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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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grinandslothit · 03/06/2024 02:38

I don't know how many threads I've read on here where men have eaten things made for bbqs, weddings, parties. I believe they hate their families to do shite like that.

I need pictures of Jam Slags. I wonder if they are like these?

To think it was obvious they were for the kids??
SinnerBoy · 03/06/2024 01:56

T1Dmama · Today 00:58

What did you end up doing?

Shhh! Don't mention her lovely new patio!

Katbum · 03/06/2024 01:51

Omg. Your H is horrible. I’d be fuming at this

T1Dmama · 03/06/2024 00:58

What did you end up doing?

T1Dmama · 03/06/2024 00:54

My ex was a knob about food… He’d help himself to food that clearly wasn’t his (like Easter eggs or DD’s Christmas stocking) but anything that was HIS was put up on top of the cupboards and he’d moan like hell if I took so much as a packet of cheddars for DD’s packed lunch!
I ised to have to label things in the end!!

Notsurewhatiswhat · 03/06/2024 00:28

Propertyshmoperty · 02/06/2024 23:16

Oh clueless is he, even though she told him the night before she was baking for the party and I assume he knows it's his own son's fucking birthday.

But no, he must have been "la la la la la getting ready for my big important man job so all common sense has temporarily evaded me, ooh look sausage rolls, jam slags and other bits of classic children's party food! Must be for me and my man appetite and all my friends at work, I will not even shout "thankyou for the unexpected treats dear" upstairs before scooping the fucking lot and taking it to work."

GTF

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Just pointing out that being a dick is more of a description for some petty misdemeanour. This is way more than that and I think asshole is more appropriate.

Friendofdennis · 02/06/2024 23:51

You went to all that effort. Baking can be time consuming and fiddly. I would have been really annoyed at the sheer greed and presumption of the man

CheeseyOnionPie · 02/06/2024 23:38

OP how did the party go? What did he have to say for himself when he got home?
Also, are you putting the recipe for jam slags up or no?

CelesteCunningham · 02/06/2024 23:34

Propertyshmoperty · 02/06/2024 23:16

Oh clueless is he, even though she told him the night before she was baking for the party and I assume he knows it's his own son's fucking birthday.

But no, he must have been "la la la la la getting ready for my big important man job so all common sense has temporarily evaded me, ooh look sausage rolls, jam slags and other bits of classic children's party food! Must be for me and my man appetite and all my friends at work, I will not even shout "thankyou for the unexpected treats dear" upstairs before scooping the fucking lot and taking it to work."

GTF

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Well said.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 02/06/2024 23:24

pinkyredrose · 02/06/2024 23:13

I can't handle even the thought of peach jam! (My phone autocorrected to Outreach Joan 😂)

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😂 Thanks for the laugh!
FWIW I actually love raspberry jam. 😛

HappyGoLucky96 · 02/06/2024 23:22

bossybloss · 02/06/2024 20:47

Christ you are happy go lucky aren’t you ?(not)

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Of course I am bossssy blossss 😂🤣🤣👏

Propertyshmoperty · 02/06/2024 23:16

Notsurewhatiswhat · 02/06/2024 22:59

As a man, I’m going to provide some defence for my kind.

He’s a clueless asshole but appreciate you all using dick as a reference as it is the main difference between us.

Oh clueless is he, even though she told him the night before she was baking for the party and I assume he knows it's his own son's fucking birthday.

But no, he must have been "la la la la la getting ready for my big important man job so all common sense has temporarily evaded me, ooh look sausage rolls, jam slags and other bits of classic children's party food! Must be for me and my man appetite and all my friends at work, I will not even shout "thankyou for the unexpected treats dear" upstairs before scooping the fucking lot and taking it to work."

GTF

pinkyredrose · 02/06/2024 23:13

Mumtobabyhavoc · 02/06/2024 19:29

I beg to differ. In fact, I have peach jam in the fridge. It's quite a nice alternative to strawberry with croissant.

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I can't handle even the thought of peach jam! (My phone autocorrected to Outreach Joan 😂)

LostTheMarble · 02/06/2024 23:03

Notsurewhatiswhat · 02/06/2024 22:59

As a man, I’m going to provide some defence for my kind.

He’s a clueless asshole but appreciate you all using dick as a reference as it is the main difference between us.

Ah, a man came to speak. And he’s not clueless but thanks for your opinion. Goodness knows what the rest of us would have done without it.

Notsurewhatiswhat · 02/06/2024 22:59

As a man, I’m going to provide some defence for my kind.

He’s a clueless asshole but appreciate you all using dick as a reference as it is the main difference between us.

eastegg · 02/06/2024 21:37

OldPerson · 02/06/2024 20:31

Sounds like you two don't communicate.

Do you not even talk about what is planned for your son's birthday?

You can easily save the day by going shop bought - because the kids won't notice.

But it's not about the saussage roll - It's about the fact that you and your husband are not communicating.

It really isn’t. It just isn’t. That’s just partially (or perhaps wholly, as she made them so you’re insinuating it was up to her to get the message across more clearly, right?) blaming OP. Which is way off the mark and unfair.

AffableApple · 02/06/2024 21:35

It was very obvious it wasn't for him. What a dick.

eastegg · 02/06/2024 21:29

CelesteCunningham · 01/06/2024 09:27

Or even "hey, there's 32 freshly baked treats in the kitchen - are they for any particular purpose, like our child's birthday, or can I have some?"

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Well exactly! Never assume my arse. I quite like to be able to assume that my other half won’t swipe the entirety of my fresh baking which is clearly not, at least not all, meant for him, without a dicky bird, and if I can’t assume that, I would conclude I’d married an arsewipe and get rid.

OneWildBiscuit · 02/06/2024 20:52

Of course he knew. What a selfish arsepiece.

FairFuming · 02/06/2024 20:52

Your husband is an arsem you need to buy a boobytrapped lock box (like a medical safe on the inside with an outer box full of mousetraps or something sticky and unpleasant on the outside) for your baked goods in the future!

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 02/06/2024 20:51

OldPerson · 02/06/2024 20:31

Sounds like you two don't communicate.

Do you not even talk about what is planned for your son's birthday?

You can easily save the day by going shop bought - because the kids won't notice.

But it's not about the saussage roll - It's about the fact that you and your husband are not communicating.

This thread was started yesterday. The playdate has been and gone. When you see a thread has loads of posts, it's a good idea to check the date and time of the OP and, as the post above has pointed out, also check for updates from the OP.

bossybloss · 02/06/2024 20:47

HappyGoLucky96 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He only took a couple sausage rolls fs not to far I’m sure u can jump to Greggs

Christ you are happy go lucky aren’t you ?(not)

JamSlag · 02/06/2024 20:40

OldPerson · 02/06/2024 20:31

Sounds like you two don't communicate.

Do you not even talk about what is planned for your son's birthday?

You can easily save the day by going shop bought - because the kids won't notice.

But it's not about the saussage roll - It's about the fact that you and your husband are not communicating.

From the OP's second post:

plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!

It is not a communication problem.

OldPerson · 02/06/2024 20:31

Sounds like you two don't communicate.

Do you not even talk about what is planned for your son's birthday?

You can easily save the day by going shop bought - because the kids won't notice.

But it's not about the saussage roll - It's about the fact that you and your husband are not communicating.

ImOldb4mytime · 02/06/2024 20:24

@Birump what happened in the end?