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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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Gazelda · 01/06/2024 09:34

He knew. He absolutely knew. What a dick.

Also, who else is off to Tesco this morning for some ready made pastry and a pot of jam? Jam slags for tea here tonight! Thanks for the inspiration OP and OP's mum.

Persipan · 01/06/2024 09:33

@Birump ok but then what is a jam ball?!

This is a situation where we need pictures of slags.

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

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Blarn · 01/06/2024 09:32

Copperkryten · 01/06/2024 09:19

Yep, I'm here for the 'jam slag' too

Maybe that's where the confusion came about, jam slags can't be for kids! Grin

But no, that is just incredibly thoughtless. I hope he is at least incredibly apologetic after tealiseing he's made an awful mistake?

YellowHairband · 01/06/2024 09:32

SausageRoll2020 · 01/06/2024 09:21

I'm mostly here to find out what a Jam slag is....

Why didn't you just mention you'd done baking for the party? Doesn't seem unreasonable to eat food in one's own kitchen.

Of course it's unreasonable. Even if he didn't know about the party, why would he think it's acceptable to take almost all of the baking for work? Did he not think his wife might want some for herself, even if he didn't know why she made it?

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:31

I do sometimes do a batch of baking but whenever I do I always say “there are some sausage rolls in the kitchen if you want to take some to work” … I don’t make jam slags etc though, imo they’re obviously for kids.

plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!

(jam slags - like jam tarts but bigger with jam balls on top, my mum used to make them bless her)

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CelesteCunningham · 01/06/2024 09:31

TuesdayWhistler · 01/06/2024 09:28

Did you tell him they're for the playdate?

You played down the party / playdate in your OP, did you play it down with OH as well?

Because of you said,
"We're having party and I've cooked treats for it.."
That's a bit different to,
"Some kids coming for playdate....." No mention of cooking things special.

Either way, he should have checked.

But again, if it's not rare to find baked goods in the kitchen, he may not have realised.

So yeah

Did you tell him?
Do you often bake?
Did he think it just a normal playdate?
What Is HE doing to resolve the issue?

How often do you have that much home baking in your kitchen?

Because I can tell you, it would only be for a party here, not many women are making that many things so their partner can share it out at the water cooler.

XMissPlacedX · 01/06/2024 09:30

He is a dick, I hope he came up with a resolution? What's a Jam Slag?

AFmammaG · 01/06/2024 09:30

I would be raging but I also would have said to him to keep his hands off as they were for x.

Shinyandnew1 · 01/06/2024 09:29

This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

If he’s got form for being an arse, I would have assumed he’d be an arse again tbh.

QualityDog · 01/06/2024 09:29

TheTartfulLodger · 01/06/2024 09:25

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.

Come on! She's having a birthday party for a child then she makes sausage rolls etc. Who has to communicate that to another adult? It's completely obvious. You would have to be married to an absolute simpleton to need instruction not to eat them.

wizarddry · 01/06/2024 09:29

CelesteCunningham · 01/06/2024 09:27

Or even "hey, there's 32 freshly baked treats in the kitchen - are they for any particular purpose, like our child's birthday, or can I have some?"

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I mean honestly I don't get what he thought they were for. Did he think she was opening a bakery?

I agree with you he could ask if he's that dense

Rainbowshit · 01/06/2024 09:28

I would be fuming! No one in my house would eat anything like that without asking.

TuesdayWhistler · 01/06/2024 09:28

Did you tell him they're for the playdate?

You played down the party / playdate in your OP, did you play it down with OH as well?

Because of you said,
"We're having party and I've cooked treats for it.."
That's a bit different to,
"Some kids coming for playdate....." No mention of cooking things special.

Either way, he should have checked.

But again, if it's not rare to find baked goods in the kitchen, he may not have realised.

So yeah

Did you tell him?
Do you often bake?
Did he think it just a normal playdate?
What Is HE doing to resolve the issue?

Keepthosenamesgoing · 01/06/2024 09:28

Why would you have batch baked a bunch of stuff for his work without him asking or ypu telling him?!

Tell.him to bring it home immediately!

DrJump · 01/06/2024 09:28

I bake a fair bit. We have a box in the freezer of free for all baked stuff. But fresh stuff everyone including OH would ask about.

Bernadinetta · 01/06/2024 09:28

TheTartfulLodger · 01/06/2024 09:25

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.

Or he could communicate “ooh these baked goods in the fridge look lovely, is it alright if I take some to work?”

Bjorkdidit · 01/06/2024 09:28

TheTartfulLodger · 01/06/2024 09:25

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.

Never assume anything is also good advice for the DH.

Don't assume that the pile of home baked food is all for you when there's at least two other people in the household and one of them is having a birthday celebration today.

TeeBee · 01/06/2024 09:27

What a greedy, selfish pricks.

CelesteCunningham · 01/06/2024 09:27

TheTartfulLodger · 01/06/2024 09:25

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.

Or even "hey, there's 32 freshly baked treats in the kitchen - are they for any particular purpose, like our child's birthday, or can I have some?"

wizarddry · 01/06/2024 09:26

TheTartfulLodger · 01/06/2024 09:25

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.

Only if he's thick

wizarddry · 01/06/2024 09:26

HappyGoLucky96 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He only took a couple sausage rolls fs not to far I’m sure u can jump to Greggs

She made the originals. With love and graft. She isn't going to want to replace them with Greggs

CelesteCunningham · 01/06/2024 09:26

What an absolute dick. He knew.

ChangeTheProphecy · 01/06/2024 09:25

Has he taken that all in for himself or is he planning on sharing it?! It’s not an excuse either way but that’s a lot for one person to eat. Can you just ask him to duck out of work and bring it all home? He messed up so he’s the one who needs to sort it

TheTartfulLodger · 01/06/2024 09:25

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.