To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

I feel you @Birump I came down this morning to find dh had eaten one of the cupcakes I've made for a fundraiser. 36 cupcakes to go in 6 boxes. So will now be one box down.

Although in his case I do bake a lot, and he said he realised as soon as he bit into it, it wasn't a house cake, and was very sheepish when admitting it this morning.

But I'd be well pissed at your dhs attitude. A mistake is one thing but he's just being an arse.

So you baked 32 items for a party and he took “most” which I presume means more than half? 16+ home baked items he took for his lunch for one day. Honestly what a greedy pig! Utterly selfish. I could understand if he took one of each item (4) but most of them 🤯 is disgraceful when he was well aware of your child’s party/play date happening today.

Obviously, he is a selfish prick.

But more importantly, please give more detail on what jam balls are. Your jam slags are really intriguing and I need further description/photos because I think I want some. Thank you.

I think I'm a bit of a jam slag

No I know you agree, should have been directed at the poster you were quoting as well. Because they seem to be living in some delusional Stepford world…

Remember, that not only has he set out to spoil all of your hard work. But he's sabotaged your DS's party. No good man would do this to his child, or even a child.

Nor to his wife either, but sometimes it's easier to forgive slights against ourselves than against our children.

I would fucking FUMING!!!

@LostTheMarble oh I completely agree. I'm just saying that even if OP had been inconsiderate to not bake extra like that poster suggested, it's still unreasonable for him to take them all.

I just want to pick up on this:

Why would he do it on purpose? If he’s that much of an arsehole you’ve got bigger problems.

He’s obviously a twat but is he thoughtless or malicious. Neither is good but one one much worse.

Then he can order and pay for an Uber to bring them all back to you right now, can’t he, @Birump !

I swear I would be absolutely furious. What a dick move. If it were accidental he’d be doing his best to fix it.

And even if you're right, his response could have been "it would have been nice to have made some extra so it wasn't all needed for the party" rather than just taking almost all of it anyway!

If my partner texted me that whilst I was arranging and making food for our child’s birthday, I’d have replied ‘and it would be nice to have a partner who pulled his weight sorting his own child’s party’. Except in a much ruder way. A pp has it spot on - this is punishment for not thinking about his precious self at all times.

I’ve never heard of a jam slag.

Agree with pp suggesting he Ubers them home.
Or he needs to order appropriate options on uber eats/whoosh/whatever is available. His problem to sort.

Apart from anything else it’s a massive amount of food he’s taken: surely he’s not planning to eat all that? Which makes it anll the clearer that it’s a power play/to undermine you and Ds. I’d also make it clear you expect him to bring it all back: even if it’s to freeze for a future occasion. I’m imagining him sharing it round the office as a mr bountiful…

WTF?

She should have made enough for him to take multiples of each thing to work?

He didn't just have a couple of brownies because he was peckish. He took almost all of it to work.

And even if you're right, his response could have been "it would have been nice to have made some extra so it wasn't all needed for the party" rather than just taking almost all of it anyway!

Thoughtfulness from who?

Surely he could have shown a little thoughtfulness by not eating all his child's party food? Is that too much to expect from a man?

That’s seriously your response to this? 🙄

Standards, please raise yours along with some self respect. If he likes baked goods so much he’s more than welcome to make it himself with extra for the family.

😄count me in.
But we need to know what a jam ball is .

He is just a selfish bastard. Does he have form for this?

I’m sorry he did this. He’s only thinking of himself and not even listening to you even when you told him you were baking for the party.

I would be furious.

I guess he might have had the idea that the OP had been baking for the party and that there were some left over.

Regardless, the only acceptable approach in this situation is to check. I can't fathom how anyone would think it even remotely reasonable to just take stuff without asking.

I would be so, so angry in this situation.

He’s 100% done it on purpose.

Then why ask the question you have in AIBU? You know the answer.
You’d be better off posting in Relationships for advice on leaving, or if you’re not leaving, how to live without him destroying your mental health and your catering plans. What an arsehole.

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Op your husband sounds like an idiot, I would be so mad. It's so obvious that it's for a special occasion and that special occasion isn't for his work. Twat.

Im going against the grain here and going to say that, you should have made more or enough for your DH if you knew that he enjoys your baking. A little thoughtfulness goes a long way and now you're angsting over the baking for the party. 🤷🏻‍♀️