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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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TheLadyOfTheFlowers · 01/06/2024 10:53

Please post a Jam Slag photo @Birump , not sure what pictures I will be faced with if I google...

SlashBeef · 01/06/2024 10:53

Love 'jam slags' 😅 it's like my dad's 'cajun dirty rice' which has morphed into 'filthy depraved wretched rice'.

Incakewetrust · 01/06/2024 10:51

I actually want to punch him on your behalf! What a selfish bastard!!

Also, laughing at jam slags 😂

SomethingFun · 01/06/2024 10:50

What a horrible prick. I hope your dc has a lovely birthday play date/ party, at least his knob of a father is at work so can’t spoil the whole day.

I really fancy a homemade jam tart now 😁

Wheeeeee · 01/06/2024 10:50

Hankunamatata · 01/06/2024 10:22

Surely you said to him yesterday. I'm baking food for dc party.

From OP's second post "plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!"

Ihaveamagicwand · 01/06/2024 10:49

I’d be informing him I would not be baking for him to take into work again. He can buy Mr Kipling!

Testina · 01/06/2024 10:45

Chely · 01/06/2024 10:19

If he's done such things before you should have told him not to touch them.

Oh of course - it’s her fault. 🙄🙄🙄

MistyGreenAndBlue · 01/06/2024 10:45

LonelyBones · 01/06/2024 09:48

Im going against the grain here and going to say that, you should have made more or enough for your DH if you knew that he enjoys your baking. A little thoughtfulness goes a long way and now you're angsting over the baking for the party. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Does "going against the grain" mean "being a contrary arse for the sake of it"?
I see this a lot on here and it nearly always amounts to this.

Trasania · 01/06/2024 10:44

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

He’d either be bringing them back or not coming back if I were you OP. He’s busy? Just like you were busy preparing for a little party yesterday. The thing is if you don’t stand your ground now he’s going to think he can walk all over you in future and help himself to whatever he fancies. It’s entitled and greedy behaviour and he’s showing you he doesn’t give a fuck what you think by refusing to bring them back. He never took a little bit he snaffled the lot which is worse. What an utter cunt.

Therealjudgejudy · 01/06/2024 10:40

What a greedy selfish wanker.

This is not something you put up with

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 01/06/2024 10:37

Thepenisblue1 · 01/06/2024 10:19

I'm sorry you married such a thoughtless selfish cunt. But it's never too late to get divorced. What a prick

Absolutely.

rinseandrepeat1 · 01/06/2024 10:37

I would be fuming OP. What have you replied to him?

P.s. also here to see a picture of a jam slag 🤣 they sound nice to be fair!

Elodea · 01/06/2024 10:37

Obvs he's a prize idiot - who would be so selfish as to scupper his own child's party?

I'd assumed jam slags was a typo for slabs but now I just have more questions! Can you explain about the jam balls? Would you share the recipe?!

Davros · 01/06/2024 10:36

I'm so excited, jam slags are a real thing!
He's a greedy twat

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 01/06/2024 10:36

What kind of person deliberately sabotages his child’s party? I would be incandescent with rage. If I didn’t leave him he would get fuck all on his next birthday.

xyz111 · 01/06/2024 10:33

Foxblue · 01/06/2024 10:27

I just cant really wrap my head around being in a relationship with someone who would do this deliberately, but even if they didn't do it deliberately, wouldn't be like 'oh bollocks, I've cooked up so sorry - let me see if I can duck out/another solution'
It's threads like this where I read them and think why do some people treat their partners worse than they would a friend?? Isn't your partner meant to be your favourite person or at least one of them? I'd be gutted to think id put my partner out like this!

I agree. I couldn't imagine living with someone like this.

ExtraOnions · 01/06/2024 10:33

I’ll do anything for a pot of Bonne Maman Strawberry Preserve

I am the Jam Slag …

PuppyMonkey · 01/06/2024 10:33

Stupid twat. Where does he work? Is it perhaps somewhere with a reception that you can ask to pass on a message for Twatface to bring the sausage rolls and jam slags home ASAP as they were for your child’s party. Could they announce this on a tannoy, preferably?

bouquetofpheasants · 01/06/2024 10:33

HappyGoLucky96 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He only took a couple sausage rolls fs not to far I’m sure u can jump to Greggs

Or he can jump to Greggs, don’t you think?

paulhollywoodshairgel · 01/06/2024 10:32

Selfish dick. Although jam slag has given me a much needed laugh this morning!!

TheLadyOfTheFlowers · 01/06/2024 10:31

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

Why has he done it on purpose? What a weird (and pretty callous to your own kid) thing to do

And he isn't "carting" them - the twonk is bringing them back

DwightDFlysenhower · 01/06/2024 10:29

But I do have complete sense of humour failure about "jam slags", I'm afraid. Please tell me your children don't call them that?

Until I was well into my teens, I only knew the word slag in reference to heaps, so I don't think I'd even think about it. I definitely didn't make the association about tarts until the Terry Pratchett book where he mentioned baking that started off as Maids of Honour but turned into tarts!

If he'd taken a sausage roll for his lunch I'd have thought he was a bit thoughtless, but doing this on purpose is really unkind.

Foxblue · 01/06/2024 10:27

I just cant really wrap my head around being in a relationship with someone who would do this deliberately, but even if they didn't do it deliberately, wouldn't be like 'oh bollocks, I've cooked up so sorry - let me see if I can duck out/another solution'
It's threads like this where I read them and think why do some people treat their partners worse than they would a friend?? Isn't your partner meant to be your favourite person or at least one of them? I'd be gutted to think id put my partner out like this!

TootGoesTheOwl · 01/06/2024 10:27

Selfish prick, he's 100% done that on purpose.
It the 'it's in my house so it's mine' mentality....my husband is similar but not as bad, definitely not on this scale!
I wouldn't bake another thing for him, ever.

Nicebloomers · 01/06/2024 10:24

Suspect I am a bit of a jam slag.

but yes, what a selfish arse he is.