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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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clarepetal · 01/06/2024 10:24

Please can you post a picture of the jam slags? They sound sound amazing.

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 10:23

Hankunamatata · 01/06/2024 10:22

Surely you said to him yesterday. I'm baking food for dc party.

Why would she need to tell him that? How uninvolved is he in family life that he doesn’t know his son is having a party or that a large bake isn’t necessarily for him? Is he also a child who needs his hand batted away from freshly baked cookies?

Hankunamatata · 01/06/2024 10:22

Surely you said to him yesterday. I'm baking food for dc party.

MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 01/06/2024 10:21

Don't hide what he's done, shame the fucker. Tell the other parents what he's done, in fact ring up his folks and tell them too.

People pull shit like this because they know you're angry and they don't care, but they also know you're ashamed of their behaviour so you won't say anything.

Maybe judgement from others will stop the greedy twat in his tracks.

Thepenisblue1 · 01/06/2024 10:19

I'm sorry you married such a thoughtless selfish cunt. But it's never too late to get divorced. What a prick

Chely · 01/06/2024 10:19

If he's done such things before you should have told him not to touch them.

CelesteCunningham · 01/06/2024 10:17

Persipan · 01/06/2024 10:10

He's a keeper!

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And more to the point, so, clearly, are the buns Grin

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 10:16

LongLostSock · 01/06/2024 10:06

He actually suggested this, he'd make a donation and keep the 5 😆

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It’s actually sad to have to point out you have a great partner there. He made a mistake, it happens. He recognised it, he offered to fix it in a reasonable way instantly. Sometimes the embarrassment of making a silly mistake is the hardest to apologise for, but doubling down makes it such a bigger issue and reflects relationship equality as a whole.

ExasperatedManager · 01/06/2024 10:15

What kind of self-centred fucker just assumes that his wife has spent hours slaving over a hot oven to bake a load of treats so that he can play Mr Bountiful with his colleagues?

I just can't get my head around how anyone would just take all that stuff without asking. It's incomprehensible.

xyz111 · 01/06/2024 10:15

I would be fuming. Stand your ground - he either brings them back right now or he doesn't come back at all!

OhHelloMiss · 01/06/2024 10:12

How many kids coming? You said it's NOT a party but a play date

8 kids to a play date?

Whatwaswrongwiththatusername · 01/06/2024 10:12

LonelyBones · 01/06/2024 09:48

Im going against the grain here and going to say that, you should have made more or enough for your DH if you knew that he enjoys your baking. A little thoughtfulness goes a long way and now you're angsting over the baking for the party. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Good lord, no! That just really wouldn't have been nearly as submissive thoughtful of her! She should have known better and stayed up all night making sure her husband and all his work colleagues had plenty of everything to go round. A measly 32? And he only took "most", and not all? I'd say that was mighty cuntish refrained and generous of him, and he was clearly letting you see - through the thoughtlessness of your actions and so that you would come to this conclusion yourself, rather than mansplaining wasting his precious time - so as not to have made the mistake again.

CurlewKate · 01/06/2024 10:11

He was a complete jerk to take stuff like that. There are always posts like this and I hate it when women excuse the selfish entitled behaviour of men. NAMALT

But I do have complete sense of humour failure about "jam slags", I'm afraid. Please tell me your children don't call them that?

Shoxfordian · 01/06/2024 10:11

He's trying to sabotage you, sounds like he's done it before as well
He's not on your team
Really think about this

Persipan · 01/06/2024 10:10

LongLostSock · 01/06/2024 10:06

He actually suggested this, he'd make a donation and keep the 5 😆

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He's a keeper!

Myblindsaredown · 01/06/2024 10:09

That’s a really shitty thing to do. Of course he knew, he just didn’t care.

on a side note, I’ve never heard of a jam slag either.

ALittleBitAhAh · 01/06/2024 10:08

Can we have a pic of your jam slags to see what they are please OP? So intrigued!

P.s husband is a dick

ExasperatedManager · 01/06/2024 10:08

BSky · 01/06/2024 10:01

You are not unreasonable for being fuming. Very unfair of DH. He should def bring the baking home.

You are unreasonable for not posting a photo of jam slags or explaining where the name came from 😆

Well, she could post a picture of the jam slags if her husband hadn't stolen them all!!

Mrsknowitall · 01/06/2024 10:07

I’d be annoyed too if my hubby took jam slags to work 😂

I’d make him bring them back home

sweettomato · 01/06/2024 10:07

So he won't bring them back but expects you to rustle up a replacement?

Does he do things like this often?

LongLostSock · 01/06/2024 10:06

DarkHollowTree · 01/06/2024 10:02

@LongLostSock that's an easy fix 😅 he's buying the first box 😬🤣

He actually suggested this, he'd make a donation and keep the 5 😆

TheChosenTwo · 01/06/2024 10:02

So if he’s taken most which means more than half, he’s planning to eat 5 sausage rolls, 5 scotch eggs, 5 jam things
and 5 brownies? What a greedy bastard! What does he do for a job?

DarkHollowTree · 01/06/2024 10:02

@LongLostSock that's an easy fix 😅 he's buying the first box 😬🤣

BSky · 01/06/2024 10:01

You are not unreasonable for being fuming. Very unfair of DH. He should def bring the baking home.

You are unreasonable for not posting a photo of jam slags or explaining where the name came from 😆

EnjoyingTheSilence · 01/06/2024 10:00

He’s totally in the wrong, the fact he took them all, not just a couple.

I would turn it back on him, and tell him he’s either greedy, selfish or stupid. Which one? Because it’s definitely one of them. And none are a good look.

Don’t let him turn this around on you and say it’s your fault because it isn’t. Not reasonable, intelligent person would do this.