To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

I can’t imagine being married to a man who is so stupid that he needs a note to tell him that party food baked in the day of his child’s party is for the party and not for his snacks at work.

communication works both ways - I would expect the man to have the basic level of intelligence to communicate a question before taking it.

i would be shocked if my partner assumed I was so thick and greedy that I would take party food to work on the day of a party.

Another day,Another greedy Husband.

Honestly, this would be the end of the marriage for me. I'm completely serious.

This kind of selfish, casually cruel, entitled and ungrateful behaviour towards you and your kids says everything about what kind of a person he is and what he brings to your life.

Yes, "They're for the little one's birthday." should have received the answer, "God, I'm sorry! I'll get them back as soon as I can."

He's not just being mean to his son, he's being hugely disrespectful to you.

Your DH is a complete and utter twat.
(I hope you had enough ingredients to make some more 🌺)

Even if he did take them thinking they weren't for any occasion, as soon as you told him he should've brought them straight back, that's what any decent person would do. How could he eat them now, knowing they were for his son? What a twat.

Thisoldheartofmine · Today 09:28

I had no idea until I just googled that St Dalofour doesn't contain sugar...

It does, fructose and glucose from the dates! It's just not refined sucrose.

'I put a note next to something if it's for saving for something special, I thought that was a pretty standard thing to do.
I've learned never to assume in relationships, miscommunication is easy.'

He knew. It was not miscommunication.
He took it anyway, and lied about it. Whatever his reason, it was not ignorance.

Self entitled.

I put a note next to something if it's for saving for something special, I thought that was a pretty standard thing to do.

I've learned never to assume in relationships, miscommunication is easy.

😳. No! That's sacrilege!

I am furious on your behalf - if this is a pattern of behavior I would require him to undergo therapy and change otherwise it’s over. That is so inconsiderable and if it’s on purpose it’s just mean spirited. Hope the party went well op!

OP I hope the party went well and you managed to get some replacement food.

it does seem odd that your husband stole the party food, wasn’t even attending g the party and expressed no concern about the impact of his selfish actions.

it sounds like an unhappy household for everyone.

what happened in the end?

It's one thing to be a shitty husband but another on to be a shitty father. I would be telling him he is both.

This is why Iove Mumsnet. Absolute perfection. 😂😂

OP - that was a really lousy thing for your husband to do.I hope he tried to put it right in time and that your little boy had a lovely birthday.

Some more baking with some ghost chilli in it for DH...

@Birump your thread has been overwhelmed by jam tarts ( and is a tart so different linguistically from a slag ?) discussion and knee jerk reactions to your husband's behaviour.
Apologies and hope party went well and that harmony reigns chez Birump.

@Waffle78 I had no idea until I just googled that St Dalofour doesn't contain sugar and uses dates and stuff to add sweetness.
Morrisons own brand reduced sugar jams were fab but they've disappeared from my local store in favour of Bon Mamon reduced sugar .
Not nearly as nice.

@Blondeshavemorefun those look delicious do you have a link to the recipe? Also lol at nipple cakes

i think the slags need bigger balls

This is the second post I have read over the last few days referring to Jam Slags.

Anyone fancy a marmalade slut?

Love this comment. Perfect.

HappyGoLucky96 it was more than just a couple of sausage rolls!

What very strange things to take into work. It's not like seeing last night's leftovers in the fridge, or the bread in the bread bin, and helping himself. Unless you normally make batches of sausage rolls etc for him to take into work (and I can't imagine you would) then YANBU.

'AlcoholSwab · Today 01:50
idkbroidk · Yesterday 23:45

he's a greedy, selfish pig and i can honestly say for the first time in my life - ltb.
I seriously doubt it's your first.

Divorce over a few sausage rolls.

Now that's Peak Mumsnet. 😀😀'

It's not LTB over the sausage rolls.
It's not because of the cup by the dishwasher, and so on and so on, ad nauseum.
It's not even LTB because he has chosen to not just snaffle a sausage roll making the numbers a bit awkward, but take away, a good portion of the food that he knew was for a little boy's get together with friends on his birthday. Then upon being told, refused to return the food.

I don't know if you really cannot see what it is like to live with a 'special' person, who leaves you to pick up the cup, do the work all over again, and sort out their selfishness, or if you are a male apologist, dense or just being goady. I hope it's your lack of experience, as I wouldn't wish it on you.

Now a bunch of responders understanding or trying to help OP, that is classic Mumsnet.