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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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wizarddry · 01/06/2024 09:25

Is a Jam Slag what you call a Jam Tart? That's hilarious!

Anyway he's a dick. A selfish self absorbed dick.

Can you make plans to leave him?

SBHon · 01/06/2024 09:25

HappyGoLucky96 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He only took a couple sausage rolls fs not to far I’m sure u can jump to Greggs

I‘m sure he can organise replacements. Why is it down to the OP to fix in your mind?

HateMyNewJobSoMuch · 01/06/2024 09:25

Irrespective of the party, he has no business helping himself to anything you’ve made without first checking.

This smacks of, “I’m a selfish ass wipe and care not what havoc I cause”.

I’d be on the phone DEMANDING the return of these items and seriously considering my living arrangements.

LakieLady · 01/06/2024 09:24

Pmsl @ "jam slags"!

He is BU for taking them, OP, but you are also BU for making lovely home-made stuff for kids who probably won't appreciate it and would probably have been just as happy with stuff from Tesco.

CatamaranViper · 01/06/2024 09:24

Right, problem solving mode first.

Can your DH get them back in time for the party? If not, do you have time/ingredients/capacity to make more? If not, can you get to a shop to buy replacements?

I would be furious. When he gets home later on, I would be having serious words. He basically stole food from a kids birthday party. There is no way he didn't realise it wasn't for him.

It's basic common sense that you don't take something someone else has made without speaking with them first.

He's a self-centred idiot at best.

Immemorialelms · 01/06/2024 09:24

The idea that any DH would not already have known about the party and not already have had a conversation about what WE were planning to feed the kids and not made his own contribution to games or whatever...just blows my mind.

Bjorkdidit · 01/06/2024 09:23

HappyGoLucky96 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He only took a couple sausage rolls fs not to far I’m sure u can jump to Greggs

If that had been the case, the OP wouldn't have said 'most of it is gone' and she probably could have coped with him taking a couple of sausage rolls given that there was probably plenty for the number of DC attending and they wouldn't all want one (or more) of everything.

OP I'd be raging at this. So selfish and thoughtless. And I bet it's not atypical of his behaviour. But as usual there's the posts about how the OP should have just made/bought more food and how the poor man should be able to eat as much food as he likes in his own home Hmm

Irishmama100 · 01/06/2024 09:23

I would kill him! It’s his child’s birthday. Unless he is as thick as f@@k and doesn’t remember that it is the childs birthday. I am raging for you!

SocksAndTheCity · 01/06/2024 09:23

Placemarking for jam slags.

EweCee · 01/06/2024 09:23

I'm assuming they you've asked him how HE is going to resolve in time for the party?

Withswitch · 01/06/2024 09:23

HappyGoLucky96 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He only took a couple sausage rolls fs not to far I’m sure u can jump to Greggs

I'm sure he can come back from work and bake some replacements

Tel12 · 01/06/2024 09:23

Did he know about the party? What's a jam slag?

SneezedToothOut · 01/06/2024 09:22

Presumably a jam slag is a jam tart.

Persipan · 01/06/2024 09:22

I am fully going to come up with a recipe for jam slags, by the way.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 01/06/2024 09:22

He's a selfish jerk and a liar who doesn't GAF about messing up his kids birthday, that's pretty low.

Berlinlover · 01/06/2024 09:22

What’s a jam slag? If your husband knew your son was having a party today then yes he is very selfish.

SausageRoll2020 · 01/06/2024 09:21

I'm mostly here to find out what a Jam slag is....

Why didn't you just mention you'd done baking for the party? Doesn't seem unreasonable to eat food in one's own kitchen.

LizzieBennett73 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He knew, OP.

Mistressofnone · 01/06/2024 09:21

Selfish idiot. Some men can't seem to control their appetites and play dumb to get away with it. That's a lot of food - did he eat it all?

HappyGoLucky96 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He only took a couple sausage rolls fs not to far I’m sure u can jump to Greggs

Comingupriver · 01/06/2024 09:20

Is he jealous of the kids? How odd.

Changingplace · 01/06/2024 09:20

What an idiot, unless you often do random baking of course it was for the kids, didn’t he know you had a little party happening!

Treacletoots · 01/06/2024 09:19

What a selfish twat. I divorced one just like this.

FOJN · 01/06/2024 09:19

Assume "jam slag" is a jam tart.

Benjaminsniddlegrass · 01/06/2024 09:19

I love the idea of a jam slag too!

But yes your 'D'H is a dick and a selfish one at that.