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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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Grammarnut · 08/06/2024 17:45

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

Why does he need 8 scotch eggs for lunch? He obviously knew it was for the party. Tell him to bring it all back or buy replacements. Also, what are jam slags?

Marieb19 · 08/06/2024 17:38

I'm assuming he is giving them to his colleagues and not eating them all. This prompts the question, have you ever cooked for his colleagues before? Why the hell would you?

SinnerBoy · 05/06/2024 11:46

Vegemiteandhoneyontoast · Yesterday 14:29

Found it.

What a greedy fat bastard!

BrendaSmall · 04/06/2024 19:23

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 19:37

You said ‘I always bake for my husband’s lunch’, don’t get offended when that reads as literally as it does. You’re now backtracking by saying ‘I don’t do it specifically for him’.

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No not specifically for him, theres others in our house!
I bake all the time, sometimes on my own, sometimes with my family, just depends who’s around, my grandchildren always ask to make cakes which they do and take them home with them, they always leave something for granfer though

WimpoleHat · 04/06/2024 13:39

Vegemiteandhoneyontoast · 04/06/2024 10:25

That reminds me of a thread a few years ago, where a woman had prepared the following night's dinner, for four people, and had left it to cool in the kitchen. Her husband, having already had his dinner earlier, came home and ate the lot. Naturally she was furious. When he got home the next day and asked what was for dinner, she told him 'What you ate late night'.

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I remember that. And the husband was really miffed. If you’re not the person with responsibility for shopping and cooking, then it’s completely unreasonable to think you can have free rein over the fridge and still expect a meal on the table when you get home. And it’s not a control issue, just a courtesy one.

Vegemiteandhoneyontoast · 04/06/2024 10:25

Bringonthesunforthewashing · 04/06/2024 10:18

Must be a man thing.

My usually considerate ds13 asked if he could have ‘a bit of chicken out of the fridge’ last night.

I said yes. An hour later I went to make myself some supper, the greedy so and so took two full packets of sliced chicken breast out of the fridge and ate the lot!!

Never mind the cost, it was meant for lunches for the week as a treat.

May add this was 2 hours after he had a huge tea!!! 🐷

That reminds me of a thread a few years ago, where a woman had prepared the following night's dinner, for four people, and had left it to cool in the kitchen. Her husband, having already had his dinner earlier, came home and ate the lot. Naturally she was furious. When he got home the next day and asked what was for dinner, she told him 'What you ate late night'.

Bringonthesunforthewashing · 04/06/2024 10:18

Must be a man thing.

My usually considerate ds13 asked if he could have ‘a bit of chicken out of the fridge’ last night.

I said yes. An hour later I went to make myself some supper, the greedy so and so took two full packets of sliced chicken breast out of the fridge and ate the lot!!

Never mind the cost, it was meant for lunches for the week as a treat.

May add this was 2 hours after he had a huge tea!!! 🐷

Ijussthadanegg · 03/06/2024 22:21

Propertyshmoperty · 02/06/2024 23:16

Oh clueless is he, even though she told him the night before she was baking for the party and I assume he knows it's his own son's fucking birthday.

But no, he must have been "la la la la la getting ready for my big important man job so all common sense has temporarily evaded me, ooh look sausage rolls, jam slags and other bits of classic children's party food! Must be for me and my man appetite and all my friends at work, I will not even shout "thankyou for the unexpected treats dear" upstairs before scooping the fucking lot and taking it to work."

GTF

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😂🤣😂

Somerandomgirl · 03/06/2024 15:21

Mines the same 😡 so many times has taken to work or eaten while alone the food I've left for the children for the next day! So i understand you completely! Not a single thought in the head! Cause you'll make or buy more. Selfish men!

Snugglemonkey · 03/06/2024 15:14

JamSlagsNowPlease · 01/06/2024 16:00

Adults need fruit too.

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Indeed. But any adult who literally takes food from their own child's mouth is disgusting. If there is only enough money for fruit for the children, only the children eat fruit.

StressedOutButProudMama · 03/06/2024 15:09

I'd insist he sends you some money for food to be ordered in. Seen as he took the food intended for party.

LalaPaloosa · 03/06/2024 13:18

RookieMa · 01/06/2024 09:34

What a fucking dickhead

Absolute fucking bastard

Not even funny this one bloody hell

This 👆🏻

I am so upset for you that I really don’t know what to say. What kind of person would do such a thing?

I would be done with him too.

LookItsMeAgain · 03/06/2024 11:13

@Birump - I'm guessing that both the party has been had, and that your DH returned home, so what happened at the party and what did you do/say to your DH?

Retro12 · 03/06/2024 11:10

Greedy pig!

JamSlag · 03/06/2024 10:45

Notsurewhatiswhat · 02/06/2024 22:59

As a man, I’m going to provide some defence for my kind.

He’s a clueless asshole but appreciate you all using dick as a reference as it is the main difference between us.

We can call him a twat if you prefer.

He had a conversation about OP's plan to bake treats for the child's playdate. Then he took most of the treats and (as far as we know) offered no remedy nor apology. What is to be defended exactly?

Allshallbewell2021 · 03/06/2024 06:23

Nanaof1 & *Misty
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Re an OP ghosting a thread; perhaps an OP with a thrown off in a huff post which then surges to the outskirts of a low level MN national scandal - may be hiding from friends who might identify her and then search her posts and find the ones where she's posted in a rage about some other jam-slaggery.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 03/06/2024 05:56

Was just posting a reddit link and commenting this thread is now a reddit topic. 🤷‍♀️

eta: ahhh, the link had the "t" word in it. Might be why my post got hidden.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 03/06/2024 05:54

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Ukrainebaby23 · 03/06/2024 05:25

And can we have photos of jam slags please

Ukrainebaby23 · 03/06/2024 05:24

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 15:00

No they’re not. Stop it, women like you let men get away with their deliberate incompetence just because you believe their penis power makes them dunderheads with any household chore or event. They know exactly what they’re doing, they simply dont care.

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Or worse, they actually want to pip you off !

Mumtobabyhavoc · 03/06/2024 05:19

grinandslothit · 03/06/2024 02:38

I don't know how many threads I've read on here where men have eaten things made for bbqs, weddings, parties. I believe they hate their families to do shite like that.

I need pictures of Jam Slags. I wonder if they are like these?

Thumb-print cookies! ☝️

Nanaof1 · 03/06/2024 05:14

MistyGreenAndBlue · 02/06/2024 15:10

I don't think OP is coming back

Man I HATE an unresolved thread. 😠

So do I. Vent, get sympathy, get support and then ghost the thread. REALLY bad form and it happens all the time on here.

Sometimes I wonder if some of the threads are true or not because I would feel you would see it through them through if they were. jmho

Nanaof1 · 03/06/2024 05:03

WitchyWay · 02/06/2024 07:46

What a prick. I hope you find the courage and ability to leave him at one point. Living with someone, and sharing a bed with someone, who could do that without even an apology and attempt to make it better (drive it back or source replacements) must be more than frustrating ☹️

I hope your son has a good playdate/celebration regardless.

Plus, it isn't even the first time he has done this twat-waffle behavior, according to OP's first post.

Once would anger me to no end, but I would end up forgiving him. Doing it over and over? That is a "man" who has no respect for his family and feels that everything is his to do with as he wishes. I could not stay with someone like that.

RecklessGoddess · 03/06/2024 04:02

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

I would have told him I'll collect them then, and leave him without lunch!