To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

Ok, does he have form for things like this? I'm curious when you say he's done it on purpose, why he would do this?

I presume a slag is a step beyond a tart? I can't say I would be thrilled if my kids came home from a party talking about jam slags...😬

Everyone on the thread does, as well as the OP.
You might want to read it.

OP, message him back right now and tell him he brings it all back in perfect condition or he will regret it. If he has expensive alcohol it will all be poured down the sink - or whatever else will bother him.
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@mathsAIoptions

You think he took the baking to do that?

You think there was any thinking other than "how can I fuck up my wife's day and kids party?" going on here. Quaint.

Does your mum call them slags as they look like boobies? Does she know you use the term 🤣🤣

He's trampled all over the OP's time and effort for their child and responded contemptuously that he's too busy to fix the mess he's made (the implication being that the OP's time is less important so she can just run around sorting everything out so their DC has a good day).

I'm afraid that is exactly the sort of combination that would make the red mist descend for me.. I'd want to make him suffer. If someone inconveniences me and doesn't give a damn, I'd want them to pay. Itching powder on shirt collars or the adult equivalent.

OP, does he have any hobbies? Is he into running? If so, maybe it's time for his running kit to go missing for a bit?

He was thinking with his stomach rather than his head.

Phoning the boss would make no sense whatsoever. Why the hell would he or she give a shit about OP’s baking? He’s a boss not a bloody nursery teacher! I suspect that she has oh about 500 things, that are more important to deal with than the OP’s petty domestic squabbles.

I don't even know how he could repair this to be honest. Why are so many men jealous of their kids?

I hope you show this thread to him once you've packed his bags OP.

This is so very weird. Does he not like his child? It would be genuinely worrying and sinister to me.

I need resolution about the jam ball@Birump .
And while I agree with a lot of the comments about the husband here and attitudes to men in general - life does have nuance, yes it's a bad situation being described but hey, maybe he has compensating features.

Slightly psycho?

Unfortunately your husband is a selfish twat, who feels his own time and easy life are more important than yours (and his kids)…

Can you post a link to what you think a jam slag is? I'm very curious about this giant jam tart with extra jam 😋

Personally I'd be going up to his cupboard, fetching his favourite t-shirts and letting the kids "decorate" them with marker pens during the party. Maybe they could cut them up and make patchwork with them? After all, you "didn't know" that he would mind, did you?

I'd also be shipping out any special food of his in the kitchen to the food bank.

Excessive maybe, but I'm afraid his response would send me slightly psycho. Who takes a whole load of baked goods that are very obviously not for them? And then responds with anything other than an "I know, I was out of order" and a grovelling apology.

In the meantime, sell some of his stuff on Vinted and order some pizzas and fancy ice cream?

Can he send you some money to order the kids a takeaway.

How would it be tempting. On what planet is the ops food or their food anything to do with the boss.

the boss isn’t the parent and they aren’t kids telling tales.

He thinks he's more important than you and your DS.

Does he also expect you to wait on him hand and foot when he's ill but when you're ill you just have to get on with things as he's too busy?

How much did he actually take OP?

I mean, it's shitty to take any when it was obvious (and you told him) that you were baking for the party. But you said he took most of it?

Taking most of it would be extremely shitty even if there wasn't a party, surely he would take one or two of each thing and leave the rest for you and your child to enjoy.

Taking most of it is extremely selfish and greedy.

Your H is a selfish prick. And you said he has done something like this previously? He has no respect for you or your DC. None.

He's not acting like an adult. I was actually going to suggest asking a colleague to bring them, as he refused, but only if OP knows his colleagues. Phoning the boss would only make sense if he'd claimed he couldn't leave work to bring them back.
The point would be to show him he can't get away with his behaviour as it's socially not condoned, showing there's support for his wife and child in the wider community he lives and works in.
In some cultures it's more usual, involving the wider community in issues that are seen as private in the UK.

It's also vengeful so can be satisfying :)

I doubt anyone is seriously suggesting ringing his boss but it must be extremely tempting.

Considering some of the many bonkers suggestions that I’ve seen on MN(Creme Egg) I’d have no trouble believing it and no it wouldn’t be tempting for me because the only person I’d be humiliating would be me.

This is a strange comment.