumsnet. 😀😀

SheerLucks · 02/06/2024 01:08

idkbroidk · 01/06/2024 23:45

he's a greedy, selfish pig and i can honestly say for the first time in my life - ltb.

Wow.

I think I have to agree here.

pinkyredrose · 02/06/2024 00:55

Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 01/06/2024 23:43

Deliberately you say?

What an absolute cunt.

Pretty much says it all!

pinkyredrose · 02/06/2024 00:53

CatamaranViper · 01/06/2024 22:13

Apricot obvs

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Apricot jam doesn't deserve to be called jam.

Jam is ALWAYS raspberry. With seeds.

Wheeder · 02/06/2024 00:16

Oh my god. I’d be so hurt.

WafflesOrIceCream · 02/06/2024 00:14

What a big over grown baby he is!!

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 01/06/2024 23:57

It would be bad enough if you'd bought them, but you took time to MAKE them. I would be furious. Selfish man.

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/06/2024 23:50

We used to call jam slags nipple cakes

To think it was obvious they were for the kids??
idkbroidk · 01/06/2024 23:45

he's a greedy, selfish pig and i can honestly say for the first time in my life - ltb.

Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 01/06/2024 23:43

Deliberately you say?

What an absolute cunt.

Shareaway11 · 01/06/2024 23:10

I voted you are not being unreasonable of course but wtf are Jam slags 😂😂

WorthyPinkBee · 01/06/2024 23:06

Common sense would be to tell your partner? Talking helps!