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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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eastegg · 10/06/2024 13:59

VoiceOfReason3 · 09/06/2024 10:57

Whilst your husband was a little unthoughtful and arguably selfish to take some of the baking, why didn't you make a few extra for his lunch and tell him you had. That would have been an incredibly nice thing to do that wouldn't have taken anymore time. There's an argument that you have also been a little selfish and unthoughtful here. Also posting a relatively trivial personal issue on a public forum in order that your anger gets justified by other people with confirmation bias is not really the best way to go about things and is rather unfaithful to your relationship. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if your husband took to forums to embarrass you every time you make a mistake

😂😂😂Nice one.

Just one question, if this post is for real. Why have you changed all the baking, as stated in the OP, to some of the baking. It’s an important feature of the scenario. If it was just some of the baking, many of the responses may have been different. Why have you changed all to some?

Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 10/06/2024 12:53

VoiceOfReason3 · 09/06/2024 10:57

Whilst your husband was a little unthoughtful and arguably selfish to take some of the baking, why didn't you make a few extra for his lunch and tell him you had. That would have been an incredibly nice thing to do that wouldn't have taken anymore time. There's an argument that you have also been a little selfish and unthoughtful here. Also posting a relatively trivial personal issue on a public forum in order that your anger gets justified by other people with confirmation bias is not really the best way to go about things and is rather unfaithful to your relationship. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if your husband took to forums to embarrass you every time you make a mistake

Ha ha ha ha ha ha. Love the wind up gobshite posts.

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 10/06/2024 12:41
JamSlag · 10/06/2024 12:03

Skybluepinky · 10/06/2024 09:28

Just make more or go and buy some, really not worth arguing about.

Good idea! Those poor party guests have been waiting to be fed for over a week.

Skybluepinky · 10/06/2024 09:28

Just make more or go and buy some, really not worth arguing about.

pinkyredrose · 09/06/2024 22:02

Spottingtwerps · 09/06/2024 18:46

I think you've missed the satire in Laurmolonlabe's post and got yourself tied up in something else.

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I think I did!

Spottingtwerps · 09/06/2024 18:46

pinkyredrose · 09/06/2024 17:31

What? How do you know the background of anyone posting?!

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I think you've missed the satire in Laurmolonlabe's post and got yourself tied up in something else.

pinkyredrose · 09/06/2024 17:31

Laurmolonlabe · 09/06/2024 07:32

I didn't realise unmarried men were allowed on Mumsnet.

What? How do you know the background of anyone posting?!

JuliaLilian · 09/06/2024 16:26

Read the post!! Why should she have to go to Greggs to replace delicious homemade things?? FFS - are you taking his side?

QueensOfTheVolksAge · 09/06/2024 15:54

@VoiceOfReason3 I've been trying and trying to tag you, in between all my baking for men that I must do in order to be nice and thoughtful and to know my place, but sadly it says "voiceofreason" and not your actual name, "voiceofmisogynisticfossil3". Ah well, hopefully you'll see my post, hope you don't get any of your wife's sausage roll crumbs on your screen.

Queenbeeme · 09/06/2024 15:41

Sounds like the baiting tactics used by narcissists, particularly covert narcissists. Married to one for 24 years and never did a special occasion go by without being spoilt in some way by him

Sillysausage65 · 09/06/2024 13:00

Can i just say, I am in adoration of the term 'Jam Slags' and will forever call them that now

Spottingtwerps · 09/06/2024 12:54

VoiceOfReason3 · 09/06/2024 10:57

Whilst your husband was a little unthoughtful and arguably selfish to take some of the baking, why didn't you make a few extra for his lunch and tell him you had. That would have been an incredibly nice thing to do that wouldn't have taken anymore time. There's an argument that you have also been a little selfish and unthoughtful here. Also posting a relatively trivial personal issue on a public forum in order that your anger gets justified by other people with confirmation bias is not really the best way to go about things and is rather unfaithful to your relationship. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if your husband took to forums to embarrass you every time you make a mistake

What a counsel of perfection you preach? In order to avoid a husband's future thoughtlessness the wife should make 'extra', so said husband doesn't take what there is for his own child's birthday celebration?

The time, effort, planning, purchasing of ingredients etc. It could all have taken more time and effort and why in addition to doing all the planning and preparation should OP be thinking of what kind and thoughtful things she should be doing for her husband? Where's his kindness and thoughtfulness in this? What a saint you must be, with all the time and money in the world.

Allshallbewell2021 · 09/06/2024 12:27

This thread is so resilient!

Classic MN

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 09/06/2024 12:22

Over a week later, lots of replies, this thread is still going and...
the Op @Birump didn't come back !

Bellyblueboy · 09/06/2024 11:11

VoiceOfReason3 · 09/06/2024 10:57

Whilst your husband was a little unthoughtful and arguably selfish to take some of the baking, why didn't you make a few extra for his lunch and tell him you had. That would have been an incredibly nice thing to do that wouldn't have taken anymore time. There's an argument that you have also been a little selfish and unthoughtful here. Also posting a relatively trivial personal issue on a public forum in order that your anger gets justified by other people with confirmation bias is not really the best way to go about things and is rather unfaithful to your relationship. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if your husband took to forums to embarrass you every time you make a mistake

I think this is must be satire!

Women know your place😂😂😂

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 09/06/2024 11:10

VoiceOfReason3 · 09/06/2024 10:57

Whilst your husband was a little unthoughtful and arguably selfish to take some of the baking, why didn't you make a few extra for his lunch and tell him you had. That would have been an incredibly nice thing to do that wouldn't have taken anymore time. There's an argument that you have also been a little selfish and unthoughtful here. Also posting a relatively trivial personal issue on a public forum in order that your anger gets justified by other people with confirmation bias is not really the best way to go about things and is rather unfaithful to your relationship. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if your husband took to forums to embarrass you every time you make a mistake

Good grief. Voice of Reason? I think not.

TheLadyOfTheFlowers · 09/06/2024 11:09

why didn't you make a few extra for his lunch and tell him you had also known as "enabling" his selfish behaviour

That would have been an incredibly nice thing to do yes OP, #bekind ... as well as planning the children's party, organising who is coming, getting the place ready, cooking for the kids etc etc - "think of the children little man, poor darling"

just off to barf at the rest of @VoiceOfReason3 's post 😂

VoiceOfReason3 · 09/06/2024 10:57

Whilst your husband was a little unthoughtful and arguably selfish to take some of the baking, why didn't you make a few extra for his lunch and tell him you had. That would have been an incredibly nice thing to do that wouldn't have taken anymore time. There's an argument that you have also been a little selfish and unthoughtful here. Also posting a relatively trivial personal issue on a public forum in order that your anger gets justified by other people with confirmation bias is not really the best way to go about things and is rather unfaithful to your relationship. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if your husband took to forums to embarrass you every time you make a mistake

LuckySantangelo35 · 09/06/2024 09:33

DH001 · 09/06/2024 05:28

Get over yerself… just make some more… bloody women, always moaning!

@DH001

haha

LuckySantangelo35 · 09/06/2024 09:32

howfartospar · 08/06/2024 22:17

If he's done something like this before I'd have put a sign on it saying do not touch!

@howfartospar

do you not think she’s other stuff to be doing other than making signs for her greedy husband ?

LeopardsDontChangeTheirSpots · 09/06/2024 08:58

Also have an OH who helps himself to baked things (but wouldn't in this scenario or he would at least fix the issue).
If he has a habit of taking stuff to work without asking I'd be inclined to make some more and add chilli oil, or garlic or something unpleasant that will not be obvious until bitten. I'd hide the ones I'd made but leave the 'experimental' ones obvious. And then I'd wait....
And I'd probably do it several times and randomly too until the lesson is learned.
Yes. It's petty, but sometimes communication doesn't seem to sink in.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 09/06/2024 08:31

SheeraPower · 08/06/2024 22:11

Of course it doesn’t let him off but that’s how they are. They don’t think about others just themselves. Clear enough? Men are idiots. Clearer???

You're missing the word 'some' here. My Dad wouldn't have done this. My husband, son, brother, nephew and all the other men I know well wouldn't have done this. Only a totally self-obsessed numpty would do this.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 09/06/2024 08:19

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MinnieMountain · 09/06/2024 07:48

Who’s going to check @Laurmolonlabe ? Anyway, I expect DH001 was being silly.