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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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Laurmolonlabe · 09/06/2024 07:32

I didn't realise unmarried men were allowed on Mumsnet.

DH001 · 09/06/2024 05:28

Get over yerself… just make some more… bloody women, always moaning!

CatamaranViper · 08/06/2024 23:20

Bellyblueboy · 08/06/2024 22:13

But they do! Men don’t have lower intelligence than women. Please don’t make these silly excuses.

I remember my dad claiming he couldn’t iron. He had a complex job and worked with his hands yet his ten year old daughter had to stand for hours ironing his work shirts because this simple task was somehow beyond him.

This is called weaponsied incompetence.

If this man is so thick he can’t figure out party food might be for his child’s party THAT DAY, then he isn’t intelligent enough to hold down a job or function in normal society.

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I've had to use that before on my dad. He always claimed he couldn't work the washing machine but could use a load of electric tools, rewire plugs etc. I took all his tools off him because if he couldn't figure out how to pop a washing tab in and turn a dial, then he definitely couldn't handle a mitre saw. He was raging but fuck that!

howfartospar · 08/06/2024 22:17

If he's done something like this before I'd have put a sign on it saying do not touch!

Bellyblueboy · 08/06/2024 22:13

SheeraPower · 08/06/2024 21:28

Typical male thing, they just don’t think.

But they do! Men don’t have lower intelligence than women. Please don’t make these silly excuses.

I remember my dad claiming he couldn’t iron. He had a complex job and worked with his hands yet his ten year old daughter had to stand for hours ironing his work shirts because this simple task was somehow beyond him.

This is called weaponsied incompetence.

If this man is so thick he can’t figure out party food might be for his child’s party THAT DAY, then he isn’t intelligent enough to hold down a job or function in normal society.

SheeraPower · 08/06/2024 22:11

Of course it doesn’t let him off but that’s how they are. They don’t think about others just themselves. Clear enough? Men are idiots. Clearer???

Sweden99 · 08/06/2024 21:30

SheeraPower · 08/06/2024 21:28

Typical male thing, they just don’t think.

That lets him off.

SheeraPower · 08/06/2024 21:28

Typical male thing, they just don’t think.

Spottingtwerps · 08/06/2024 21:15

Why would a grown man want to do anything to spoil or disrupt his own child's birthday celebration? Annoying his wife into the bargain. What a self centered arse.

Sweden99 · 08/06/2024 20:09

@Voyage34 The OP's husband acted very poorly. That does not mean you get to be a special husband for doing the minimum.

Voyage34 · 08/06/2024 20:03

sorry for the poor spelling have UV retina damage ,due to being involved in Civil Engineering 4 best part of 35 yrs till the Big E got me!,so sorry once again.Jon.

Pepperpot3862 · 08/06/2024 19:59

What are jam slags 😂

Voyage34 · 08/06/2024 19:58

Kick the pig out of your life ,Lady,these self entitled pigs ,called men??,are just little boys .move on sister.Oh I am a SE LONDON,MAN,who raised with his partner a Son and Daughter, and moved out of that hell hole to the sea on /near Maldon Essex.So, our children would never have to live the life we both hated! Move om!

mathanxiety · 08/06/2024 19:33

If that is how men "think" there's no hope for the world.

Selfish to the core.

Alien13 · 08/06/2024 19:22

Or , and this will be controversial, he thought , sausage rolls for my kids ; NO WAY

I'll take them and she'll be forced to order delicious Domino's Pizza ...

Alien13 · 08/06/2024 19:20

As a man , I think,, let me know if that's allowed ,, that he might have thought , " I cant make it , so I'll take my share of the party treats to work and celebrate in spirit

Kimbo140809 · 08/06/2024 19:01

Sorry but that is a really shitty thing of your husband to do. I would be super hurt and upset that he didn’t either think it was obvious they were for the party, or at least didn’t even bother to ask. I think most of Mumsnet agrees with this sentiment so you can officially tell him what an utter dick he is!!

Sweden99 · 08/06/2024 18:46

Matharoibreach · 08/06/2024 18:20

Reminds me of when I had 12 by over for a party, I cooked 24 chicken goujons plus chips. I had these laid out for them on paper plates. DHs dinner was cooked, but as he came in the door he grabbed 4 goujons from the plates and ate them before I knew it 😡 - I had to reassemble the food.
what is it with men that is so inconsiderate with food?

It let's your husband off to blame his sex. It is outrageous behaviour. I am sure most men would be very happy with their dinner being made for them as a ids party being catered to on top!

NannaKaren · 08/06/2024 18:29

FOJN · 01/06/2024 09:19

Assume "jam slag" is a jam tart.

Oooh I’m gonna call them Jam
slags from now! 😂

Matharoibreach · 08/06/2024 18:20

Reminds me of when I had 12 by over for a party, I cooked 24 chicken goujons plus chips. I had these laid out for them on paper plates. DHs dinner was cooked, but as he came in the door he grabbed 4 goujons from the plates and ate them before I knew it 😡 - I had to reassemble the food.
what is it with men that is so inconsiderate with food?

Laurmolonlabe · 08/06/2024 18:14

It doesn't matter whether it was obvious it was for the kid's party or not-no one touches food in my house except the person planning ,shopping and cooking the food-that being me. If DH couldn't resist he would have to ask. I am not going to take the whole burden of providing meals without being in control of the whole kitchen-end of story.

ArtfulDenimSheep · 08/06/2024 18:13

Lol on all the comments about what's a jam slag
I was wondering this myself until I made the connection between slag being another name for a tart. You are not being unreasonable but he is
Hope that he replaced the party food in some way in time for the party.

Rickvictory · 08/06/2024 18:02

He sounds like a greedy pig of a man who is worthless. Get rid.

TheGirlWithTheMousyHair · 08/06/2024 17:51

Grammarnut · 08/06/2024 17:45

Why does he need 8 scotch eggs for lunch? He obviously knew it was for the party. Tell him to bring it all back or buy replacements. Also, what are jam slags?

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Please read threads before posting. The party was last weekend, and we’ve already had 26 pages of jam slags fun.

Eskimal · 08/06/2024 17:48

What other nasty stuff does you husband do like this?
it’s sabotage, it’s attention seeking, it disrespectful…
and I bet you he says, “you’re over-reacting over some sausage rolls. You can buy more in Asda.”
or
”the party still went ahead, and everyone had a good time, didn’t they? So what’s the problem?”