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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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CatamaranViper · 01/06/2024 09:48

JuliesName · 01/06/2024 09:45

Well he's a shitty piece of shit so that's fun.

'Jam slag' is giving me a huge Ick though. I'm cringing for you.

I mean, that's a you problem. Cringe for yourself.

AsMyGranWouldSay · 01/06/2024 09:48

Jam Slags, the Stormy Daniels of culinary eroticism, seducing OP's helpless DH to commit this heinous crime...

I think that this theft can clearly be considered cheating and that he should be banished from the kitchen forever.

He'd be making his own dinner for a loooong time after this. Theft is one thing, being arsey about it rather than apologising is unforgiveable.

andfinallyhereweare · 01/06/2024 09:47

Jam slag new name henceforth

ManchesterGirl2 · 01/06/2024 09:46

JuliesName · 01/06/2024 09:45

Well he's a shitty piece of shit so that's fun.

'Jam slag' is giving me a huge Ick though. I'm cringing for you.

Not something to cringe over! It's probably just a local term for them.

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 09:46

ExasperatedManager · 01/06/2024 09:44

Even if he didn't know, it isn't normal to just take a load of baking that someone else has done without actually asking them first what it was for.

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Of course it’s not, it’s quite frankly bizarre to not check even if you have a partner who does sometimes bake for you/the office. But he would surely have known it was his own child’s party coming up, because if he didn’t it’s truly a reflection of how checked out of family life this man is and a huge problem in itself.

partygate · 01/06/2024 09:46

Tell him to Uber them home if he’s too busy. Utterly selfish and his selfishness must permeate through everything. If he didn’t get them back, I’d be done with ever doing anything again for him (tbf I’d be done with him anyway)

JuliesName · 01/06/2024 09:45

Well he's a shitty piece of shit so that's fun.

'Jam slag' is giving me a huge Ick though. I'm cringing for you.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 01/06/2024 09:45

You think he did this on purpose?! What the hell is the matter with him? What kind of man deliberately steals the food from his child's party? He's clearly a total dick.

Jifmicroliquid · 01/06/2024 09:45

Is he always such a selfish pig?

ExasperatedManager · 01/06/2024 09:44

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 09:39

He’s a dick and he knew.

But this thread is quickly descending into the usual ‘men need to be told every little basic detail about the home life to understand, it’s not totally his fault’. Imagine having such low standards for men you excuse one who takes food from his own child’s party under the guise of ‘how would he know’. How would he not know ffs.

Even if he didn't know, it isn't normal to just take a load of baking that someone else has done without actually asking them first what it was for.

ControlShiftDelete · 01/06/2024 09:43

LutonBeds · 01/06/2024 09:17

I assume ‘jam slag’ is a typo? 🤣 But I’m curious (and hungry) now. And yes, H deffo knew it was for the party.

😂😂 what's a jam slag lol

Persipan · 01/06/2024 09:43

Starlightstarbright3 · 01/06/2024 09:40

I googled it too 🤣… Are you sure they were called jam slags - you didn’t miss hear and she thought it was so funny continued calling them that 🤣

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I mean, it's of a piece with tarts, so I can absolutely imagine it being a regional play on the idea that I just hadn't heard of (which is why I googled it).

CatamaranViper · 01/06/2024 09:42

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

I'd ask him if he was fucking serious.
What a fucking arse.
This just shows how little he thinks about you and DS.

It might not have been a purposeful act of depriving kids of party food, but the fact it didn't even enter his head that not everything in the house is for him shows his entitlement.

ExasperatedManager · 01/06/2024 09:42

Any normal person would have just asked before taking a load of baking that someone else had done. I would be so fucking furious in your shoes. Out of interest, what was his response when you told him that he had fucked over your ds by stealing his party food? And what was his proposed solution?

DarkHollowTree · 01/06/2024 09:42

BlusteryLake · 01/06/2024 09:40

What an absolute prick. Some men just can't help making something about them when their wife is giving attention to someone else. Of course he knew.

This. With bells on.

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:42

Starlightstarbright3 · 01/06/2024 09:40

I googled it too 🤣… Are you sure they were called jam slags - you didn’t miss hear and she thought it was so funny continued calling them that 🤣

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I’ve just messaged her to ask if she made the name up herself as clearly I’m missing something 😂

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mathsAIoptions · 01/06/2024 09:41

He's ruined his own kids party out of jealousy I think. He knew they were for DS, he felt jealous of the love and fact he had done fuck all. Bin

Bjorkdidit · 01/06/2024 09:41

Does your DS like pizza? I'd get delivery pizzas for all the children that your DH can pay for

Yes, that would be a start. Plus a serious conversation with him about thinking about everyone in the household and not just himself and how he should be the one to solve the problem when it was him that fucked up.

GardenGnomeDefender · 01/06/2024 09:41

What a horrible selfish man. He knew and he's decided his lunch is more important than his own child's birthday party and respecting his child and his wife's hard work.

You should make the next food you think he's going to take without asking (knowing it's for your child) unpalatable with hot chilli's or something like that.

Gcsunnyside23 · 01/06/2024 09:41

What an asshole. I'd never cook a thing for him again. Hed starve before I made him something

Starlightstarbright3 · 01/06/2024 09:40

Persipan · 01/06/2024 09:38

Ah, exploding boob buns! Yeah, I've made something similar. It was all a bit CSI.

I absolutely did Google jam slags but didn't find anything like that. (Or, indeed, anything like that. 😂)

Well, if jam slags already exist I will just have to invent jam harlots...

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I googled it too 🤣… Are you sure they were called jam slags - you didn’t miss hear and she thought it was so funny continued calling them that 🤣

BlusteryLake · 01/06/2024 09:40

What an absolute prick. Some men just can't help making something about them when their wife is giving attention to someone else. Of course he knew.

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 09:40

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

Honestly I’d tell him to bring them all back or not bring any of himself back today. Absolutely crossed a line.

user1471538283 · 01/06/2024 09:39

He knew what he was doing and he feels guilty or doesn't care so he's refusing to bring them back. What a spiteful man. All he had to do was ask if they were for anything (rather than you tell him). It's just manners and consideration. And he's done to a child.

Does your DS like pizza? I'd get delivery pizzas for all the children that your DH can pay for.

TuesdayWhistler · 01/06/2024 09:39

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:31

I do sometimes do a batch of baking but whenever I do I always say “there are some sausage rolls in the kitchen if you want to take some to work” … I don’t make jam slags etc though, imo they’re obviously for kids.

plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!

(jam slags - like jam tarts but bigger with jam balls on top, my mum used to make them bless her)

Yep, with these details added, he's got no sausage leg to stand on.

You often bake, but when you do, you tell him what he can have - so he can't plead that defence.
You told him they were for the play date - he can't defend himself there.
The fact he's refusing to bring them back or fix it - that's astounding.

I don't know what you want from the future?
More of this?
Or something else?

He's not going to change is he?
So..